Guys : Have you ever cried after break up??

@TheDevil (840)
India
May 9, 2008 2:53pm CST
Recently one of my friend,Mark had a break up ....he was carrying with this girl for four years.....after break up only one thing is on his mind smoking and boozing....and whenever he sees his ex with some other guy ........he just becomes so silent ...as a statue ..n u culd see tht he just about to break in tears...although he never does tht in front of us .....all my other friends says tht its wierd for him to cry as he is boy ..... I feel they are also human being ...they also have emotions ....just wanted to knw it from the horses mouth ...do you have emotions after a break up
3 responses
aowaow
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
10 May 08
Your friend, Mark, was expressing his femininity side out. It's normal, but do it frequently will make him lost of his emotional identity as a man. If he continues this, he will be hard to move on, and that means he expect his ex back to his side one day. But, that's putting a bet on his relationship, which is hard to be gained. Later, hatred and empty compassion fill in his heart. That's bad for a man who's not a man anymore. Obsession is the last stage, by that time he will decide to have a singular love, and no one can change him by that time. He closes every deeper relationship unless his ex is back and admitted to him, but that's impossible. He did really love his ex. He needs time. As a friend, we may support him helping him slowly to forget the past agenda. I think he must be the one who had being broken up. The pain much greater had been received by him. Once I had a friend like yours, I can't stand for his behavior for 6 months. I said to him, "What you are doing right now is vice versing. You put "the care" in the wrong time scale. You always think about her when she's already your ex, but not while was with her. Take this as your experience. Why think about her anymore, while she never think about you even for 1 second." He did mad at me. This sounds rude to him, but it works. He never wanted to talk to me for 2 months. I understood why he did so. Lately, he opened himself to me and all of our friends. Now he dates with a new girlfriend who we think is much better than the last one. Sometimes he thanked me for that statement, I just smiled to him.
franciscoIII
@franciscoIII (59)
• Philippines
10 May 08
its not the girl that i cried for..i cried because of our attachment and shared moments together,,,,,,.
TheDevil
@TheDevil (840)
• India
10 May 08
We always try to cheer him up ...but it doesn't work... I also see tht whenever we have to go for dinner we don't go to pl;aces tht will remind him...Trust me but to no avail...it does not affect him...at the most he may just gives a smirk...Sometimes its just gets to you ...and oh my, u say about anything to tht girl either good or bad ..the way he pounces on you ....bUT I WILL TRY YOUR TRICK ONTO HIM..LETS C IF IT WORKS.... a VERY GOOD INSIGHT HUH....
elitess
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
11 May 08
Almost all guys cry in general, even if they would never admit it in a million years. Crying is a way of releasing the pressure. About a break up, yes i did, but in the end it was better that way for the both of us.
jessa
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
11 May 08
I am a girl but I will speak for my man. We had a fight before that ended up in "breaking up" stage... We both cried so hard because in some way, we are not really and don't want to go through with it... so yes, he cried as well of the thought of losing me. I love him. :)