Shut Up, Please!!!!

Hi Rozie I know exactly what you mean. I try and avoid people who are constantly complaining. Your so right about being with a person who is always down then thats how their life will stay. I always try and stay positive even when things get down in my life. No one wants to hear people complaining about their life. Because we all have problems. So lets make the best of our life and be happy. I think Im blessed to Rozie. Stay happy. Hugs!

I have long ago come t the conclusion that it's a genetic thing your are either born with a sunny outlook on life or not although I personally hive become more laid back as I get older. Don't sweat the small stuff is very good maxim to live by. I know exactly what you mean though about constant complainers ....... I work with a girl,23, attractive, doing well at college, boyfriend who will go far in the air force etc etc and yet EVERY TIME you see her she is moaning about something! I frequently tell her if she is like this at 23 with all she has going for her then goodness knows what she will be like later when she is older. No-one at work wants to get stuck near her as she drags you down after a while!

you did the right thing. you have to remove yourself from peopple like that. because then their energy will start to jump all over you. next thing you know you are upset, or sad and you don't even know why. people like that you have to love from a far

Hello Rozie, I can say that your friend is very lucky to have you to balance her attitude! Life is too short not to enjoy what we have and what we can afford!LOL, we will be disappointed if we will get mad on the things that is very impossible for us to attain or acquire this time, so I guess being very optimistic in life will always lead us to have all the things that we dream for once we will work for it, My advice continue that attitude and people around you will be influence by you and start to see the beauty of what they have!

Hi Rozie37! I do get frustrated too somehow because we all know that we all have our crosses to bear but it is up to us on how we carry it. Should we carry it with a heavy heart or should we carry it with a heart that trust God for He will make our burden lighter as we go His Way. I am very happy to learn that you chose to be happy with God. I am sure He is with you all the way. More blessings to you my friend. Take care and always have a beautiful day.

Hello there Rozie, I have check out the url you have typed out and the writer is really a good one, I read at least 3 of his entries and all were positive and indeed very great. He certainly is an infectious writer and his positiveness lurks through. As for your friend, I think there are certainly people like that and there are some here in my workplace and I just put a deaf ear to them, ha! Like when they started backstabbing some bosses and colleagues which I prefer to stay away from those kinds of gossips, I will just hear from the left and let it out to the right ear. I think it's best that way. It's good to be positive and to stay positive. There are too much negative energy in this world already and I think to remain positive would be a better place for all. We need it pretty much. Good discussion here, most certainly.

I can so relate to this problem. I know a woman who does nothing but complain. She's one of those people who thinks that everything bad in her life is because of everyone else. Actually, it's because she complains all the time. To the point where her husband finally left her because he couldn't take it anymore. I avoid this woman, at all costs, but somehow she finds me. I don't want to be rude, but I can't stand listening to her tell me how everyone else is screwing up her life. She used to be one of my dearest friends, but these days, I'd rather just be alone than listen to her complaints.

I believe that i'm a positive person (if not, i shouldn't have believed it in the first place. lol.) And i understand what you mean because i know that most of us in one way pr another have encountered such kind of people. A natural tendency for us is to avoid them (the complainers) because we can't stand listening to the same complaints over and over again. And i think that may be a good strategy because there are also people who may be easily influenced if they are always with the complainers (and they too become complainers themselves). For me, as long as i can handle it, i tolerate such complainers and try to influenced them to be positive as much as i could. But if they are really the chronic ones, there's no other choice but to move away from them before i get crazy. lol.

I have this colleague who keeps complaining. Sometimes I feel that this person does not even know how to appreciate other things around her. All she sees are the negative things in life. I really do not like being around her. Sometimes, when I have no choice like if I have to stay in the office to work on some papers with her around, what I do is to put on my earphones and just listen to the songs stored in my iPod. There are times when negative people affect us and make our current mood gloomy. I do not want that kind of feeling.

Hi Rozie, I perfectly understand what you are trying to say here because I myself hate people who constantly complain too. They should be doing something productive instead of doing the complaining that actually takes away their time and effort as well as annoying others around them. The times when you want some peace and quiet are spoilt by these people who just constantly complain and give you non-stop blabbering. Like a few other mylot members who responded to this discussion, I agree with them that avoidance is the best thing to do. Try to go away as far as possible from these complainers and hopefully they don't come and find you. The step you took in deleting of the chronic complainer from your friends list is a perfect start to avoiding these people. I wish you all the best in overcoming this "complaining" problem! Just remember not to look for trouble by mingling with complaining people!

I know what you mean. And there are lots of people who are like that. Good thing that I have a positive outlook in life or else I would be sulking too. My mother-in-law is the most bitter person I have even met. She is constantly complaining about everything. And there is nothing you can do that could make her happy. She can easily find fault at other people but misses the good things that they do to her. She has not spoken to her own sister for more than 40 years because they had a fight that she can't even remember what was it all about. She said they just stopped talking because of something and that all about it. Oh well, I can't complain about her. It's her lifestyle so I just do what I think is right and if she still complains about it, it's not my problem anymore.

it is human-being's nature to share the happinss and sadness with others around us.since your friend's complaining must have some causes or inner reasons ,i think you realy need to communicate with her.

Hello Rozie, I get upset when i am with people who cant stop complaining. I lived a very simple life in the philippines and didnt complain about it. My husband though is a different story.He would complain about the car cutting him off the road, or the truck riding his rear, or the ugly design of the houses, or the slow car in front of us, he would complain about his food, he would complain about his work, he would complain how small our apartment is, he would complain when it rains, he would complain when it's sunny. I told him that life is a gift..given to him free. And he was also given the choice to complain and be remorseful and sorrowful or to appreciate things and be happy. I told him that we never complain with the food that we ate back home in my country while he is complaining that he is tired of burgers and cheese when some kids have not even seen a hamburger. I read a bumper sticker somewhere that reads this way: I was complaining I dont have a new pair of shoes until i saw a kid who doesnt even have feet. My husband is learning how to tame his complaining tongue :) Life is too short. It's better to look at life's bright sides.

yea, I try to avoid them too. My working place has a whole bunch of them. They love to complain at tiny little mistakes that you made. Focusing only on your bad points when you make a mistake, but never praising you when you done a good job. They always claim they are right, which really pisses me off at times. but still. Try to keep calm, maybe coming mylot to ease a little tension off a day's work. So hope for the best! Cheers

What I've learned last year sometime is that complaining makes the situation worst.Its attracting that negative energy and the more you complain the more frustrated you become and whatever you are complaining about gets worse.I try to look on the brighter side of things.If theres something I am unhappy with in my life I will think of positve ways to make a change.Complaining solves nothing.

I know what you mean--I used to be just like your friends!! What a miserable way to live, I'm so glad I changed! I still acknowledge that life can stink sometimes but I usually try to keep it to myself. One thing you might do it go to http://www.acomplaintfreeworld.org/ and order a free bracelet. Your friends will ask you what it is and you tell them about how the bracelet helps you to quit complaining and count your blessings in life. Even the pastor that invented that program couldn't get it right for months! It's a tough thing to quit complaining but any reduction will improve someone's life greatly.

hey... what is it that you just done through this post? Dont put expectations on people that they cant live upto. Why are you carrying their baggage? You dont know what any one is going through. Be empathetic