Mother's Day Approaches: Do You or Did You Love Your Mother?

I loved my mother and missed her dearly when she passed.

Hi Pye-fortuanatley I am very close to my mother and though we have had our ups and downs I love her dearly so Mothers Day means an important occasion just to show my thanks and appreciation to her for all the lovley things she has done for me and how she has always been there for me-through my whole life-bright blessings littleowl

DIdnt have a mom like that. and I wil call her like I always do havent bought a present in a long time and now dont know if she would remember it, but then I am saving money to go see her next month so that will just have to be her present. also will be taking her to the family reunion

Pye, first let me start by saying I think you are a very brave soul for tackling this issue from the other side of the coin. I for one appreciate that you have. Love my mother I did, there is no doubt about that. I do have fond memories of her, especially her cooking, our shared love of horror and ghost movies. There are many things I think about and still get a giggle about my MOM. I do believe in my heart my mother did the best she could. Having said that her best was lacking in every definition of a loving protective mother. I am not going to regale all of the abuses, it is just not necessary. She was a bitter unhappy woman, I jumped through hoops trying to make her happy, like any child does. What she allowed to happen to me changed me forever and ever. I don't know who I might have been had she been a stronger woman. Like you I took care of my Mother though her illness that claimed her life. It was those years that were the hardest, i was a young mother, wife, employee and student, trying to do the best I could for everyone I loved including an ailing Mother. You think she would have given me something, but instead she only wanted more and more hoops and paces. I did it because I loved her and inspite of her being so hateful. Now that she is gone I do miss her, yet I feel relief at the same time. I do not dwell on the negative and instead I try and share the good things I have to hold on to about my Mom. For the most part it is the fondness that I share. I really think Mothers day is a celebration of Daughters.

My mom and I are not exactly the best of friends. We have our differences but the good thing is that we still talk to each other and visit each other. I would like to think that as we both grow older, we become more sensitive to each other's feelings and that our relationship is getting better with time. I love her even if we do not agree on a lot of things.

When I was younger I seriously really disliked my mother, I just couldn't get on with her or her ideas and just didn't believe half the things that she said. But with time I have been a little bit more forgiving and see her as a marvellous person that was born way out of time. She was brought up from a 'good (wealthy) family' in S Africa and so was mollycoddolled most of her young life. But she went out alone and was almost treated as royalty around the African nations as nearly everyone knew my grandfather. Even when she moved to the UK the SA newspapers were tracking her and had lots of articles on what she was doing etc. So when she was bringing me up she had no idea what it was like to be in London without a Dad - I was one of those b'stds which living with the stigma was horrible in my time but means nothing now! Now she needs me and I am there for her. I have a friend who I have known since I was 6 months old, now her mother is the epitamy of a coniving horrible wrench that I would love to blast out of the water and off this planet. She has not a nice word to say to or about my friend, treats her like sh*t too, forced my friend to give up her inheritance and then has named her grand-daughter as 'heiress', leaving not a penny to my friend in her will and lets the daughter and granddaughter know. Not very nice. Plus she is incredibly good at mind games and my goodness does she play them. YUCK. So there will be no mother's day for her! Instead my friend is coming to see my mother who loves her for what she is and what she has gone through and she makes her feel like her own daughter. Thanks for sharing this with us and I am truly sorry that you had to go through all that pain for so many years. People tell you to try and forget and forgive, huh, did they go through that sort of childhood and anyway if you don't want to forgive and forget then so be it. Just try to be happy with everything around you that is alive and well. BIG HUG.

Up until 20 years ago my Mum and me did not get on to well at all But then we had a big talk about everything and sorted it from there which I was so glad about, even though for the first 26 years I did not like my Mum because of how she was with me and what she used to say to me I still loved her since the talk we have been getting on great I am sorry that you and your Mum never got it sorted and managed to talk I don't look back and I have never held it against my Mum as it is was all over once we talked

My life is all about my Mother now. My mother is an Angel and I love her very much. She doesn't have more than few months to live. I still believe in miracles and miracle healing. At least she is not alone. My brother and his wife are taking care of her now. I want to give her all possible love and help her to have maximum comfort for last days.

Mothers day is always sad for me because my Mom was the best. And I miss her very much. We were always together.LOL She left this world way too young. I know you had to endure alot when your Mom was alive. And Im sorry for that. I wish it could have different for you.

To me my maternal grandmother filled the place in my heart for a mother. My birth mother left my brother and I when I was 5 years old and I never saw her again until I was sixteen. She was a nice sociable person but I did not have any feeling of love for her. My brother called her by her first name never "mother". Mother's day was not celebrated in my family. If fact I never even thought about it until I came to the states as it is a much bigger deal here than in Scotland.

