My maid is going home already and she will no longer come back.
By nilanym
@nilanym (184)
Philippines
May 3, 2008 10:28am CST
I got two babies. The boy is 2 years old and his sister is 1 year old. My maid is going home and she will no longer come back. My husband is thinking of getting a new maid. But my issue is, "Another character to handle." Wheww.. Oh my, I guess I have to struggle on my own on how to take care of the two...
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5 responses
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
3 May 08
You will be just fine on your own. You don't need a maid, you just need faith that you can handle things without the help of someone else. You have a 1 and 2 year old. I was in the same position, without a husband, and I did just fine without the help of anyone else. It will take time to adjust to it, if your used to someone else being there all the time, but you can do it. And, to be honest, you need to do this not only for you but for your children to. You will bond with them so much more without having someone else there all the time. good luck and keep us posted on how things are going. God bless
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
6 May 08
i'm so glad that you are figuring things out and knowing that you can do this. good luck to you and if you need anything you have tons of people supporting you here on mylot. God bless
@Shawchert (1094)
• United States
3 May 08
Erm, I'm a single mother, and I have to take care of my son by myself, my sister has 3 and she does the same. Which means I'm sure you can handle your boys quite fine. Just take it one day at a time, besides why waste money on a maid when you can had the joys of being with your children yourself?
@nilanym (184)
• Philippines
3 May 08
Thanks for the response! Your right. I think I can handle my 2 kids. :) Besides having a maid sometimes makes me feel that I have 3 children to take care off. You know, my maid sometimes makes me feel that I am the maid. Working the task that she ought to do. And sometimes I still have to tell her what to do. And I don't like that.
@Shawchert (1094)
• United States
3 May 08
then there's no need to worry about having another maid if fyou don't want to deal with what you did with the first :)
@mycheang74 (75)
• Malaysia
3 May 08
If you are not working and you believe you can handle your babies, then a maid is not necessary It will save your money and reduce your stress of handling "someone". I'm working freelance, so a maid will definately provide a good helping hand. So far my maid is ok, she is a babysitter back in her own country, so she is well-trained to handle baby.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
3 May 08
why would this be a struggle? Most of the women in the world raise their children , have a job and do the house work as well, having a maid is just not in the budget for them. Also because you are quite young I would think it would be difficult to get some one to listen to you even if you are paying them, Any one who is older than you would think I know better and any one who is younger than you would think I don't have to listen to her. I am hot trying to be difficult, it is just that until you can run your home and look after your children by your self you can not tell someone else how to do it.In this instance experience is mandatory not for your maid but for you.
@Swaana (1205)
• India
3 May 08
You are not alone Nilanym, I am also facing the same problem. I had the problem till last september now I have a real good maid but she comes part time and helps me in the household works. So I am releived in that way and I could take care of the kids and their needs.
But yes as you say another charecter to handle. We have to learn them before they lean us and if you are unlucky it might be that she could boss around, and you end up doing lots more ( I had a similar experience with one of my maids).
But if you plan your work properly, managing two kids, with a part time maid is very easy. Try it out. There is not struggle at all, just we need to sacrifice some of our early morning sleep.
