Girls and dating

i think whatever may be the case, 14 is still too young to have a BF. actually children of that age may be mature, but they do not have clear idea about what is wrong and what is wrong. so its easy for them to make mistakes.

Yes I do think that 14 is too young to be dating and especially a 16 year old. Some people keep saying that kids are more mature these days but are they really. 2 years at that age can really be a big difference. My kids weren't allowed to date until they were 16 unless it was a special school function then it had to be a class mate the same age. I think kids are pressured to date too early and that is one reason we have so many teenage pregnancies. Any time a boy of those years is dating a younger girl he will and can control them so much easier that if the girl is the same age.

I have a 14 year old and the older guys scare me. I have had a couple of incidences where older guys have wanted to date her. She is not allowed to "date" in the same sense that a 16 yr old would. She has boys come to the house and they hold hands and I'm sure they have even kissed when I'm not looking. She is not allowed to go to the boy's house unless I've talked to the parents and I know they'll be home. I have noticed that most of these little romances last about 2 weeks tops. I will say that if any boy held my daughter down and put hickeys on her neck, I'd be right there knocking on the door to have a little sit-down with him and his parents. I'd be very concerned that my daughter was ok with this sort of behavior or else that she was all ok with it and she is telling stories. either way, I'd be all over that situation.

Yes. How simple is that. No question that 14 is to young. The problem is that we have lost sight of this. She is 14. She doesn't get it...by it I mean anything. Not life, not the world, not the future, not her own body, not her emotions....nothing. She doesn't get it. If she doesn't have a strong support system to rely upon that includes a social support system, a strong father, mother, and extended family...where does she look for role models? Certainly she will look at her sister, her friends at school, peers and of course the media and see others in her age group making really stupid mistakes. She will think their mistakes are acceptable and will not wreck havoc on her life. 14? To young? Why is this even a question today. That is like asking is the mother of Britney and Jamie Lynn Spears qualified to write a book on parenting. Based on the outcome of her experiences I would say no, wouldn't you. I don't care what type of boy he is. Jock or nerd. If he is putting hickies on her neck. Holding her down to do so (abusive behavior) or otherwise, then it would be the last time and I would talk to his parents. Grounded? Yes, and I would be driving her to and from school for a while. No access to the internet accept for those activities that I deemed appropriate and I would monitor closely. Children go to far to day and parents don't go far enough to keep them safe.

well you know we are going thru the same thing there was this boy that was dateing my step daughter she also had a myspace but then we found out things were happening like they were tuching eachother but guess where in school this was a while ago about in 2007 we told her there was no more him we brouhgt this to the schools attention and they had gave them both in school in 2007 then just recently i had a gut bad feeling that something wa going on we did not know but e were checking her myspace but wasnt checking her yahoo well i decided one night to check it and the stuff we found writin you would not believe it was pretty discusting she is also 14 talking about f---ing each other and makeig babys and they were still touching each other in school right in there class room underneath the tables and at lunch under the tables my sugestion to you is to get into her other email because i bet there is stuff hideing this school were we are at told usthat kids could not get on there yahoo mail but guess what all the discustiing emails were done in school so it is possible i would check it out

i think its 2 young but kids these days are growing up so quickly. maybe not mentally but they are doing things way to early so who knows life styles are always changing but personally no im against it

I think that mother is headed for trouble, hickeys at 15 what is going to happen at 15 or 16, I would not allow my daughter to have a boyfriend at 14 if I saw hickeys, no way, already the warning signs would be up.

I think she is a bit young for hickeys..My daughter when she was 14 was not dating,she liked a boy and they visited in the living room,and they went to things as a group ut not alone,and for sure no hickeys...

Wow, hickies at age 14. That doesn't necessarily mean he is more mature than her...but it is definitely a scary thought. I agree that her mom needs to draw a line and say if you want me to trust you, you have to earn it. Coming home with hickies, is not a way to show responsibility.

