do you have a tendency to behave stupidly in front of your crush?
By secretbear
@secretbear (19448)
Philippines
May 9, 2008 11:26pm CST
i feel like a teenager! i have this new crush and i really don't know how to act whenever he's around or whenever he's talking to me. i'm always lost for a good reply whenever he talks to me. and i feel like i'm wasting all my chances for a "getting-to-know-you" conversation. ^__^;; i'm behaving like a high school girl!
reminds me of my high school days during when i was totally crazy over a guy. just seeing him makes me blush and embarrassed! without him doing anything, just by being there, is enough to make my heart flutter. ^__^;; i remember one time, i went out of our classroom and i was about to ran into him but i got so shy and ran back to our classroom! i must have looked stupid in his eyes! but i just can laugh over it now. ^__^
do you have this tendency of acting or behaving stupid in front of your crush?
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
10 May 08
Sometimes I have. Like when I worked at Mcdonald's I had a cruch on a really cute guy there. Everytime he came around me I would drop stuff. He looked so good. I bet he thought I was crazy. I couldn't help having a crush on him though.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
11 May 08
what kind of stuffs did you usually drop? like the customer's order? good thing it didn't put you into trouble.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
11 May 08
Yeah actully I did I had to start all over and remake the order afetr I picked up the food I wasted go wash my hands and start over. It was mostly if he was beside me. He made me blush so bad. It was like a high school crush I had on him. My manager at first wanted us to work together. I was happy about that. Untill she saw what was happing. I really liked him so much but he made me so crazy being close to him. I'm not sure how well we would have done if we had went out on a date.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 May 08
that was really crazy! i know the feeling! i get clumsy too THEN, with words, with my actions, and everything, when my crush is around. i thought that was because i was still young and didn't know how to handle my emotions. i thought i'm over something like that now that i'm 26. but i guessed wrong. but i'm sure if we were able to get used with our crushes' presence, we would finally act normally around them and we would be able to contain ourselves.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
10 May 08
We all acted weird when we see our crushes it is part of a chemical reaction. I don't know what it called but we release chemical called, hmp, i don't remember, but that explain why our heart beats faster, we perspire , sometimes we lost appetite, can't sleep and can't breathe.We all have same stories and it is part of our body and it is normal. Well goodluck with your new crush, i hope she makes you happy always.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
11 May 08
ah.. my crush is a he grecy. ^__^;; i didn't know about that chemical reaction! but that's a really interesting bit of information.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
28 May 08
Yea..when I was in College, I always tried to catch his attention but I had no gut of getting close to him. No one in my friend knew him since we came from the different Department.It is enough for me that I will get his look and stare...LOL, I know I always looks stupid that time but who cares, for me I was deeply,madly inlOve!LOL
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
31 May 08
i wish i can be all out with my feelings. coz even if i like him so much, there are still things that restrain me from expressing what i really feel.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
i know if i am not able to tell him my feelings, i'd regret it for my whole life. i thought i'm the kind of girl who is a fighter when it comes to this kind of thing. i'm still a coward after all. ^__^;; but i'll do my best to do something about this. i just can't let myself suffer regrets again.
wow. he courted you and you denied him?? but why??
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Yea, life is too short not to express it..LOL, I wrote a letter to my crush before and he doesn't really know who I am, I also didn't sent him any picture that time, I just want to vent out my feelings for me to move on!LOL! We finally met, became friends, he courted but i didn't accept it!
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
11 May 08
I was quite rude and reproached the person who I was interested with and I can simply see it as acting stupid since I really like them all the while.
I don't know why I do such things that I'd regret doing afterwards. I mean, given a compliment and I wouldn't even show gratitude but, dismiss the comment and over power it with sarcasm if not cynicism. Then there are tendencies when I really do stupid things infront of them were so embarrassing.
I don't know were I got it from. I must've watched too much animes that had guys teasing girls, making them so angry inspite of their real feelings towards them. I don't tease though, I go rude and reproaching which, isn't really an inviting personality. I know that which makes it more stupid that I still go being rude and cynic to those that I really like.
After every stupid decision, I'd later think about it afterwards, thinking I could've done this which would've been more better and could've made me look cooler but, I know, I know, thinking about it doesn't change the fact they have rude and a pessimistic impression about me.
If I could just tune myself like a Rubik's cube, well, sorry for the stupid imagery.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 May 08
maybe you aren't just good with handling girls nor your feelings! you maybe rude to them but you didn't mean it did you? you're just trying to hide your real feelings. maybe you're just too embarrassed to give away what your real feelings are. you can't even give a hint that you like a girl! i think you're just too embarrassed to show it and you act rude because you want to cover it up.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
24 May 08
well, that's understandable! if you don't like the person who likes you, you'll surely have the tendency to be rude to that person! especially if that person is showing her affection to you to the max to the point that it becomes annoying! that will surely make you rude. because her way of showing her affection is embarrassing you too much. that is another reason why i can't totally show my feelings towards the guy that i like right now. he might get annoyed. but as far as current things are concerned, his actions are giving me some hope that maybe he likes me too. only i'm feeling a little frustrated because things are so slowwwwww!!! we still don't have each others cellphone numbers.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
18 May 08
You say it as though girls I came across were all objects with proper ways on "handling" them
But I get what you mean and I think I'll I'll accept that explanation you have provided, since I have no other idea why I am like so to those that I really like.
