what should i do if my close friend cheat me?

um a friend getting a girlfriend isnt cheating on you.. unless you were in love with each other and in a relationship.. id think that you getting angry over him having a girlfrend.. regardless of the fact he didnt have one, kinda shows the reasons WHY he pretended to have one. you sound rather suffocating and possessive. give your friend some breathing room, and youll prolly be able to work through this if yer as close as you think you were.

Hi Yangjiaju Sorry for this it is very painful when it comes from friends. But i think u should let him and be away from him because i think he will try it again

Were you lovers??

its really sad. actually you were not able to find out his true self. you took him a sbest friend but he behaved in some bad way to you. it happens some tiem. may be you have got the lesson in life.

I believe this is a case of you having more than just friend feelings for him and because you didn't speak up and tell him he is gone, with out ever knowing how you really felt, and it is entirely possible you were coming on far to strong for him and he needed to escape because he could see what was happening. The only thing you can do now is let him go and learn from this.

Well, it is you who knows if really your friend cheated you or not. Maybe he has reasons for doing it. I think its better to talk to him, I am certain that you could get away with this problem. Good luck!

Oh that's sad and mean and a lie too. Why did he has to lie to you if he just want to be out? Why not ask you instead.. Anyway, I have a very close friend too. I cut the communication almost 5 mos. now since I learned that she lied to me about something. I was hurt and I cried actually. I was mad and I don't know how to cope. But now I can't just feel anything, I just don't want to care about it because there's no use of doing so. I just let the issue die itself inside my heart. From then, I tried to stop the communication between us but not too obvious. I don't feel any madness now actually. It's all ok with me now. But I just don't wanna talk to her -- for now. Time will come.

the best thing to do is that you shud make him friend again and then you have to cheat him/her then make your friend realize that how you felt and be friends again

Yangjiaju, One thing I ould recommend you do first is not to feel bad about yourself, because you did nothing wrong and you offered him your friendship and shared yourself with him. It is natural to feel hurt and sad but let this not close your heart at such a nice beautiful young age. Keep your heart open but do not be vulnerable to words, actions of others.... What I have come to understand is that people will often lie out of fear. When you are in fear , we do strange things that are not aligned with truth. maybe if you look at it this way and see that there is something happening within him that he could not share with you.It is about him and not about you. You can always call him when you feel better and , ask him what happened as you do not understand ..his experience will strengthen you to become your best friend. for Flamenca

Your post is a bit confusing. You both are guys so unless you are gay then this could not be considered cheating and since he said he had a girlfriend, I am assuming that that isn't the case. It sounds as if he lied to you and that is what is bothering you. You say that you were great friends. If that were me, I would call this person up and tell them what I know and ask them straight up why he lied to me? Even if the answer hurt, I would want to know. My friends mean so much to me that if one of them were to suddenly do something like this, I would assume that I did something wrong to offend them or hurt them. I would at least have to try to straighten things out between us. I think you should talk to him.

First of all you have to accept that your close friend cheated.Then think of some solutions towards making over that loss.We have to start forgetting those painful incidents one by one. My experience is that we shouldn't get in to depression over the break up. Before making friends with anyone we have to set ourselves certain bench marks for having a friend and how much we have to be open to them. Then carry on. I don't think unconditional friendship exists even these days.

Maybe at that time he just wanted to be alone? Sometimes we want to be alone for awhile without having to "serve" anybody else even the closest ones. Maybe he didn't know how to tell you that. He thought you might be offended, and he didn't want you to think that he doesn't need your company anymore? Come on, it's not a big deal. If you value your friendship enough, you both can settle it well then.

I think may be u have become over possesive and he is not liking that, so he just move away by giving u a fake excuse. Just talk to him what he did not like in ur behavior, may be this can sort out the things.

I am sorry to hear that,but what I want to tell you is that I will not feel angry and heart-hurt.Since you are close friends,you should think first whether what you have done hurt him before,if not ,try again,if not too,that is ,more due to him,communicate with him peacefully and give him courage and strength to explain the reasons ,trying to make him feeling nothing but a sercious mistake and if corrected,nothing is bad and everything is OK,your friendship as the same . From what I have said above,you can see I mean any cheating between close friends is claused by two ,if happens,just think about yourself and get ready to talk with your close friend harmoniously,then OK. But it is general,not all ,if not ,just give up and it might be the best choice.

I guess it depends on what sort of a relationship you had, sometimes a friendship even a very close friendship, one has to step back just a little if your friend gets a relationship, there is a difference between a friendship and a relationship so I guess it depends on what you had, it is a shame if you have lost a good friend because they have a new relationship, there is room for both it is just the a relationship takes no.1 spot sometimes...I hope you can rekindle your friendship as they are important...

if he had a GF then it is okay.. not cheating for me. i think you are more of concerned about him lying to you that he have one but later on you found out he has none and just used it as an alibi to not be with you. i think your friend though just wanted to have a time for himself without you.. you both could be spending too much time with each other.. talk to him and tell him to be honest with you and if he wants to be alone, that is okay just be honest with each other..

if he said that he wants to stay with his girl and you are just a friend then that is not cheating. you can only accuse him of cheating if he has a relationship with you, i mean if you and him are inlove. when you said that you are (just) friends then he didnt cheat. he dump you or finished your friendship, that maybe the term to use but not cheating. now if you dont like to speak to him then that is natural, you are hurt. but i am sure he did that to you because he does not want to talk to you too. find another friend. he is not worth. you can still find another friend who will be honest with you.

Hi yangjiaju, It sounds like you and your friend were very close. If he didn't have a girlfriend, he must have had another reason for not wanting to be with you, but he should have told you the truth. It is very difficult when something comes between you and a good friend. I hope that things work out well for both of you. Blessings.