name not on wedding invitation

If his name is not on the invitation, he is not invited. Im not sure how close your family is, but someone(not your daughter) could call and ask to clarify. Although by etiquette rules, if the name is not specifically on the invitation, they are not invited. While mistakes are made, I would just let this one be. My boyfriend would rather not go to the wedding, so I'm not familair with her boyfriend actually wanting to how. However if I were in her place, I would go by myself. You never know what the reasoning behind only iviting her was. It may have been cost and all unmarried partners were excluded.

If it was me, I'd probably just let it slide and not risk stirring anything up with the Aunt and family. Some things are not worth it. It might have been a slight, or maybe not. Maybe it has more to do with cost per plate at the reception than anything else. (That stuff is SO expensive anymore!!) Your daughter is a family member, as well as the granddaughter...the boyfriend is not related at all (and if he was her husband, it would be an entirely different matter.) I wouldn't blame him for not wanting to go, because if somebody asked to clarify the invite, it might seem pushy, and that might make him feel even more uncomfortable. I doubt that they did it to intentionally snub him, or to get a rise out of your daughter. I hope she goes and puts on a smile, and acts like it doesn't bother her in the least. Irregardless, the wedding of a family member should be a happy time, and not worrisome over somebody getting excluded...or why. (Just my opinion if it was me...)

I think if I were your daughter pal , I would send a reply saying sorry but she can't make the wedding and leave it there , I don't think I would want to go if my partner weren't invited , I am a wee bit of a coward though xx

I think it is rude, and I don't blame the boyfriend at all. But if they were limiting to actual married couples because of money or space or whatever now either of them will not know.

I will answer this base on my own point of view like if this happen to me, I will clarify to them if I can bring my boyfriend, I don't like them to be very judgmental that since they don't like him, they will not invite him. If they are really my family, they will accept the person I choose to be with and will respect my decision and willing to support me and be happy for me!

it's actually good that the boyfriend "refuses" to attend - if he was invited (even out of obligation) the invitation would include his name, or "and guest". if there is already stress there, why would they want him at such a happy occasion? really the only option here would be for your daughter to attend with her daughter only, or to politely decline the invitation.