a naughty 3 year old

Get this book or audio, "Talk to kids so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk" This will help you out and remember that anytime your child acts up and you end up yelling or even looking flustered they know they won! No matter how young they are they already figured you out, what they can get out of you or from you. It's ok and guess what anytime you SCARE a kid that is NOT good. You want your children to grow up strong emotionally and confident. Doing that kind of stuff takes all that away from them that they really need in life. Lots of Hugs and praise on good behavior and they will love that, but not to spoil really, they will love the good attention over the bad any day and they will make that change.

It sounds like he needs some discipline. You have to figure out a way to make him respect and listen to you. We all have days that we feel like terrible mothers, but you're not. You're concerned about your child's behavior, which shows that you are not a bad mother.

If time out doesn't work, try taking away privileges or favorite toys instead. Give one warning, then take the toy for a short time, say 5 minutes. Then give it back and tell him he has another chance to behave. Consequences should immediately follow the behavior and be consistent, but not excessive. In other words, let him know what to expect when he misbehaves, and exactly what is allowed and what is not. You have to keep the rules the same so he can learn them and know what to expect. Whatever method you try, don't expect it to work at first. He needs time to learn the rules and consequences. Just keep doing it and reminding him of the rules. Most important, praise anything and everything he does right. Give him more attention when he is behaving and talk to him about how proud you are and how great he is doing. Let him see that you appreciate and recognize the good things he does. Get him involved and give him some independence. Give him two options and let him choose- anything from what to have for dinner to what clothes to wear. It will make him feel helpful and important. Let him help you do things like laundry, cooking and setting the table for dinner. This will help him feel good about himself.

Have you tried giving him a litle spank,lol.I knoow that in the US you arent allowed to beat kids but a little spaning doesnt hurt.Most boys are usually bad especially at that age.I had 2 of them so I know what you are going through.I would also try taking away the toy he likes most until he learns to behave better.You cant let him be the boss here,stand your ground.One of my sons took 2 years to get his favourite toy back because he was such a little devil,lol.

try to scare him or make stories that will scare him from doing things you think is bad... like tell him that if he keeps on throwing things, he might hit the little spirits or something like that. well, i hope that helps