oh please, no more yelling over
By plumwish07
@plumwish07 (4057)
Indonesia
May 8, 2008 10:52pm CST
when i was child, i lived with my grandma. and when i was doing mistake or something not right in my grandma's point of view, she would be yelling to me in many words. however she never hit me at all. it was different with my parents. according my sister, when there was something unappropriate in my parents view, whether any mistake or naughtiness, my sister beside get yelling also get hitting in her body
and what i saw in my herritage, children in a family tend to raised with yelling or even physic punishment as like hitting or pinch for their naughtiness as kids.
nowadays, i still hear any yelling over in the morning cause my neighbor do the same thing to their children. i just wondering how could they repeat what their parents done over themselves to their children at now?
do you think is it effective way to tell the children about don't do this or should do that by yelling over? cause in my life experience, i hate to hear any yelling from my parents and my grandma and on that time i just did what they yelling cause i was afraid to them
anyone can share with me more? whats the good way to manage naughty of children without yelling?
and what i saw in my herritage, children in a family tend to raised with yelling or even physic punishment as like hitting or pinch for their naughtiness as kids.
nowadays, i still hear any yelling over in the morning cause my neighbor do the same thing to their children. i just wondering how could they repeat what their parents done over themselves to their children at now?
do you think is it effective way to tell the children about don't do this or should do that by yelling over? cause in my life experience, i hate to hear any yelling from my parents and my grandma and on that time i just did what they yelling cause i was afraid to them
anyone can share with me more? whats the good way to manage naughty of children without yelling?1 person likes this
9 responses
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
9 May 08
i think so as like you dear friend but how to manage children under 5 age? they seem ignorant when we telling them something right? this make parents yelling over them in my herritage
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
9 May 08
Those who like to yell at children or at anybody just to get their message across are people who have no patient or intolerance. And also, those are people who are so used to yelling that they think that yelling is normal to them. So, if a person have a lot of patient, there would be no yelling in the house.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
9 May 08
thats true also but if both of parents have working outside, so they receive any pressure from outside home and back to their home, they get their children so naughty then they will tend to yell to their children. what do you think?
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
9 May 08
I know the stress can be overwhelming for working parents to come home and find that the children are playing, shouting and just being naughty. But again, if parents practice patients and punished their children without yelling, I think this will teach children to obey. If parents just yell to their children to keep them quiet, soon the children will be immune to the yelling and the next yelling will fall to deaf ear.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
9 May 08
WEll when you have told a kid 100 times to do this or that and they dont listen I would be yelling too
also make them set and think of why after telling them why.
Used to could give a swat on the butt and they would mind now welfare would step in cant do it grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
@gemini_rose (16264)
•
9 May 08
You are right yelling at kids is horrible, not just for a child but also for the parent as it is stressful, but yet I still do it. I just end up feeling ill after it as well, but sometimes it is the only way that I can get their attention and get them to stop doing what they are doing. I do not shout at them all the time, just when I need too.
I do not hit them, I do not see the point in it, it does not always teach them anything anyway, yelling does teach a child fear, I was always shouted at and as a consequence I am still scared of anyone shouting at me, I hate it.
@bonansa2008 (219)
• Indonesia
9 May 08
So sad fren to read you here........
I was a happy child
I had a protected mom
She loved me so much so that her huby could not afford to hurt me.....
But it was not one-sided emotional relationship, as I was usually to lend my hands to help/assist her daily, such as listening her grief, helped her to get vegetables, got padi to mill, went to market to buy fishes....and more. My dad could not do anything but (sometimes) felt happy too. He also showed his wishes to encourage me to be a good kid. He couldnot hide his joy when I went with him to paddy field to do some works. I did it after school time. So you see, my whole day was so great, I have parents who could not do nothing but did some favors whenever I asked them to do it. Yelling over? Wow I did not know it at all. They felt proud to have a kid who was so helpful. I myself did not know why I always felt happy to help them to do some works.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
9 May 08
thats a nice story that i hear from you and i am happy that you have happily childhood. it seems that your parents already understand how to parenting their children effectively without yelling. so good for you dear friend and i believe that you will do the same thing as like your parents to your children later
@Remembering1996 (2219)
• United States
9 May 08
I don't think yelling or hitting is going to solve the problem but only make things worse. If you talk to your kids in a calm matter and explain to them that what ever it is that their doing is wrong you might find that they will stop. Yelling only inticeses it in my opinion where the child will con't to do things just to rile you up cause they know they can. It dosn't matter how many times they are naughty always talk in a calm manner it's hard but it is for the best.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
9 May 08
I think no one like to hear yelling. But what to do some people are in the habit of yelling and they cannot get rid of this thing. I also detest yelling by anyone, if even my better half sometimes yel in anger, I tell her that be polite in your approach, I would definitely hear your grievances and problems. Yelling makes the atmosphere vitiate and one feel disgusted. I also tell my kids that whatever they have to say - they should say to it in a decent and civilised manner.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
9 May 08
One of the hardest things about having been a teacher was when there was evidence that children were being beaten by their parents. When I taught elementary school the governments were just starting to provide avenues through which teachers could report such activity, but in one case that I vividly remember, the principal was of the opinion that reporting the abuse would simply escalate it, because the child's parents were highly placed in the community and legal system. There were three children in the family, all of them showed signs of abuse, and all of them acted out disruptively in their various classes. The youngest child was in my class and we got along fine, but if I ever had a substitute, s/he would always report bad behavior from the little guy. The middle child came to school with many bruises that made it quite obvious what was going on. In truth most of the teachers found her quite impossible. For some reason, though, she never gave me a bit of trouble. My heart ached for her and her siblings, but there was very little I could do, other than discuss the matter with the principal from time to time.
@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
9 May 08
I was hit more than yelled at. I would of taken the yelling because now I flinch when people are too close to me. Good ol' family, huh? Hitting gets you nowhere, just an extremely nervous child who turns into an overly paranoid adult. I would have welcomed the yelling with open arms. The best way to teach a child right and wrong is to sit them down and discuss the differences. And to be calm. Most children are sensitive to yelling and screaming. And since I am a result of the family that chose to hit me, I know I will never pass that along to my children.
