A fun experiment!
By wooitsmolly
@wooitsmolly (3613)
United States
May 9, 2008 8:04am CST
I am going to try an experiment with this discussion.
I know there are some people here on mylot who do not much care for me. I also have a lot of friends here, but anyway...
I would like you to comment on this discussion and tell me what you think of me. Specifically, if you do not like me. Please tell me why! At the very least even if you don't dislike me, tell me what you don't like about me. What bothers you?
I am not looking to give anyone a negative rating. I will give all responses a positive. I just want to know what is going through your head about me.
The saying, "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all" does not apply here!
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49 responses
@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
9 May 08
Ummm...your feet smell a little and, would you please stop farting at me. Oh, wait! That isn't you! Never mind!
I don't see anything wrong with you! At least, not that I can recall! But, I tend to forgive and forget...mostly forget! So, if I ever had a problem with you before, I have likely forgotten about it! LOL!
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
11 May 08
Now Molly, we haven't known each other long enough for me to give an honest opinion here. So far, I like everything about ya..the serious side (is there one?) and the whacky side of ya.
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@leeesa (884)
• United States
18 May 08
Well I think you're a very deep and interesting person. Your posts are bold and thought provoking and I imagine you would be the same way in a face to face conversation. You seem to always keep it real.
Or maybe I'm way off and you're just really good at fooling people! (just kidding!)
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@parthajena (536)
• India
10 May 08
Hey molly!! How are you?
The whole internet world is something about making friends without knowing them personally.But some friendships grow so much close. Be it the screen friendship or the real friendship, both depend much on what one thinks about the other. And that again depends on how much one knows about the other.
For me, when i dont know someone, i think the person is nice unless proved otherwise.
I dunno much about you molly.But you seem to care much about what others think about you.
Take care.Bye.
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@dodoguy (1292)
• Australia
11 May 08
Hi wooitsmolly,
Were I you, I wouldn't be too concerned about what other people think about you. I'd be more concerned about what YOU think of you.
People are people - and you are you - that's what matters.
I'd also expect that someone who really had it in for you would be unlikely to tell you why - people with grudges generally prefer to harm their targets, rather than help them to improve. Mostly because they try to compensate for their own deficiencies by belittling someone else. So if there's anyone troubling you, I'd recommend just ignoring them, and give attention to the ones who treat you properly.
It's also helpful to understand why people behave in the way that they do. Humans are a herding species, and that pretty much sums up the situation. We are each pre-programmed from birth to try to align our views with what we THINK everyone else around us is thinking - and to reject anyone who doesn't conform to what we THINK is the general consensus.
That's how we tend to think and behave, and it's more or less automatic. It's one reason why we tend to be worried about what other people are thinking - we're programmed to try to conform with the rest of the herd, because we have a built-in desire to BELONG to the herd. That's what herding species do.
We don't HAVE to be part of a herd to survive - in fact, many individuals thrive on solitude - but generally, people do what people do, and that's mostly done in herds of some form or another.
What you choose to do, how you choose to do it, and why you choose to do it, is more important than what anyone else might think about you. You are you - remember that. And what's more, there are three of you, so you're never really alone.
And apart from all of that, you're still pretty cute (if a little cantankerous).
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
13 May 08
I think you are a very interesting person. Many of your self-proclaimed ideologies/traits I find to be "intolerable" in my own little world, then by talking to you and getting to know you (actually getting to know you before looking at your profile helped) forced me to re-evaluate many definitions in my world--of good, evil, tolerable, intolerable, nice, not nice, etc. In the end analysis, you're rather intelligent, very passionate, very fun to converse with, filled with insight, not too shabby looking, and all-in-all I enjoy every exchange with you, knowing that if we're forced into immediate quarters in the "real world" we'd probably kill each other. Cheerio!
DR...
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@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
13 May 08
What can I say? Call it "tough Love"? NO, better still, call it an agreement, unspoken (until now that is) to have a no b.s. written relationship... Now, how could I have been completely honest (words you used were "backhanded") in showing both my true thoughts and my appreciation for how you've contributed to growth... without doing so?--without saying what I said, how I said it?
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@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
13 May 08
I am actually a rather soft-spoken person in the real world. I guess, that is, until someone mentions animals. I try to get all of my aggression out on good ol' myLot... Thank you for the (slightly backhanded) compliments . I don't know if you read my PM yet or not, but I've been wondering what you thought of some of the information I gave you...
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@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
17 May 08
Don't know you well, Molly. But you seem rather nice. I did see one thread you wrote where you called another member dum dum. I didn't think that was too nice at first but then I thought it was probably tongue in cheek.....??? I basically like opinionated people. Just as long as they are not right wing, militia types. Those people scare me. You don't seem like one of them. You're not are you?
