what to do if he haven't shown up for a week?

don't you know any common friends or maybe a family member of him to contact with so you can confirm what really happened to him? i think its not right to judge him cheating this time. what if hes not, right? don't you have faith in him? but... i was thinking also that if something really bad happened to him someone should have told you, right? and if ever you found out hes cheating on you, don't worry i believe he's the one who lost big.

Hi Kababayan, I pretty well understand how you feel right now. Long distance relationship(LDR) is really hard as it needs a lot of things to consider to be able to work out such trust, understanding, constant communication. I was in a LDR too and sometimes feel what you feel. Being separated or being apart from each other especially when you've already meet in person and separated, God it's really tough and emotionally stressful and i called the feelings as roller coaster emotion which means there's a lot of things in the mind. BUt if you havent yet seen each other in person i suggest that you just take it slow though the feeling is still the same , dont expect too much coz to be honest it's really different when you just talk online and cellphone from seeing and talking in person. You will just hurt yourself if you expect when you found out later that its not true. Anyways as i was saying earlier LDR is really hard as you need a lot of understanding. I suggest just try to be relax and think the positive way though i know your worried but just try. Maybe he had gone into business trip and the place was no signal or network for both mobile and internet and i have known someone that happen this situation from another forum, her special friend or bf hasn't show up too for about a week and she feels worried and insane thinking of a lot of things but it was all sorted out after a week when the guy came back from a business trip in japan where there is no signal at all. He immediately wrote an explanation right after he got a signal. So now they're ok and going stronger. I suggest you can join the forum i was telling you and i am sure very sure you will somehow lift up your spirit when you feel something wrong as you can share your thoughts and experience there and there are friendly people who can relate to you and will give advice and share their experiences as well on your long distance relationship . You can also find answers which maybe you had in your mind. There are a lot of very real stories there from the member itself. You will really find it a great help for you. I was there too and it really helps me a lot and also my fiance is there. You can PM me if you like and to end this i would like to share this from someone in the forum i'm telling you To maintain a stable and healthy relationship is a difficult task in itself and on top of that if you have to deal with a long distance it can really be tough. However, many couples have had to be miles apart because of job, study or other reasons, and have been able to maintain a solid, happy, successful relationship until they could be together again. In order to cope up with the difficulties of staying away from your lover/husband, there are some key elements that are necessary to understand and incorporate, which have been explained below. 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Maybe he is having problems at the moment and is really busy and doesn't have time to get online and he might have lost his phone or something. Stop looking for the worst, it is probably something completely innocent.

something sounds off here. no offense but is this strictly an online/phone relationship or have you two met in person? how far away does he live? is he married? i need more details here but it does sound very worrisome.

Dear vcha_23, I think that after 9months you would have his work,a relatives,home numbers. I've been in a long distance relationship before and never again. It was too hard, took too much money traveling he would come here one wk. and I would visit him. Now, He gave me his home and work numbers. At that time we didn't have a cell between us. I also gave him my numbers. The way I see it if he (your Man) didn't give you any other number besides his cell, then I say he has something to hide. For 9months there should have been somthing other than online chatting and cellphone. I don't know you but you seems like a woman that is very caring, understanding and loving. Don't let that get in the way of your thinking straight. For some reason you doubt him because the first thing you stated is "cheating". I know no details but you do and evidently he must have said something to you to make you feel this way or something just wasn't adding up to you. Only you know the reason. If a man is into you, he will have made some arrangements to come and visit you by now not hold off a week not calling not emailing anything. Just for your satisfaction. Call the police station where the cell number is from-(city,State) 411-information maybe able to help you. If not the police may be able to check the cell number for you (they know how to do those things) and get an address,work number and or home number. There are ways you can find out. Start with those. If you can't get anywhere put me on your friends list and i will try and come up with more ideas. Best of luck to you. And i hope he's alright. Stay Strong! Remmie7

In my opinion its way better to just let him go and find somebody else. Something probably did happen to him though. That last message he gave you wasnt all bad so its possible. But wait longer and if nothing happens again for a week just leave him and find someone better.

