Son living at home
By gramskaren
@gramskaren (661)
United States
May 4, 2008 8:10pm CST
for almost a year now and he is 26 years old. He does not pay any rent, no food and hardly ever helps out with chores around the house. Husband said he could move back home and pay nothing until he could afford it. But seems like he sure can go out and buy booze, party and drive long distances and waste gas but we get nothing in return. I believe it is time he moves on with his life. He needs to find a higher paying job so he can afford to move out that is for sure. He also needs to get rid of a few luxuries he has that he can't afford at all. He went to school for another trade but can't seem to get him to go out there and find a job in it. I keep telling husband that he needs to get him on moving on to something else or pay some kind of rent. Time to move on I say and not come back. Don't get me wrong I love him but it is time for him to be gone and live his own life and we live ours. What do you think?
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@gramskaren (661)
• United States
5 May 08
I thank you for your response. Sometimes things are really tough to decide you know what i mean.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 May 08
Well, this would be a tough decision to make for sure. In one respect you really Love him, and want to know he has a safe place to live, etc. but then in the other, you want him to start being more responsible for his life, and be able to prove himself so he can live out there on his own. Wanting him to have to start being a little more responsible with having to pay Rent, etc. is a definate start in this, to help get him motivated again in that direction for sure.
What you and your husband needs to do, it sounds like, is to sit down and come up with an agreement where you need to go from here, and come up with an amount to charge your son, and let him know you are doing it for his own good, and then go from there. That would be the first step and then go from there. Wishing you the Best.
