How to handle grandparent issue

I know this may seem very difficult but I dont believe it will be. Do not bring it up unless she does. My oldest daughter was almost 2 years old when my husbands grandfather passed away and my oldest for almost a year said "mommy wheres DA?" I said "he's in a better place." She always left it at that. But that was also at 2 years old. Now she's 4 and doesnt ask. I'm sure when your daughter is about 8 or so she will ask. She will be old enough to understand. Just tell her calmly that you and your parents never got along and unfortanally they are missing out on a great and beautiful young girl grow up! Good luck.

My best advice is to wait until she asks. She may not. Most kids don't really talk about their grandparents very much so she may not ask for a long time. Also, are her paternal grandparents going to be involved? If so that will keep the question away for a bit longer because she will have grandparents in the picture. If and when she does ask, don't lie to her. If she is very young when this question comes up just be gentle and tell her in words that she can understand. Tell her that you and your parents have never been able to get along very well and because of this they don't like to be around. Tell her that you hope that you and she can always be close and tell her you are sorry that because of your problems with them that she does not see them right now. If she is older then I would still be gentle but more honest. She has a right to know that they are the way they are. That way she isn't in for a big suprise someday if they ever treat her the way they are treating you. I'm sorry your parents are doing this to you and to her. No matter what their issues with you are, she doesn't deserve that. It's sad when parents act like children.