Getting married

It sounds like you two want very different things out of life. What is it that keeps the two of you together for this long? It's none of my business, just curious.

hi molly? but why wouldn't you want to get married? lol anyway, yeah, i think your boyfriend doesn't get it. oh...that would be a scene when your boyfriend proposes at his sister's wedding. lol what would you do? well, i guess you better prepare for the inevitable huh? hahaha take care dear!

Sounds like you 2 are in 2 diffrent stages in your lives right now. He is ready to settle down and start a family and you are not ready for that. I think you 2 really need to sit down and have a serious conversation as to where you both want this relstionship to go and figure out if this os really what you want to do with your lives. It is important for every couple married or not to agree on what they want to do for there future.

Sounds to me like your already married, i.e. came home. But if you want to continue to assert your independence, tell him you don't even want to go watch two people get slaved to each other. That should open his wallet.

Your boyfriend is refusing to listen to your words. He is only hearing what he wants to hear. He obviously sees you as a possession and the quicker he can own you, the better he will feel, so he keeps going on about marriage, though you keep saying no. Often marriage is a way of keeping control of someone, to keep them from achieving their desires, or from anyone else having them. Just like getting them pregnant would stop some women in their tracks and keep them dependent on the men. So you must not look upon this as a joke, otherwise he will think you are joking. And I wouldn't wait until he proposes. I would sit him down one day and say how much you like him (if you do) but he should stop mentioning marriage. That he will drive you away if he keeps talking about it because you are not ready for settling down and will only be ready in your own time, not his. Otherwise, without realising it, if you say nothing, you could find yourself being carried away by the moment when he proposes and doing something which goes against your instincts, only to pay miserably for it later on! Try to be clear in what you do when it comes to other people, otherwise you will end up giving ambiguous and confusing signals, or others will often deliberately misinterpret what you say for their own benefit. Good luck.

if you have no intent of spending your life with this man.. maybe you ought to cut him loose so he can find someone to be with that wants the same things in life he does.

do you never want to marry or you just don't want to marry him? You guys are really need to have a serious talk as to where your relationship is going and what you each want out of life.

as it is his sister he should pay for the gas and if he does ask ya all ya can do is say no and thats that and no to being kncked up!

I agree he should pay for the gas. Why do you not want to get married, is it him? Or not now?

hmm, I'm afraid that any comment I could make could be taken wrongly... or, worse still, correctly. The fact is, he's living in the "norm"--that is with expectations based on the "natural order" of things... One of you is going to have to give, and one or both of you are going to be truly unhappy... Perhaps you both need to do some soul-searching? And decide if you're "right" for each other, or not?

What does "knocked up" mean or refer to?

wow! that will be sad for him, maybe he is expecting that you're also thinking that your relationship will end up to marriage! ANyway, I hope he just tease you about the gas, LOL, He needs to handle it!

hehe... some question want ask you don't you want to married with you boyfriend? or you want keep the single life forever? or you don't love him? maybe this question is not polite but i want you think it carefully because i don't wanna you after the lose of regret

I loved reading this article. Although I am married, you would not believe how many strange looks that my husband and I get when we tell people we aren't going to have children. I mean what's wrong with us not wanting kids. Anyway, I wonder if your boyfriend thinks you will change your mind or if he thinks he can change your mind.

What a complicated situation. Normally, every single girl in this whole entire earth has a same dream. Getting marry and has a happy family. But in your case, lol!! I have no word on that and a lot of questions cross to my mind. One of it is, since you know by all means you are not going to get marry with him, why do you still date him around? It pointless because you know what do you wish precisely. I think it's better for you to find your Mr. right so maybe you will plan for getting marry. my personal opinion is it sort of like playing with his heart because you really know you are not going to be with him in the end while he's trying his hard to has a family with you.I'm sorry to say this and I know I don't have the right to say those, but that's my personal opinion.

i think for some reasons you fear marriage. but then why are you into arelationship? actuall;y any relationship can very obviously end into marriage. so it is nothing exceptional a si think.

all you can do is tell him one more time that you are not going to marry him. and I guess get ready to really embarrass him at his sister's wedding if he still doesn't hear you. And by the way tell him that he is springing for the gas or you won't be attending.maybe that will get his attention.

I never wanted to be married and have kids either. Then, after 6 years of living together, I accidently got pregnant. I cried. My BF got excited and started talking about getting married when his parents came down for the holidays, etc, two seconds after we found out I was preggo. We did get married then, mainly so I could be covered on his health insurance for the pregnancy. Fast forward 8 years, two more kids, and I have never been happier. I LOVE my family, I love my three kids, I love the thought of being with my husband forever (even if in this day and age, that's not a guarantee with ANY marriage). We've been together for 14 years total, married for the last (almost) 8 years. I am so glad I changed my mind. If I was you, I wouldn't go to the wedding if I didn't really want to. You may have a great time if you go, but if you feel that strongly, then skip it. Tell them you are sick, or you can't get off work, or just flat out tell them the truth, that you don't feel like it.

lol! I always said I would never get married - my mother has been married & divorced 3 times & I didn't see the sanctity in it. My husband however wouldn't have children unless we were married & I wanted children so we got married - he wasn't worried if we didn't get married ever, he just wanted to be married if we were going to have kids. I love being married and am glad we did it, but I understand you not wanting to get married & your boyfriend should respect your feelings!

I Can see your boyfriend want to marry you very much ,why no ?you dont love him ? but i thank that is inpossible,time ,you need time .i usually hear that don't want to get maryy which is the boy ,now become the girl . hehe