Do you understand your daughter
By Gingermegs
@Gingermegs (64)
Australia
May 6, 2008 5:34am CST
I love my three daughters very much but sometimes I just don't understand them. They do things and make decisions that seem to make no sense at all to me. I always stand by them and will always be here for them but I just wish they would be a little more careful.
3 responses
@jskdjd (20)
• United States
8 May 08
My answer is no, I don't understand my daughter. She's 26 and still blows up at me, ranting about all the ways I mistreated her as she grew up. I love my daughter and know she's unpredictable. The way I am handling my problem is to create some distance between us. The reason is to hopefully allow a better pattern of behavior to develop between us. It seems to have helped. I let her do all the initiating of interaction and I make sure I always have a way to leave if she wants to start an argument. She has control of making contact, but I have control over not being a victim.
@Gingermegs (64)
• Australia
8 May 08
I did the same thing. Sometimes giving them some distance and not being available whenever they want you does work wonders. I have a good relationship with my eldest girl now but it took a long time and a lot of hard work. They love to blame everyone and anyone else for anything that happens to them and the biggest lesson they need to learn is that they control their own life and they are responsible for their own actions. Until they learn this they will never grow up.
@xplp211 (253)
• China
6 May 08
I don't know the situation to your daughters. I am a daughter, although I am 27 years old. If I have two sisters and can play with me, I will be very happy, but I am the only child my parents have. How old are your daughters? It seems they are all very little. I think little children must be playful, and they have diffenent thoughts and ideas as adults, and that is where their happiness is, maybe it make no sense to adult, but it make sense to themselves. If you think what they are doing is wrong, you should teach them. It is the parents' responsability. You also need to affect them by your action. All the persons I see is just like their parents. And also you should ask what they are thinking and what they think the things should be. Parents are friends, and friends forever.
I think I am very careful now. But when I am a little girl, I also do some stupid or dangerous thing and make my parents anxious and angry, but I don't remember.
Don't be so worry, every girl will grow up and become a great women that you will be proud for them.
I really love my parents and miss them!!!
@Gingermegs (64)
• Australia
6 May 08
Thanks for responding to me. My daughters range from 18 to 26 and have always been a handful. Sometimes they are just wonderful and give so much love and other times they throw everything away and go right off the rails. My eldest daughter and I had a lot of problems but now she is my best friend, that doesn't mean that I always understand or approve of the things she does, but I do love them all.
@xplp211 (253)
• China
6 May 08
So they are all adults and I think it is hard for them to have a big change. Just let them be themselves and do things that will make them happy. They must know what is right and what is wrong. What you can do is give them suggestion, and when they grow older and experience more, they will know what you said is right. This is the step of life.