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@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
9 May 08
That's what I'm trying to figure out ;] I don't think the people are going to show up in this discussion though... scaredy cats.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
17 May 08
First of all my friend, i like you. Because we have the same interest, loving our pets. That is why i like to reply on your discussions about pets. And this one thing, are you the one who like Rob Thomas, because i Love Him too. I know how you feel about those negative replies and ratings other members are giving to you, we cannot pleased them and its there problem anyway. I wish if we can blocked those aliens alienating our discussion like "hello you are not welcome, remember" thing on our mylot settings...LOL. Me, my rule in my life is I will respect you if you will respect me first, i will treat you like what you treated me...that is my rule. Because they seem not to care if i will be hurt anything, i don't care also. I still hope you will have a nice time here...I am one of the true person you can talk to...you are so much welcome.
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@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
17 May 08
Thank you Woo Rob Thomas!!! I was listening to Matchbox Twenty yesterday for the first time in a looong time hehe.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
17 May 08
I only know you through mylot and I really don't know you well so I can't say that I don't like you. I enjoy your comments here and I almost always read your discussions. I believe that you are on my friends list so I am sure that I must have thought that you would make a good friend or I would not have added you.
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@crackhead (1826)
• India
10 May 08
Well your experiment may disappoint you not that many people will have some thing to say against you. You expected to know what does people on mylot dislike in you. but there are no responses which have stated some thing they dislike about you. But after going through all the responses i was able to find out one thing that you dint comment on the responses. There is just one comment from you even though there are some 40 responses.
After all i dont know you much, that would be the situation with every one i suppose. All we can know about some person here is based on their discussions and responses. So i dint get much to read your discussions and responses. But still have read a few and i can say you are good and fine as a friend, though u are not on my friends list and it doesnt mean anything negative.
One suggestion is that if u can comment on the responses on your discussions its god for you both in earnings as well as building relationships.
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
10 May 08
I have not had time to get to this discussion much yet. I generally do respond to the responses I get. On this one, though, I have been getting a lot of positive feedback when I was looking for negative. I have not much to say to these people. I appreciate their thoughts, but I want those who truly dislike me to come forward and tell me!!
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
11 May 08
From what I've been reading, and I've been reading from last to first post and still reading, your not gonna get your wish, Molly. Just too many of us like ya. That's a good thing, I hope.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
18 May 08
I don't know you well. There is of course things that we would disagree about. Nobody agrees on everything. As long as it dosen't get rude and nasty i don't see a problem with having a difference of opinion. There are 26yrs. age difference between us and that by itself would probably mean that we think differently about some things. And besides don't you think this would be kinda boring if everybody agreed with everybody else. Why would anybody bother with it?
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@Idlewild (6090)
• United States
11 May 08
Well, I like you, so I don't have anything negative to say. I think your discussions and comments are interesting, and though you have strong opinions you don't get mean or nasty, from what I've seen. But I guess some folks don't like people with strong opinions, or people who disagree with them.
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@awonderfullife (2893)
• United States
16 May 08
Hi Molly. I think you are a funny person. I enjoy your Mylot discussions.
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@stormygrl (761)
• United States
11 May 08
Well I haven't been here alot and this is the first I've seen your name so I looked at your profile and betting because you have your own opinons and voice them then that would be their problem.If you don't agree with alot on their discussions they don't like it.You seem likeable to me.
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@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
10 May 08
So far you seem like a level headed person. I have sent you a friend request but that is up to you. I know you have a lot of interest and you are into a lot of interesting things. I liked your tatoo..and i am not a tatto person..my 37 year old daughter got one ..and I was not thrilled when she did this but she is an adult and very much like you she has her own mind. Well, it is something I or my current wife did not do but since I see yours if looks quite tasteful.
When I was younger it was a guy thing..usually when they went into the service..but then the tattoos were not as good as what they do now...now they are works of art and on younger body they look quite good..men or women...but not children...unless is was for a purpose of identification...i might get my shih tzu tattoed or have an id inplanted? well, its a thought..
You don't live very far from me..as I live in Monroe, Michigan..not far from Ann Arbor or the Ohio state line..but Mt. Pleasant is very nice.
I was in the Soo, Michigan area for three years..in the UP in the Air Force..and that was ok..but that was like 1966...duh?
old timer
but I like your attitude and I hope you always stay as "fresh" as you are..your are one in a billion.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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11 May 08
I think that you are a lot of fun with what you write in your discussions, although unfortunately I do not seem to identify with a lot of them and so a lot of the time I cannot add anything to them!! I hear you say a lot that there are some that do not care for you, and I am not really sure why that is, you are who you are and I admire the way that you speak up about things. I may not always agree with what you say but I always read it as your opinions about things are just as important as everyone elses!!!
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