my best friend fall in love with me
By newht351
@newht351 (74)
Malaysia
May 7, 2008 8:54pm CST
i have Bf already. we've been for 6years. he's not so romantic actually, we seldomly go for dating. i understand how he buzy with his final exam.. i have t admit, when we have long term relationship , we have to accept any changes in our relationship..
but then, my bestfriend ( a man), admit that he already fall in love with me. yes, he show it clearly, by willing to do anything & everything for me.. physically, he is someone that every single woman will fall in love. but, in terms of attitude or mentally, he is not my taste.. i can bearly live with someone like him: follow all my order without thinkk the risk in future.. i told him to stop have feeling to me, otherwise we wont befriend anymore.. at first, he can do that.. but lately, he try again.. what to do??
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19 responses
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
8 May 08
I can see how he would fall in love with you..you are pretty
@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
11 May 08
my advise is just ignore him, if you really care to your BF now & got for how many years realtionship it will be not easy, not lot of people reach in that year. as they said you cannot even know the person till you will marry him or her that real person. because of of people change when they getmerried already.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
8 May 08
You've done the right thing, that is to tell him early on that you only like him as a friend and not for romance. It's up to him to accept it and find somebody else.
Just tell him bluntly "You're not my type".
@Pitgull (1522)
• United States
8 May 08
It's hard when your friend feels for you, more strongly than you feel for them...
Not more strongly, but in a different way...
If you keep saying no, eventually he should get the point.
But you also need to distance yourself from him if he can't help but act on his emotions...you have a boyfriend...:)
@jennbergan (1)
• United States
8 May 08
Part of the reason your friend acts in these ways is due to the fact that you are taken. Be careful and follow your heart. Sounds to me like neither of them are what will make YOU happy in the end. THat is the single most important thing.
I had a friend like him, he ruined several relationships of mine. In the end you to eill grow tired of it. Try a break and see how you feel.
Hope this helps.
@headhunter525 (3548)
• India
8 May 08
If I were you I wouldn't dump the one already there...first come first!! Sorry for that best friend.
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
8 May 08
Well, you're in a tough situation. I think you should talk to your bestfriend and tell him that you don't have feelings for him but don't threaten him...
@ayrin03 (318)
• Philippines
8 May 08
dont force him what to do..you can advice but dont tell what to do..and i know he knew what to do..but ask him what is importnat to him.. is it friendship or more than friends..if he choose mre than that maybe thats the time that you will say that he needs space for him to think and tell him that you dont wnat to lose the friendship you both now have..i know he will understands it.
@lunmun (127)
• China
8 May 08
I think you must be a charming girl and many boy like you .in my opinion , now you have kept six year with a bf and you are match to ,you shouldnt accept your friend ,if you do you will hurt you and your bf .mybe you can live in harmony with you r best friend ,you can tell him your opinion and wish he a good luck to another charming girl that taste him.
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
8 May 08
You just reminded me about my marriage, I married to my best friend only and till the date we are very happy with out any clashes or problems, but my case is different I took atles 2 years time to know whether he his the right person for me or not, who ever you like, you have to marry him only, but before that you have to know whether he his the correct person to you or not otherwise later you have to suffer for entire life, think and take decision..
@siZidni (1860)
• Indonesia
8 May 08
ha2
it's ok ..
why shouldn't you be friend anymore.
tell him
cinta tak harus memiliki
ha3
anyway he's your friend even the best one.
you know everything about him
isn't it easier to go along with him for the future relationship?
taste?
your taste will be changed anyway..
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
8 May 08
Hi There.
Well, you need to explain to him that you have a boyfriend that you really love. Maybe, you just need to tell him that you don't love him as he loves you... that you want just friendship not love. I hope you can clear things out with him. Hope you can save both of your friendship. Take care. Goodluck.
@Katrina919 (22)
• China
8 May 08
Hi, newht351. I'm sure that you are a pretty and lovely girl. Actually, I met it just like you when I was almost 20 years old, but I have no BF at that time. I could choose the one who like me the best. However,now you should ask yourself with which one you will be more happy or you like the best. Furthermore, you needn't consider you've been for 6years. It's unnecessary and useless. Really. You should make the best choice for your brilliant future.
Deep Breathing!
Be happy!!!