I hope everything becomes well and good. but i can undersatnd your current state of mind. do not worry so much. may be he is busy somewhere. is there not any source you can get his news from?

Well you dont know any1 who knows him? like u dont have his frendz or relatives number who is staying where he stays and who could help solve this? Did you try calling him? he isnt responding? Well dont worry, you ;ll soon find out...and i hope not the last word, but if hez sick, he 'll be bk and you can see him pretty soon, and if he is cheating on you, get over him, he is not worth ur time or care....so try ur own possible methods to find out where he is and if not, just wait for some more time...

thats hard..i've been on long distance relationship for 3 years now..and when he wont give me anything for a week i worry and get frustrated...somehow i give him benefit of the doubt..it turns out he got sick..or was just so busy with work he couldn't manage to go online..when you said messages does that means a text message or a voice mail? i always leave a voicemail on my case and some offlines...when the time he responds we had few minutes of arguments and explaining to do..give it the benefit of the doubt still..

I know this is hard. A man sometimes needs a room for himself. That's the beauty of his tangibility. But deadly for a woman who doesn't understand about this nature. This nature was brought thousand years back, when a man will go for an animal hunt. A hunting that will make him leaving family, physically but not emotionally. Woman who understand will be patiently wait at home for his man to return. When he is back from hunting, he brings the ration home along with his emotional. He will pour more love because he knows his woman is respecting him by waiting patiently. She never complains of how long the man will go, on the contrary she welcomes his man with thankfulness. This is what a man really wants from his woman, a respect. The same with nowadays condition when a man goes for war or call-of-duty. When his woman patiently waits him at home, the man will be spiritually motivated in the battleground. He can focus on doing his job on the field. He has no burden. The more room the woman supports him or not by burdening him to come home, the more he will success in the job, and the quicker his mission be done and he comes home. But bad side from our nature is when we think a man is "silent". We think that he didn't care about us, -or- it's unfair, -or- as if he didn't love us anymore. Indeed, it's not. Man kept silence means he needs to find back himself, he needs to think and resolve the depression inside him, to find back his masculine side before giving us the second round of love which is better than the first round. The more room we create for him, the quicker he will return and the more he will become a reliable partner. Yet lately, he will automatically master the skill to remind himself about us. He will automatically give us love even though he is in the phase of needing spaces, because he thinks we deserves for it, because we had given him many chances in the past. Even in the middle of his emotional mixture, he still spare a tiny love energy pour to his woman, even though it's little but it's enough for us. Again, this is valid for an experienced man whose paired with the woman who had given many chances for him, but you can start to learn from now. Try to adapt this in the dawn of relationship, especially in the dating relationship, even though it can make you felt overwhelmed. But with a patience, all will be greased in the relationship. With unexpected by you and him, the relationship is moving toward a successful one. He will return to the phase one at a time, but after several supports from his woman, the less time he needs that and the more quicker he will return to us. We need to support him for preparing himself. Never called him "an old baby". We are his woman, not his mother. Because if we act as his mother, he will never return to you, in a long time, only after the admittance from you can pull him back. But this is the most impossible task for many women to do, especially in the marriage life. Maybe we can ask a divorce because sounds as if a bug to us, but sooner or later we never realize that we have the second man, our son. Relationship was built for thousand years but ended up in a brief moment. Preserve always your relationship.

If he is not replying to you then he is the problem. Why not ask him and tell him to be honest if something's up to him. he cant just leave you hangin in the air and waiting for him to text or email you can he? If ever he is cheating then he won't be a big lost to you because you know well you have been nice value him. You deserve a better guy who could take care of you and give all the attention as much as he can ^_^ Cheer up missy! There are loads of man in the street better than him..

Did you try to call him? It would be better if you call his family or friends that is near him so that they can check him up just incase something is wrong. I hope you will get through this. Thanks. Cheers!

You have every right to be worried. It's a long distance relationship and you never know what could be holding him up from calling you like you said him being hurt, just plain busy, cheating, or what ever the situation might be. I really hope you get some kind of response back from him for if I was you I'd be wondering to and worried. May it just be he really got tied up and was busy working. Good Luck.