Then again, its really hard to distinguish things with those that I really don't like. I mean, your discussion is about those who have the tendency to behave stupidly infront of their crush. How about tendencies towards those individuals who like them but they don't like back in return..?
I'm mentioning this since I seem to behave the same way towards to those that I don't like liking me as well, being rude, sarcastic or/and pessimistic
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
11 May 08
haha.. It's just normal to do that.. When i was in high school, the same thing happen to me too, even though i'm a guy.. lOL ^_^ I will try ways and means just to get close to her.. ANd when i finally get the chance, i will try to avoid and be as far as possible.. lOL ^_^ I think she must be thinking, wat the heck am i doing.. LOL ^_^ But as i grow older right now, i wun hide anymore, instead i will show my emotions and interest to the other party, be more daring and adventurous.. hehe
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
24 May 08
i'm too shy to give him a love letter kun! i gave him a small gift (a spongebob hand towel) and i put a little note in it but its really not a love letter. it says
"(his name)!
i'm giving spongebob to you. ^__^
-secretbear"
i'm kinda worried that if i wrote him a love letter he might show it to his friends or other people might discover it and i don't want that to happen! that would be freaking embarrassing! i just hope that he already got the "message" when i gave him that gift. after all, it shows that i'm interested with him since i know he likes spongebob. ^__^;; but now i'm worried, i'm thinking of what he did to that small note. i'm wishing that he is keeping it safe.
i am not hoping that he would miss me once he goes to the US. i'm actually worried that he would forget me once he's there.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 May 08
i want to be daring and adventurous too kun. i'm actually thinking of confessing. especially now that his family have plans on going to the US and settling down there. i want him to know that i like him.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
18 May 08
If u are shy to tell him personally, u can write it on a letter and pass it to him.. BUt dun ever try to sms.. It will seem that u are not sincere ^_^ Go for it, secret.. hehe ^_^ Your future is in your hands..
Though he might not accept u now, but who knows he might be missing u alot while he's in the states?? haha
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@jannijanni (866)
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24 May 08
LOL! that's funny he must have thought you forgot something or maybe he had a hunch on what had just happened when you ran back to your classroom. ^_^
as for me, i'm known by many for doing stupid things infront of people i admire...the list would go on and on but the latest i did so far was when i bumped to my crush/schoolmate (he's a model and an actor in my country) because i was really rushing to catch up on my finals...instead of saying i said "i love you"
i feel so humiliated upon realizing what i did so i just ran away. =(
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
25 May 08
you said "i love you" instead of "sorry"?? LOL you have good guts! i wish i had your guts and tell my crush that i like him.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
i might not want to see the guy anymore too if i blurted out my feelings like that. but it would be a total relief! i can probably act as if nothing happened, so as to cover my embarrassment.
@jannijanni (866)
•
26 May 08
OMG!!! that wasn't my guts at all LOL! that was me dragging myself down the darkest pit on earth =(
but yeah, at least i somehow blurted it out and ended my agony...however, i wish he's never see me again. facial reconstruction anyone??
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
10 May 08
My dear, I seem to be behaving ridiculous in front of everyone lately.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
11 May 08
It is because I have not been getting enough sleep and my family is going through a lot of Hell lately.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 May 08
i'm so sorry to hear that rogue. i hope everything goes better for you. be strong.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
28 May 08
well bear, I understand exactly what you mean. Of course now I am over all my crushes but a time was when I would literally turn red in front of my crush. The line of crushes started from age 11/12 onwards (cant remember exactly that long back) and everytime I came in front of Him, I would be like a blubbering fool. Stammering incoherently, not knowing where to look and where to go, I would just mumble something and try to run away. And of course, guys have that typical knowing smile on their lips (oh those days of racy heartbeat and dreamy nights) and I would be like the typical lovestruck teenager. This ‘torture’ continued till my college days when I met the ‘love’ of my life really. Things were no different with him (oh I hated the blush most, it was a complete giveaway) but thankfully this time it was for keeps.
So where do you meet this crush of yours?
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
i guess that knowing smile on their lips makes us more embarrassed since they know why are we behaving stupidly that way. if the case was the guy is too dense to notice anything, then we would only be a little embarrassed and a lot more frustrated! frustrated because no matter how much signs we give him, he still wouldn't have a clue!
oh, he works in our neighbor office.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
24 May 08
You are kid infront of me. I just cannot control my emotions and get butterflies in my stomach, behave like a child, fidget, fumble, fall, and end up doing a mess! lol..
Yes, falling in love's like that - sweet, fresh, childlike and the most beautiful thing on earth.
Happy loving!
