My inlaws really sucks!!!!!!
By ayessa
@ayessa (1583)
Philippines
May 9, 2008 9:17pm CST
Im now really pissed off with my inlaws. I've been controlling my feelings before but now its beyond the limits. We've been arguing these past few days about taking care of my baby. I am accepting the fact that we do have different beliefs and strokes on parenting but they should also know how to respect me.
My daughter got sick last week and during that time my baby was at thir custody since me and my hubby works at the city which is so far from our house. When I learned that my baby is sick we came home to visit my baby and to my surprise the sickness of my baby was blamed to me! I was out the whole week then I was to blame! So I decided to take a vacation to take care of my sick baby.
After a few days she was okay. So I go back to my work and leave again my baby even I don't want it. After a week they called me again and they said that my baby has fever. So we came back and I was so shocked to see my baby. She was very red because of the rashes (that was they called it. Just a simple rashes) But I am not satisfied so I decided to bring her to the nearest hospital. I was crying when her doctor told me that its not a rashes but its a measles. I know how dangerous it is. And even we came back from the hospital and told them the finding my mother inlaw insist that its not a measles but just a simple rashes! I dont know if she's really a mom coz she seems not knowledgeable in taking care of the baby. Everytime we leave the baby to her she always got sick or she always lose weight.
I know it was my duty to take care of my baby but it was my inlaws who asks us to leave the baby to them since we haven't find a babysitter yet. Now I decided to get my baby and bring her to my work. I was lucky that my boss doesn't have to say anything about it.
Inlaws really is a da*n sh*t!!! I really hate them for that!
3 responses
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
10 May 08
It seems that this has happened more than once, so i think you need to find a child care or day care centre to put your child in to, if your inlaws are going to make life difficult then they shouldn't be the ones to watch your child.
I would NEVER leave my child with a family member if they were insistant on blaming me for everything, even though they needed to be taking responsibility for things that happen.
If the Dr says it's measels then i'd be making sure your mother in law knows she's wrong & i'd probably also tell her that since your daughter caught that virus while i her care, then you're no longer happy to have her watching your daughter. I know having family watch your kids is the cheaper option BUT it can also cause fights so i've always thought it wasa bad idea.
Perhaps, if funds allow, you could drop some of your workload - maybe you could go to part time work rather than full time? Then you'd be able to raise your own child the way you want it to be done.
Good luck!
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@feeding11 (222)
• United States
12 May 08
I feel sorry for you and your situation. My husband and I had decided before we even had kids that when I do get pregnant I will stay at home with them and he will work as many jobs as possible to keep it that way for the sake of being there for our kids all the time and we don't want anyone else watching them. It's been almost 7 years now and I am still an at home mom. Our youngest is going into kindergarten and he is insisting that I still be available for them, their schooling being involved, and all their activities. We make it better financially than we ever thought we would but they are our kids.
