Where are all the men?

I think your observation is flawed. Yes, there are men who cowered but those are not many. And in their minimal number, we could sight some reasons why they were like that. To say that they're afraid and that's all the reason there is to it is not fair. Real strength is controlled. Fighting for you rights does not always mean that you would always give an opinion on any issue & be willing to debate anyone who believed otherwise, especially your wife. The wives/girlfriends were there to be loved- tenderly. To do that, you have to be like "cowering."

they r still around...crazy men everywhere as usual...they probably mellowing down in their old age or just busy.

Hello Gitfiddleplayer, My husband is a 'real man'; honest, hard-working, respectful, very intelligent, open to ideas - yet very confident in his own knowledge base. We're not equal partners, instead we are 'yin/yang'. He recognizes my strengths and gets out of the way of the areas of my expertise. And, I gladly recognize his strengths and get out of the way of the areas of expertise. We both believe that that is the way it should be. (Incidentally, he just said that he agrees except that he has "WAY more areas of expertise! Hmmm, I guess we'll have to get out the comparison pad after this discussion!) I tend to agree with your observations about the emasculinization of the male of our species. Though, my observation is that this phenomenon is much more prevalent in municipal areas. Get out of the cities, and there are still many 'real men' to be found. Frankly, the whole concept of 'metrosexuals' is very disturbing to me, and is none other than a female control mechanism. While I would never be described as 'submissive', I also would never accept a man who was so. I deeply value strength, and recognize that every individual's strengths will be unique. To be sure; submissive is so very unattractive, yet manners and a sense of couth is very respectable. Now, here's the kicker; if a man ever tried to dominate me, he would soon remember something that I've shared with every man that I ever dated. That pearl is this: if a man ever hit me, he would never awake from that night's sleep. In the same vein, if I ever attempted to FORCE my spouse to surrender his individuality and strength, I would expect the same. It's all about respect!!!

Im in the middle on this one. I love my man strong during certain times but at times I want a guy who will love me and pamper me. Ive been lucky my man can stand up for him self and be a strong man but he knows when he needs to just say yes dear and move on. Now I dont always get my way but he knows when to give in.