My friend's 15-year-old son hit on me!

United States
May 4, 2008 3:58pm CST
Seriously, I was over at my friend's house last night, and their 15-year-old son was making the moves (looking at me in a way, sitting close to me, making comments - nothing too foward.) It was kind of weird considering I'm 29 and married, and my husband goes with me most days to their house. Would you mention this to the parents? Should I say anything to the kid?
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@rsa101 (38126)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Well I guess you try to tell him that you are offended by his actions. if that doesn't work at all then its time to tell his parents about it. I guess that'll stop her from doing it.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Would you mention this to the parents? The son has doing nothing obvious right and has said nothing I wouldn't do anything at this point if you feel uncomfortable I would continue to take my hubby with me when I go. Thier son like all 15 yr old boys is probably attracted to a pretty woman. But as long as he isn't making ovious advances I would let it be. Should I say anything to the kid? Only say something to the kid if he come out and does something that is an advance and their is no other way to take it and it's not subtle. Other than that just brush it off and keep taking your hubby with you. It most likely will pass.
• United States
22 Jun 08
Well, now that some time has passed, I'm not too worried. We'll talk, but he's not made any advances. Some of our friends ratted on him for hitting on me when my husband wasn't there, so it's pretty out in the open now.
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• United States
23 Jun 08
Well I'm glad the situation is taken care of and that your friends ratted out on him.
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
5 May 08
Rather than taking this seriously... I would approach it as something very funny... and would tell his mother in a joking way "I think your son has a crush on me". Like that she knows. And if she think it is funny... let her deal with it and follow her lead. The worse thing you could do is not to tell his mother and talk to him in private. It makes you an accomplice... and soon or later... he'll talk and you are going to be the bad guy with your friend and your husband for keeping it a secret. The best way to deal with this is for his mother to make fun of him about it. It will have the effect of a cold shower and he will be over it. It is perfectly natural for 15 year old boys to have a crush on an older woman. But they rarely act on it... even so... these days they grow up a lot faster.
• United States
5 May 08
You know, that's a really good idea! I told my husband about it, and we laughed about it. I think I was totally dumbfounded by the whole thing! I'll talk with his mom the next time we get together, and see how she takes it. My fear though is that she won't believe me, and it will become something of an issue. I don't know though - I don't have kids, so I really can't relate the feelings a mom may have about such things.
• India
5 May 08
Just be sure, he really is trying to hit on you, just observe and the next time he does it, just confront him. And if he does say yes , just go ahead and say its not gonna work and he better stop doing it. And if he just shys away and denies it, just leave the matter, im sure he wont do it again. Talking to him is better than talking to his parents.
• United States
5 May 08
Well, if it happens again, I've thought about just saying, "Are you trying to hit on me?" and just see where that leads. But, it's all just so weird! I mean, what is he thinking?! It would even be ILLEGAL to return affection to a 15-year-old!
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
5 May 08
I think its cute! Boys will be boys! If you had responded he would have been scared sh!tless! You need to see the humor in it! No! don't tell anyone. Actually its a Huge compliment for an "older" woman like your self. Treasure it! Smile at it if you like, but don't embarrass the Teenager who was just trying his rather recently acquired Manliness out on you!
• United States
5 May 08
You're probably right. It was just so shocking because a year ago, seriously, he was just a kid! It really caught me by suprise! I honestly think he'd be mortified if I brought it up! BUT at the same time, if it continues, I think I'll have to mention to him that it's not the best idea to flirt with married women. My husband thinks it's funny, but not every husband would!
• United States
4 May 08
haha it's funny, well it's a compliment coming from the kid, but you probably should tell the parents, just emake sure he doesnt turn this against you if he gets frustrated. he's probably just playing with you to make you feel uncomfortable
• United States
5 May 08
I guess the only reason it made me feel uncomfortable is because it was just so suprising, and I wasn't sure how to respond! He's a good kid, so I don't think he'll try anything weird, but just last year he was really still just a "kid!"
• United States
7 May 08
That's cute. It is normal for teenage boys to crush on older girls. I would make a mention of it to your friend. That way if it happens again she doesn't get the impression you are doing something to make him flirt, if that makes sense. I don't know if I would say something to the kid without first talking to his mom. Just to make sure she knows what's going on and doesn't get the wrong impression.
@jengoss (145)
• United States
4 May 08
I would wait and see if it happens again. If it does happen again I would definitely have a talk with him first. Let him know that you are not interested. If it continues to happen after you talk to him, then I would discuss it with his parents. Let them know what is going on and that it makes you a little uneasy. It is kind of funny though. You can't blame the kid for trying.
• United States
4 May 08
Oh - I agree it's kind of funny! At first, I was a little incredulous as to why he was acting that way. Maybe I should take it as a compliment?! LOL.
• United States
4 May 08
LOL. That is kind of funny. But he's probably going through puberty or something and he's looking at girls differently. He must have looked at you and though "Hottie Alert! Hottie Alert!" If your uncomfortable with it then if he does it again then bring it to his attention and talk to him.
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
1 Jun 08
hi u being jst 29,are pretty young,and though i havent seen u i can guess that u must b pretty good looking,and that u r married is of not much importance,coz when i was of his age-15/16,due to my hormonal surges,i was so much attracted to women,specially women in age group of 30-35,that i cud have killed for their love(or lust ie)-i think u shud really consider it as a compliment,now myself being 30 plus,i dont get myself attracted to older women anymore!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Jun 08
I would definitely talk to the kid, then to his mom and toyour husband before it goes any further. NO good can come of this youngster hitting on you, and h needs to learn to stop right now.
@GreenMoo (11834)
1 Jun 08
Hey, if a 15 year old hit on me I'd be so chuffed! It would be proof I've still got that indefinable 'it' after all these years LoL Seriously, I wouldn't worry about it all unless the guy starts to activly harrass you.
@jaicharu (39)
• India
20 May 08
be polite to him yet keep ditance and whenevr yu speak to him involve hi mother in your conversation...and also tell him that if yu ever had a son it he would fit the bill...heee..