When you know someone personally and they are very controlling
By Remmie7
@Remmie7 (167)
United States
May 6, 2008 3:10am CST
I know this person who has a good heart and will help anybody not to mention his friends, but there is the one thing that is bothering me, he's controlling with everybody. Nothing you say or do would make him see or should i say admits when he's wrong. To him he's always right, he always know everything, what he say goes nothing else matters. You may catch him on a rare day when he may take your advice. Sometimes i feel that he knows when he's wrong and he still won't admit to it. Men if you're out there maybe you can shed some light on the subject. Giving some insight from a man's prospective. Now ladies don't you hold back, let me hear from you too. Thanks
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5 responses
@setroc (853)
• Philippines
24 May 08
oh so your a girl, hey nice to meet you, its like im meeting you by installment, i dont know whats wrong with your frend, well i guess its coz he thinks hes right, see there are some intances that youve mention that he listens to an advice, maybe that day he doesnt think he knows it all, i dunno..but hey if you think youre right would you take someones advice and folow it? u might listen but u woulndt realy put that advice into action coz u think ur right right? i think hes the same with everbody else when it comes with listening to other peoples opinion, some listen and contradict it in silence others dont, he always expres himself vocaly i think
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
25 May 08
I think we have all seen people like you mentioned lol. We are such a diverse society so that is hardly surprising.
And in fact, we might have been that guy (perhaps unknowingly) at one time or another. 
So back to your situation, if you really can't stand him and he is close enough to you to warrant your attention, you just have to try work things out with him.
Maybe you can try find out why he is such a control freak. There might just be a good reason and perhaps you can help make things "right".
Cheers! 
So back to your situation, if you really can't stand him and he is close enough to you to warrant your attention, you just have to try work things out with him.
Maybe you can try find out why he is such a control freak. There might just be a good reason and perhaps you can help make things "right".
Cheers! 
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
26 May 08
Maybe it is just the stress or something? But you said you have found out so... you can work on it gently with him.
Good luck! 
@Remmie7 (167)
• United States
26 May 08
Hey Lordwarwizard! It's nice to hear from you again, I really do appreciate you for responding. This guy is worth the try. He has a very good heart and I think I know why he's like this (controlling). I talked to him about it and he's calming things down. I can say he's making an effort and that's all I ask. We all have our faults and I'm glad that we could work this out. It was getting pretty rough for awhile. Things have a way with working themselves out sometimes if you talk. Thanks for responding.
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@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
6 May 08
yeah i know someone like that. but it is a she...she is a good friend, generous and such. but after several years, i realized how controlling she is. anyway, we sort of parted ways. and i am glad. although i lost a big part of my income, because of transactions that were done through her, i am still glad. i dunno, i felt liberated that she set me free. i know she has bad feelings for me. but i don't want to explain myself anymore because she doesn't listen to me most of the time.
anyway, i fee free now.
@clrumfelt (5490)
• United States
24 May 08
I have posted several discussions lately that have no responses whereas some I posted a couple of months ago are still getting responses daily. I guess it just depends on who is on and what they are interested in.
@clrumfelt (5490)
• United States
24 May 08
Sorry, Remmie, I had two different discussions of yours open and posted this reply in the wrong one. I'll reply to this one now.
I know someone very similar to the person you describe here. He is a fine person but very opinionated. He is always right about everything, or he always WANTS to be right, to the point of raising his voice and repeating his point of view over and over again not letting someone else disagree with him. I tell him it doesn't matter how many times or how loudly he repeats something that is wrong it will never change the fact that it is wrong. That just makes him upset and he is in his 70's so I try to keep him calm if I can and just walk out the door with him hollering after(LOL). I have learned to tune out most of what he says because sometimes he will take the opposing side of an argument just for the sake of arguing and he is kind of set in his ways.
Some people are entertained by the give and take of arguing a point of view and they'll take an unpopular stance just to enjoy getting other people to respond. And, also, some people are stubborn about their wrong beliefs and will never change.
@djedtek (230)
• United States
6 May 08
some like he has a automated guilt trip (mean that if i help you and i help all my friends people will look up to me no matter whats and i know im owed the respect i deserve) i know some people like that but i quickly stop them in their tracks. if they volunteer then thats on them, i dont ask you for anything!
