Issue of skin color

i really dont care of the skin color factor on people like im so over the face of what people think of me when i first walk in the room , i sometimes make fun of myself be seeing the expressions on their faces " like oh he's black ..." i dont care period of what people think i am , what they probaly didnt know that my great great grandmother was a white woman and that on my moms side we have a bit of indian history too so its really peoples 1st impression of you weather your light as a white tee shirt or as black as darkness , get to know the person first before you just go off of looks ..

As a dark-skinned black girl in America I have definitely been told all sorts of negative things about my complexion by members of the black community. It used to bother me when I was much younger, but I stopped caring a long time ago, although it still bothered me that my friends who were lighter always got black guys much easier than me mostly due to their complexion - know this because both the guys and girls were able to admit it.I've never cared about skin color as I've always cared more about other features that would remain the same regardless of skin color. My daughter isn't at a point where I can teach her about colorism, but due to her mixed heritage and caramel complexion I know that I'll have to work hard to make sure she doesn't buy into all of the nonsense that I know she'll hear. I believe that the best approach will be approaching the situation frankly and honestly while teaching her the history of the issue.

As a adopted child I grew up in a family where I did not fit in. My physical attributes did not fit with my family, at all. Many of my family members made it a point to tell me that I appeared to be of not a "good" race or the right race. This by the way came from the adult members of the family. It was really only my father that told me to ignore them. Our color, our hair, our size, our shape; everything is subject to the whims of societies judgement. Within our "racial" group we are imperfect if we do not represent a specific value of "perfection" whether this be the purity of racial identifiers or the dilution of them. In society at large it is a different judgement that is applied. Look at the diversity of beauty that we see today in the media, but wait consider their similarities. Even when we view the beauty of racial diversity or say Beyonce, Halle, Tyra, Cameron, Drew, Angelina there are similarities at play. We are not really seeing true diversity in beauty so much as we are seeing variations of a theme. The only way to teach our children is to start early. Provide them role models both within their community and outside of the community that are models of character and honor. Give them ego that does not rely upon external appearance but on the internal forces of intellect and achievement. Instill in them at a very young age self-reliance and pride so that when they reach school age the slings and arrows of their peers will not bite so deep or leave wounds. Young people who know who they are, where they come from, where they are going, and that they have a support system that will help them get there do not rely as heavily on validation from their silly and ignorant peers.