Hi bdugas, Hasn't that always been the question, what age is too young? Society is changing but parents still have to make that decision, and it's never an easy one. You don't give the age of the boy, sometimes this matters but not always. I hope things go well for her. Blessings.

I think 14 is awfully young to have a boyfriend but as long as they are supervised then I think it is okay. But as a parent there is no way I would leave my 14 year old daughter alone with a boy. I remember what it is like to be 14 years old and I know I was a bad girl. So were all my friends, bad girls. And then especially, she has a boyfriend that is a bit older than her, yeah he wants more than a few kisses and hickeys. I would forbid my daughter to see him alone after that incident. My daughter and I went to the mall last week and we saw these two kids, couldn't have been older than 12, walking and holding hands and stopping in the middle of the mall to kiss. It was quite a site.

I think it all depends on the kid. I wouldn't let my daughter in that position. Obviously his parents aren't around or don't care. My daughter's wont be allowed to go out on dates that young, unless its a group thing. And they definitely wont be able to be alone with a boy, under any circumstances. Kids are growing up much faster these days, but I really can't talk because I had already passed into the adult realm at that age. I regret it, and hope I can help my daughter's not follow in my footsteps.

I think that he isn't to young to have a boyfriend...hmmm about him how much old is he? if he is past 15 i don't think it's a right thing.My self i like to have a girlfriend at my age not older not younger...

i personaly think that 14 is old enough to date but when she is coming home with hickies i think that is a little much. if they were both responible enough to handle that id say let them be together. but it seems like he acts a little to old for her.

I think age 14 is ok for a boyfriend, but I had to learn the hard way that it is too young for them to visiting each other at their homes. It sounds to me like your daughter needs to step in before it's too late. If she is already getting hickies from him, you have to wonder what else are they doing?

i think she is too young for a relationship she is only 14..for God's sake. and what's with the hickeys and stuff.. they should not be allowed to be alone together. it is right that you dont trust this guy.. i wouldn't trust him too.. how old is he anyway?

This is just my own opinion, but most of the time I would think fourteen is too young to date. Double dating would seem fine, maybe two couples close to the same age going out together. But not just one guy and one girl. It's hard enough to resist peer pressure, but at fourteen it would be even harder. Waiting until the age of 16, only two years more, would still make a difference in the way the young person feels and how they handle pressure from others. But it is just my opinion. Pressure from guys can play havoc with a girl's seld-esteem and ability to make good decisions. Years ago 14 might not have been to young, but with the world of today...

14 is a normal age for a girl to have a boyfriend but if he really is holding her down and giving her hickies well that's something to be worried about. At age 14 it's all about high school romances that last 3 weeks, it's not serious but young adults these days are getting more and more adventurous at a younger age. I would suggest to your daughter that she keeps a close eye on her and controls where she can and can't go with this boy. Also, being so young your daughter should have a chat about the influence other men can have and all the dangers that come with dating. If you're worried perhaps you can have a chat with your granddaughter about it, but in a friendly understanding way.

I was about to say its fine, that I had my first boyfriend at 13, but coming home with hickies at the age of 14. I was still scared to come home with one when I was 17. Heck I still won't come home with one and I'm now 26. And if mom believe he held her down to give her the hickies than mom is just naive. She needs to open up her eyes and see the real picture. And let say he did hold her down for the sake of arguement, held her down and gave her them hickies, well what else is he gone to take upon himself to force on to her. This sounds like a bad situation with no happy ending. Mom needs to step in before her daughter becomes pregnant and a single teenage mom.

I think 14 is too young for a boyfriend, cause she is emotion mature, but not social experience. I started to date with my boy friend when I was 22, too old, maybe someone thinks.However, I think it is ok, I have finished college successfully, and then I got my love. I don't mean that someone should be date as my age, only if you are socially mature and emtionally mature, then you can date with whoever you want, that's my opinion.