Denying allmost 70 friends requests at a time; not something to be proud of..
By cyberfluf
@cyberfluf (4996)
Netherlands
May 7, 2008 2:35pm CST
I realized that over the time I've been here I've accepted pretty much everyone who asked to be my friend. This includes people I had never seen or spoken to on mylot. When you look at friends discussions you can't find the ones of your 'real' fellow mylot friends because it's all cluttered with discussions of people you hardly know and hardly share interests with.
This resulted in me not accepting nor denying friend requests. I didn't want to turn them down but adding more would only make things more complicated :S
When I came on today I suddenly realized it had been some time and I had to make a decision. I'm not proud of it, but I denied allmost 70 people who wanted to add me over the last year. It's nothing personal, but it gets to full. There weren't names that rang a bell or anything :(
If you feel like I denied you whilst we have had good conversations, you can pm me.
Everything is just so full and chaotic I need to make room to get ahead again. Thanks for understanding!
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3 responses
@sissy15 (12356)
• United States
7 May 08
I can't blame you, I don't see the point of adding people that don't bother to take the time to talk to you anyway. I used to be like that with myspace, I would add anyone that sent me a request, but I got to the point where I would deny them unless they sent me a message or something, letting me know they weren't just collecting friends. I have deleted a lot of people that don't talk to me. It seems anymore people are in this big popularity contest to see how many friends they can get. Although I can kind of understand feeling guilty about it. It's better to have a few true friends than a thousand people who don't even bother to talk to you.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
8 May 08
I understand, I used to accept a lot of people too and am at that same point where I think: who are these people? Why are they in my list?
Thing it, you never know why people added you, so I might have deleted people that did had something to so or so. I hope those people read this topic and pm me.
Otherwise I think I did the best I can to seperate the true intentional requests and the 'friend marathonners :P'
@Kecia08 (554)
• United States
7 May 08
I add everyone that sends me a request, but that's because I think maybe they are wanting to contact me through a private message about something I've said in a discussion. I don't sort my discussions based on my friends, so it doesn't bother me to add everyone. You shouldn't feel sorry though...Like you said, you haven't even spoke to the people on here! Some people treat this as a popularity contest...
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
8 May 08
You make a really clear point there.
The thing you mention about the treating it like a popularity contest; oddly enough I haven't thought about that earlier. Some people might actually do that! :S Thank you for your part in this discussion.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
7 May 08
I have a few people sitting in my "pending box" as well. I don't know if any of the upgrades have changed this since I last sent a PM, I don't send many. But, I think you actually have to be "friends" for someone to send you a PM. 