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@kuting (885)
• Philippines
26 May 08
not really. i think im just good at keeping my feelings and emotions at bay. my strongest crush was with a guy who is four years older than me. we were never introduced but i know him coz he's a real heart rob at our place and school. he's my crush on my whole college years. one time, i saw him accidentally at the mall... i was on the escalator and i don't know what happened but suddenly my legs felt like jelly and i feel like im having a heart attack! good thing my friend was with me and i leaned on her for support or else i might have swooned in there!
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
you must have been really affected with his looks! that seldom happens to me. but there was a time that i really did swoon over a young professor of mine because he smelled so good, so manly.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
24 Jun 08
Hello secretbear,
I never done anything like that before. When I think of it now, I feel like I just wasted my younger time not to try once - acting stupid in front of your crush and flirting around *laughs* In fact, I was a shy person and seldom start a conversation with others. Whenever I had a crush, I seldom take the first step to 'move forward' and go to the next level *laughs* I always wait and wait what will happen next. What kind of step he will take to approach me *big grins*
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
well, there are people like that. i have friends like you back in high school. they seem super shy and we were all expecting that they'd be married when they are old. ^__^;; but guess what, they got married before us! they got married early and we were like "whoa!". greatly shocked. and now, they have kids and we still don't.
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
10 May 08
hi!
during my younger days,i used to sometimes act funny in front of my crush basically to impress her,but with advancing age besides busy schedule and lack of time has now resulted in my more matured behavior.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
11 May 08
hi amirev! its different for me. even if i'm already 26, i still act stupidly at times in front of my crush. ^__^;;
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 May 08
your girl and i would definitely get along! i'm still childish too. i often act like a kid. even though i know how to act mature and all, i still prefer to act like a kid oftentimes. i think that way i can avoid complications.
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
11 May 08
hi!
26 years is not too old-my gurl's 26,but she is as childish as any teenager,behaves like a teenager.u know gurls they will never mature-or they will always pretend to be childish!just joking heh!heh!
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
10 May 08
yes, sometimes. When I was in high school I stutter when my crush talks to me. It is really stupid of me.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
11 May 08
cat got your tongue? i was often lost with things to say too when i was in high school.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
12 May 08
lolz yeah! My body will just freeze for a moment way back then... good thing I don;t do that anymore. heheeh
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@shyloo (108)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Hahaha! It reminds me also of my most unforgettable experience to a guy, when I was still in my teens. Shucks! Just remembering it makes me feel stupid and aghhh! It felt like not myself. Even though I had told myself to behave properly, all my plans got out of control that I ended up feeling ahm, bad and cheap. Well, at least I was able to do some nasty things Id never have imagine.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
28 May 08
oooh! what nasty things were that? i think even if this kind of feelings make us feel timid, it also make us bold. right??
@jawaharks (590)
• India
21 May 08
it happens some times. if we are overly excited, we tend to behave like that.
@karadiablo (313)
• United States
15 May 08
Even though you may feel silly, isn't it completely awesome to feel that way again. I really wouldn't know I haven't had a crush in a long time. But I imagine it would be very wonderful feeling.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 May 08
yeah! that's what i've been wanting to hear! its really nice to have this kind of feeling again. its been really a long long time since i last feel something like this. and now that i am experiencing it again, it feels so refreshing! and i feel like my life is more colorful than ever.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
24 May 08
Hi secretbear! What a cute question you got here... LOL!
I used to have the tendency to behave stupidly in front of my crush. Of course, that was long time ago. I mean, I only had those tendencies when I was younger. That was when I was in high school. And yes, even when I was in college. I remember having been clumsy whenever my crush is around too. Well, now? I do not behave stupidly anymore but I know I always blush. LOL!
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
24 May 08
hi dolce_vita! i'm glad you think that this is a cute discussion and not a stupid one. when we're young we really tend to be slaves of our emotions.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
15 May 08
i have i have experienced that....i become tongue tied when ever my crush talks to me.it seems that i cant think straight when i see her what i have in mind is always her,luckily,she was my wife now and we are happily married with 4 kids....i guess love works in many ways for us and crushes is the start of a good love.good luck!
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 May 08
awwww.... that is just so sweet john! what a very nice love story! i can be inspired with that!
@kylie_quistis (1220)
• Philippines
24 May 08
well, yes, I do. I think I behave stupidly every time I have a crush, lol :D. Actually, I am like you, whenever I talked to him, I am so nervous and my stomach is fluttering. Sometimes, I'll say to myself "why did I say that?". I feel stupid and very shy to him whenever he talked to me. And he talked to me often because he is one of my close friend. hehe :D But the good thing is he or any of friends didn't know that he is my crush. :D I don't know maybe despite I am embarrassed and inside I feel stupid, it didn't show or perhaps they are just sensitive. lol XD
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
25 May 08
i often get butterflies in my stomach too! and what's more stupid is i can't have a proper and long talk with him. when we're talking i'm always in a hurry to leave out of his sight because i get so nervous around him! i always feel like melting with happiness.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
24 May 08
i agree. we want to get their attention no matter how stupid we might look. i'm still doing it after two weeks!