I feel like dying

Hang in there. Its only a temoraly feeling. I know because Ive had days where my mom treats me like crap to and I feel like dying. But it dosnt last and it will get better just give it time. Also tell your mom what your feeling im sure she will stop and try at least to be a bit nicer to her if you tell her what you put down here.

Most of us have had these stressful feelings toward our parents...It is normal and I know right now you think your mom doesn't understand you...Just try to give it time...I had the same problem with my mother too and things did get better...Good luck...

When I was your age, I felt exactly the way you feel. It is hard for us to understand when our parents do not seem to see our efforts and we always seem to look bad to them. It hurts when you know you are not appreciated. I had since realized that people like us, those who get to help more with the house chores and who are indispensable to the parents, are the ones who are usually taken for granted and seemingly unappreciated. Maybe it is because they have gotten so used to our indispensable presence. Besides, they tend to rely more on us and expect a lot from us that when we cannot accomplish the simple things that they want done right away because we thought it was impossible for us to do, they get angry. It's just like we have spoiled them with our can do and will do attitude. But don't worry, it doesn't mean your mother does not love you anymore. She's just used to your being indispensable that she failed to see that you are stressed already. Someday, you will feel that they have actually seen your real worth and that they appreciated everything you did for them. Just hold on. Things like that just pass away.

hi ayumi-chan! that sounded really frustrating. i feel like that too at times whenever me and my mother have a disagreement. but everything gets better after our heads cool off. i think that was a small thing and it doesn't deserve to be treated like a big deal. although i really understand how you felt. i sometimes feel like my mother doesn't love me too. i guess that's jealousy towards my siblings. i try to get over it because it won't serve me anything. i hope everything is better now with you and your mother.

ayumitakashi moms and daughters do not always get along specially when girls are in their teens. I sometimes thought my mom mean too and yet she was always there for me when I needed her. when I got older I realized why sometimes she got short with me and then I could laugh about it. She just saw things one way and you the other. perhaps she was already out of sorts over something that had nothing to do with you and she took it out on you. moms sometimes do that.I think you need to talk this out with her and tell her just what you have told us.good luck and a hug from me for you. okay?

When we are hurt by the people we love the most, we always react the way you are in this situation. It may be difficult, but next time your mother asks you to do something you think is a waste of time, try calmly and sincerely, asking her why she thinks what she is requesting will help the situation. Your reply cannot be made out of frustration, because it will only serve to evoke a negative response from her. For example, in the situation you describe, you could have calmly or even jokingly said, "With all these people coming and going, we'll probably be mopping this floor all day. Do you really think it's best to do it now, or should we wait until they leave?" If she was making her request out of a feeling of frustration, you would have given her an opportunity to pause and rethink the situation. This could have difused the problem before it progressed into a major source of exasperation for you. As far as being sensitive is concerned, and as painful as it may seem at this moment, don't let it concern you. You may not be aware of it now, but your sensitivity is a powerful gift. It helps you to empathize with others. You will grow into someone who will be a great source of comfort and understanding to those around you because of it. You may already find yourself in situations where this is true.

As a mother now, and not far off from my teenage days, I can see both sides of the argument. I constantly make the argument to my husband and kids that when my says to do something it means now...not later. You're 19 right? I would say the best way to resolve tension and things like that with your mother is stating your reason to NOT do it at that moment. You do make a good argument and I would have just told her I'd do it once everyone is done walking on it. But it also depends on HOW dirty it is and if people are coming over I'm sure she just wants it nice. But if you don't state your point, you shouldn't get upset too much. Mothers can be tough, mine doesn't make much sense most of the time either. My sister would just say do as your told and I always wanted to argue if it didn't make sense. Its just the way I was and that might be the way you are as well. Your sister is 13, she's old enough to clean as well and will have LESS homework then you at most times. Next time stand up to your mom. I don't think she should have given a cold tone to you but I feel sometimes the best way to resolve and move on is to express your feels. Its good to tell them here but it wouldn't help the relationship between you and your mother. Most likely something like that would happen again and you'll end up feeling the same way. So talk things out and both of you can figure out a mature adult solution to disagreements. And on the point of your mom doing it. I only give attitude if its my husband because hell..he knows better! lol But just make sure you say you'll do it, BUT at another time and then state your point. Hopefully she'll understand. Maybe your mother just doesn't think like that, so you can help her.

i have had these situations in my life to. for like 2 weeks i was so stressed and got so sick i went to the hospital. just work through it and it will get better. life goes on and the problem will go away. your mom is probably just stressed to and is venting it on you.