Honestly, how much do guys and ladies trust your partner?
By frontier2002
@frontier2002 (630)
Malaysia
May 9, 2008 1:29am CST
I find it hard for a women to trust men in relationships. Many things happen because of trust. Many marriages or relationships break because of trust. How much do you trust your partner? Will you forgive him / her if he / she has betrayed your trust once? Tell me your opinion.
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@meiteoh (416)
• Switzerland
9 May 08
I trust my partner as much trust as I can afford to give him. It all would depend on how well I know him and how he conducts himself as a person and not just as my boyfriend/husband.
Before we got married, my husband and I were in a long distance relationship for nearly three years. We would only see each other during the weekends because I lived in Malaysia and he in Singapore. We had a lot of opinions if we wanted to look for them but I learnt from my past mistakes never to put your heart and soul into one man until he has proven himself, and if that takes up to years, so be it.
I was hurt badly in my past so it took a while before I could fully trust my partner with the care of my love and not with just fidelity and loyalty alone.
Trust to me is more than just knowing that he will be faithful. It is about the caretakership of one's love and relationship. If I can trust him to care for my love and heart, then I don't need to worry about whether he'll come home to me or not.
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@frontier2002 (630)
• Malaysia
9 May 08
It is true meiteoh, that a broken heart can never mend. It hurts so much to have someone we really love and care about breaks our heart. No doubt long distance relationship has its ups and downs. I'm glad you and your husband got through it together. We trust each other so much and it took us quite some time go gain the trust. We've been through alot since we met almost nine years ago. First few years wasn't really good as we quarrel most of the time to the extent we've even throw things at each other. It was about me spending most of my time online and she caught me flirting with some girl on the net. But that was the past. After a while, we tried talking and be honest to each other. We quarrel less nowadays as those quarrels we've gone through in the past somehow brought us closer to each other.
@meiteoh (416)
• Switzerland
9 May 08
To add to your question as to whether I would forgive my hubby if he cheated on me, no.
Betrayal of trust to me is a very big thing and I don't look lightly on any form of betrayal, be it emotionally, trust and etc.
If you must know, my hubby and I are alike in this manner - he trusts me a lot and so do I. We view loyalty and fidelity as the core of any committed relationship and I once asked him if he would ever speak to me again, let alone forgive me if I were to cheat on him.
His answer was a firm and quick no.
A heart that has been broken will never mend again. It would appear that the two of us don't believe in giving second chances to those who have betrayed us.
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@fatboy4 (39)
• New Zealand
9 May 08
trust is gained by time many people arnt in a relationship long enough to do so,It took me nine years to feel comfortable with our partnership.As for forgiving him it would depend on what he did,and if he had the guts to come clean about it,but if he had done the deed with someone else that would be the end of relationship.
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@frontier2002 (630)
• Malaysia
9 May 08
Im in a relationship with the same girl for almost 9 years too. I trust her very much and she trusts me too. I agree that trust is gained by time. Takes time to know someone. Trust and time also teaches me to be patience. I also agree on forgiving your partner depending on what he/she did. Most of the case, when he / she sleeps with another person, it always ends there and then.
@youless (112496)
• Guangzhou, China
9 May 08
I trust my husband as well as he trusts me. I think a good marriage is based on the trust. I think it's not so possible for us to betray each other, as the cost will be so high. Besides, we have a child and we won't do something that will be harmful for our family.
I love China
@frontier2002 (630)
• Malaysia
9 May 08
hi youless. Happy to hear bout you and your husband and i agree that good marriage is based on trust from both sides. Takes quite some time to build that level of trust where you feel you can no longer betray one's trust which leads to mutual trust. And great to hear that you love China. I've never been there yet but i heard some part of China is cold as my mom went to a few places where the temperature reaches minus 15 degrees celcius. I can't imagine how i'd survive in such a cold place.
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
9 May 08
Start search in yourself, why you find it hard for your woman trusting you in your relationship.
How much your forgive your partner is equal of how much you forgive yourself.
Do you forgive when you caught your partner with other in bed? Your answer is measuring of how much you forgive yourself.
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@frontier2002 (630)
• Malaysia
9 May 08
hi aowaow, i didnt find it hard for my girlfriend to trust me. I meant it to be in general. Sorry if get you confused with my grammar. But i agree about how much one forgive oneself when they have done something wrong. Thank you aowaow.
@frontier2002 (630)
• Malaysia
9 May 08
Thank you for your advice aowaow. I'll keep that in mind now.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
11 May 08
My husband and I went through a hell lot before we got married..we lived together first and it took us years to establish a good open minded relationship...I trust my husband so much and he the same way with me..but of course relationships aren't perfect..I just hope that the trust we built through the years wont be broken...
@frontier2002 (630)
• Malaysia
13 May 08
Hi eihdra. I have been living together with my girlfriend for almost eight years now. It is true that it takes years to establish a good open minded relationship. It wasn't easy at first but eventually, it worked out well. Trust that has been built through out the years should be well kept as when it is broken, it is hard to regain. I agree when you said relationships aren't perfect. So do we humans. We are planning to get married in a year or two from now. Congratulations on your cute baby in the photo and wish i could have a chance to pick two best responses. I'd pick you.
