Why do women play hard to get?

I don't think all women play hard to get. But the ones who do, I think they do it to make sure the guy is worth it. They want to see that the guy is really interested in them and not just looking for a one time thing. It's a way for us to be careful, and helps us kind of..."study" a guy. I mean, say a girl is not returning the guys calls. If he starts leaving angry messages on her machine or gets mad at her when she turns down a date; no way she wants to see/talk to him ever again! But if he gives her space, while still remainingg interested...he's a defeniate possibility! :)

hello I believe it was more of an conversational thing and a test to see the man's determination to win the girls heart. it's a cold hard truth but that's the way it is. frankly, i felt depressed already saying this response but you know, it's best for them to at least be re-assuring the man they're going to have a relationship with...

dantakum hi hatley here. Dating is a game but all women do not' play hard to get yet more of them should. the fact is a lot of women have more respect for themselves than to be forced to go to bed with an utterstranger who they had only met once. To give yourself to someone should be a gift to be appreciated by the givee not just a onenight stand. some women dont care and those are what in my younger d ays were called loose women.so yes we play hard to get as we dont want one night stands, or to play around and pick up diseases, we care about ourselves and thats good in my eyes.

Well i personally think that woman should play hard at men and not become too much easy for the guys around because then guys as they have the mentality to flirt around a little more than the girls would KEEP FLIRTING have a nice day....

women play hard to get.... cause they like the thrill of the chase.. plus it makes them feel extra special.. it depends on the type of hard to get they play.. u actually see if theyre interested or not

Most women are very insecure. And we use men to fill those insecurities. You date a guy because he makes you feel beautiful and special. We put up emotional walls after the first time of being burnt because we don't want to get hurt again. If a guy sticks around, and is persistant and sensitive to break through those walls then we know hes worth giving a chance.

Because they know thats what guys like (most of them). It keeps the guy intrigued and if she didnt play hard to get, chances they guy wouldn't have interest in her. Guys like the whole "chase" thing.

Playing hard to get is usually (not always) a game for younger women. Older women (cougars!) know what they want and aren't afraid to ask for it.

i don't think women plays hard to get. if women are hard to get its just because that they don't wanna show the guy that she's too easy to get. some girls wanted to show their feminist side to the guy to let him know she wanted to be respected. do you prefer dating women that's so easy to get? don't you think sometimes that easy-to-get girls been into many relationships before? i think this women were just playing with you if they are too easy to get.

Wouldn't you be concerned if a woman wasn't playing hard to get? Wouldn't you say she is "easy" so probably she is that with all the men that she meets? This is the woman's nature. She thinks that a guy should go through some tests before she "accepts" something. If a guy is really interested, he would call again until she answers, and he would keep asking her out until she says yes. If he is not that patient, he will give up, and so the girl will no that we wasn't really interested-he just wanted to have fun.

Well first up I think you need to admit that most guys do not commit as easily as women do. They spend much of their time seeking out the desirable females and are quicker at moving on if the girl is not to their liking. If this is the case then a girl cannot just open up herself to be tested and tried by every interested Tom and Harry. She has to maintain some level of restraint and do her own testing. For me it is important that I do some checking and observing before I give a guy a chance. If we gave in as easily as some guys would like us to then we would be nothing other than some airbrained zoombies who ran to the beck and call of all who fancies us. Plus you may not be the only guy who express interest in that girl and she has to weigh her options and make what will hopefully be the best chioice.

Because men get bored! They really do - my boyfriend even admits that if I'd given myself on a plate he would have shrugged me off as a one off type of thing. Though I'm referring to physically, which I think is right, but women who do it totally - stand-off ish I don't get. Surely men will just think they're not bothered and move on lol! That'd be my worry - you've at least got to leave some kind of clue you're interested.

I love this question. I was on vacation in Jamaica with some friends and this conversation came up among a mixed group of people. I think as women we (usually) think of men as hunters of which we are the game. We wnat to see if he is selective or if he goes after all women just to see how many he can catch. At a point we make a decision as to whether we are interested or not and we allow ourselves to be caught. This is just my opinion. I don't think it is a bad thing. Animals do the same thing. If a woman is acting to coy she may just not be interested in the man. But if she is flirtatious but keeps a safe distance then she wants the chase.

something easily won isnt worth the battle so ive learned

I never played hard to get. But, then again...I was always the one doing the chasing. Not that I am undesirable. I just wasn't willing to deal with the players and I was also not as free with my sexuality as a lot of other single girls I knew. So, why bother with me when they could bother with the girl down the hall that was more likely to sleep with them on the first date. I was willing to be caught, but...not willing to be played.

WHY is it so to take that WOMAN so easy as if you just pick it up in the highway!!!! in the first place you never own that woman as you do in your many things in LIFE,,??!!! well...having a date to a woman is merely a game..whether in the first you lost already when she's not accepting your invitation ... WHO ARE you by the WAY..?? ##life's like that...you can;'t just grab a thing for FREE and EASILY!! @jam@ ~live life~ be contented***

Not all women play "hard to get". And you will know if she is playing a game, or not interested. If she never hangs out with you and never returns calls...she's probably not interested. Sometimes women are speaking the truth, saying they are not interested, and guys view this as a game, a challenge, when in reality, she is just not interested. If she's interested you will see her, you will talk to her, you will hear her voice. If she's not around, how can you stay interested? Think about it..