In or Out?

I have had five children and quite frankly I would rather do it alone than have a man in the room with me. They try very hard to do and say the right things but really all you want to think about is getting that baby out and not have to worry about your partner, what he might be feeling or seeing at the time. Just get on with the job, get cleaned up and then let dad in.

I didn't want my husband in the delivery room.. The doctors asked him if he wanted to come in when I had my son, and that was even after they had decided to do a C-section on me.. How so romantic and family oriented, to see your wife cut open, with blood and guts all around.. Not for him, he would have hit the floor.. It may be ok in many families and under many circumstances but it wasn't ok in mine, I told him no, just wait for me outside..

Well, i'd say IN, because I had him AND my mom in there during the birth of both of my kids. The first time I was scared and there were alot of people in there that I didnt know (my own doctor didnt even deliver my first baby)and it was comforting to have someone that I knew cared about me in there. I think I would feel more vulnerable to things happening in a way I didnt want them to if I was alone....

It would have been nice to have him in the delivery room with me, holding my hand, and helping to give me support. It's a pretty scary thing to go through, at least for me it was. I had my kids before childbirth classes were common, and when I was in nursing school, we had to go to one to see how the parents to be were prepared for all the stages of pregnancy and labor. The dads did play a big supportive role.

My ex-husband stayed in the waiting room, because I ended up having a c-section. However, we had planned on him being in there with me, we went through the lamaze classes and all that.

It is almost expected for them to be there these days, I had GA ceasarians so not applicable in my case, but I personally would prefer my mum or a close friend unless the partner really did want to be there rather than just feeling he ought to be. Ellie :D

I had him and my grandmother with me in the delivery room until they decided that I had to have a caesarean. Then everyone had to leave the room.

Well my hubby will be there I need a hand to squeze. Plus he was a part of producing this life he deserves to be there when he/she comes into the world.

With my experience with having my three kids.....outside! Man there would be nothing worse to me to have some guy taking personally what I said while I was in labor! LOL

He was there and was good at making sure the personal didn't forget me.. He was always chasing down someone to get me this or to ask questions.. The poor guy couldn't take the epidural though..Only 2 of my births had them and he says it was because he had not eaten in a while, but I think it was the fact of, I was getting a needle in my back and he got a little light headed..

My son's father was in the room when he was born, but I almost wish he had not been. He was being a pain in my rear the whole time. My mom was in there too. She said I yelled at him at one point because he put his hand on my foot. Which is something I can't stand even when I am not in pain. My daughters father was not in the room. He was not even in the hospital. He did not know I was in labor even because we were not talking at the time. He found out she was born 2 days later.

I would prefer to have my partner with me in the delivery room. Sadly, my last 2, he was not able to be there. The first absence was due to a midwife who was a know it all and kept saying I was hours away yet. We live about 1 hour from the hospital at the time, and my partner had taken our other 2 girls home. 5 mins after they finally rang him, our 3rd daughter was born. His second absence from the delivery room was with my 4th. I went into labour at 2am and we couldn't get a babysitter, so he stayed home with our 3 girls and I went in on my own (very cool and calm taxi driver!). That's ok, 45 mins later, there was our 4th daughter. Now, I'm expecting my 5th child in August, and I know that I will be having to do it all on my own again. I wish I didn't have to, but someone has to look after our other children and as we don't know anyone here who would survive a few hours with our little angels (yeah right!) it will have to be my partner again.

I wanted my husband in the delivery room, but he was so upset by it, I had to get a friend to coach me for the birth of my second daughter!

My husband was in the delivery room with all 4 of our children. I felt more comfortable with him in there with me. I think its good for a couple to share this experience. I think the guy respects the woman more when he sees what his wife or g/f has goes through for their child.

I don't have children yet, but I would definately would love for him to be there in the room if possible so I could scream why did you do this to me and bonk him on the head and show the pain that a woman goes through to bear his child....Nah!Just kidding! I would love him to be in the room with me when I have the baby so he could be my focus point and help maybe cut the cord and be there to share in the joy of birth and of giving life si he could be there for his childs first breath,it's first cry, and hopefully many more other firsts because we never know for how long we are going ot be on this earth to be around for firsts. I was in the delivery room when My niece gave birth she ask me to be there since we were very close, she is my goddaughter, and it was a amazing experience to behold and I am 33 years old but I am hoping to one day be able to experience that blessing with my husband.

a zillion years ago I had two children and with the first I was alone as my husband was at HOtel Adams in Phoenix cooking for a movie crew on location making the movie How The WEst was Won so I had to talk to him via phone to tell him he was a papa to a seven pound baby boy.That boy now is almost fifty years old lol.

i would prefer to let my husband in coz i think i'm secured when he's there....

I would rather him wait in the waiting room, cause I don't want him scary, and I are not willing to let him see me painful like that, which will arouse his imagination.If he knows everything, then there is no sense of fresh