personal space

There was a time that I actually told my mother to back off, & my sister as well but at different times... for that matter, I even told my girl-friend to back off few times... Now they know better to get too close when they see me act sudden way... For me, it's not just an arms length, it's in a general premisses of me... But I know that can be little too much so I try not to make a big deal of it... When I was really peed off, my girl-friend was trying to make me feel better by talking & kidding with me... I told her that I really appriciate her trying, but now is not the right time... I will cool off & then come & find her... She was understanding enough to give me some space... But I was really annoyed at her that she was sitting in a same room as I was in... It sounds horrible, especially when all she was trying to do was help... So I just let it go & told her I'm sorry... Then I told her I need to go for a walk... When I need to be alone, I need to be ALONE!!! In everyday situation, I'd say about 10 feet radius would be a good start for my personal space...

Everyone has there individual sense of personal space. For some, like you, people need to stand back a little. There are others who need more than that, and yet others who feel the need to be close. There can be many reasons for this, but none-the-less, everyone needs to respect those boundaries of others. For me it is a very individual thing. I get a certain feeling when around new people. Sometimes I feel no need to space myself from the person and may offer a hug or handshake within minutes. Other times I feel uncomfortable if they step within a couple feet of me. It really depends. If a person is getting to close, I try to speak with my body language. I'll turn away from them, step back, or walk away. If that doesn't work, I'll verbally enforce my boundary, and tell them I'm uncomfortable.

I don't like anyone to be in my personal space. That means that I want them at least a arm's length away from them. I am a outspoken person and I don't hesitate to let someone know if they are in my space. The people that know me well do not invade my space. They are not offended by it either because they themselves don't like anyone getting up close to them. I think it is a matter of courtsey to not invade another's space. We all should respect each other and honor their wishes on that aspect.

I am not really comfortable with strangers who get too close. I do not really feel comfortable when they get too close physically or in other ways. Like there was one time when a friend of mine introduced me to her new friend. That new friend started bombarding me questions that not even my close friends would ask. Most of the questions were too personal and I was not really going to answer those questions considering that I really do not know him. I told him that his questions were way too personal. I also told him that I would not answer his questions. In another instance, my boyfriend and I were out with some friends. One of our friends saw a friend and signalled him to join us. For some reason, he sat beside me and put his arm on my shoulders (with my boyfriend sitting on my right side). I was uncomfortable as he was obviously drunk and I DO NOT know him. I just knew he was my friend's friend. I had to move away from him without a word. Noticing that I was uncomfortable, one of our guy friends introduced him to one of our girl friends. With that, he stood up from where he sat and moved over to where the girl was.

Being too close alwaqys makes me feel strange ,except my family member.For me ,personal space mwans a lot ,i love to enjoy something myself,maybe just a cup of hot coffee,or a moving love movie.I am alone,but not lonely.