Though I do not celebrate the mother's day every year, I think it is just yet another special day to remember your mother's love..Just note it is "MOTHER'S LOVE " and not "MOTHER"...I remember my mom everyday, call her daily..Once in a month, I do visit her..Mother's day is just a special day to think about mom..

I don't feel that anyone should feel that they have to give a card or anything else if the life they lived as they were growing up made them feel hostile toward their Mom because of the bad things she did. Not every Mom should have been a Mom. Just because you carry a child in your womb doesn't mean that you are going to be a loving Mom. Some women are cut out for motherhood and some aren't. That is the sad fact of life. It would be nice if every child on this earth had a great Mom but that isn't so. When I hear stories like yours and others that I have heard I count my blessings each and everyday that I grew up with a Mom that took good care of all of us kids and there were ten of us.

*sigh*.. i..guess i do,or i wouldn't still take care of her.. but some days,it's very very hard.she can be the most bullheaded,difficult woman sometimes.not to mention she utterly destroyed my childhood. i guess pity is a good word.i know some of the way she acted then,and still acts now is due to the meds they pump her full of.

My Mum is not maternal in any sense of the word, oh I do not doubt that she loves me at all, and she would do anything for me that she could but as a child I did not really feel that I came first in the scheme of things. My Mum and Dad ran pubs from when I was the age of about 5 years and so the pub always came first. They would both work long hours downstairs and so I would be on my own in the flat literally all the time and as I was an only child it could be very lonely. I used to be out all the time, I was never in as soon as I could I would be off out with my friends getting up to all kinds of mischief. So I would say that there is not a close bond with me and my parents at all but there is love.

I was raised by my grandmother so I do not have those bad memories you have, I did feel rejected by my mother, all my formative years but when my grandmother passed away, I was already an adult but she did become a mother to me at that point, and she does make a great grandmother and great grandmother.

A phone call to my mom to wish her a happy Mother's day is the extent of my acknowledging it. I was here half the day, other half I ended up sleeping. Didn't realize how tired I was till I laid down so hubby could rub lotion on my dry back. No wonder it's been itchy last few days. He was rubbing it and said it was really dry. I ended up sleeping for 4 hrs. and hubby left, came home, and left again during that time. Not sure if he's coming back home or not tonight since he tends to fall asleep over at his parents watching tv while fishing.

I best I can say about my relationship with my mother is mostly ambiguous. I neither loved nor hated her, she mostly generated feelings of indifference. It makes people think I am the cold unemotional one of the kids, but that is just the way it is. My mother gave me little reason to really love her for she was pretty unemotional herself. We celebrated Mothers day as a family and we all enjoyed it for the most part. There was a lot about her I didn't like but I didn't let it control my overall outlook. I don't feel my overall outlook or personality has been changed in any way, I consider myself pretty well balanced. I work in the Mental Health Field so at least I am close to help if I ever need it...lol.

Hello pyewacket, I am really sorry that you had a mother like that and have no fond memories of her. I don't really know how much hurt it would have caused to you knowing and enduring a relation in negative sense that is supposed to be one of the loveliest of all relations. I had always assumed, without conditions, that mothers are only the most loving and caring beings living on this planet, at least for their children. But, ever since I have come to this site, an year ago, I came to know about more and more individuals who didn't have this relationship as good as I always thought it to be. I had knowledge of very, very few cases before too, but I took them as very rare exceptions, I wasn't quite that right, I guess! One reason for this not so accurate assumption of mine were personalities of my own mother, my Aunts, my neighbors and any mother I knew in my homeland. Even my friends mothers showered their love and care not only on their own children but on me too. So, my perception of a 'mother' was nothing but a most loving and caring person who would sacrifice everything for the good and comfort of their children. I am really sorry that you have not had that privilege. It is, in fact, ironic for me that I am calling it a 'privilege' now what I have always thought to be a given. My mother...She is one of the loveliest persons living on the face of earth. I have many memories from my very early age. We are seven brothers and sisters. When she was married, my father wasn't a well off man, they were poor. After some time, my grandfather fell ill and my mother had to take care of him too since there was no one else and my father worked hard. She kept the house, cooked food for us, and as we were poor back then, she had to sew clothes at home, she kept us in clean clothes and always fed us well even when she and my father had to be hungry so that we are well fed. Sometimes my father worked for not less than 18-20 hours a day and my mother after all days work still gave him company when he brought small works at home to earn a little more. She also sew clothes for others for a little extra income. With all that stress, hard work, lack of fulfillment of her own material desires, she never failed to show her love for us and never complained about the tough conditions she was in. She and my father always took some time out to teach us and help us with our lessons and school work and tell us stories to instill in us good character and ethics. I don't know how much strength, courage and endurance she has, but I know that I can't measure them. With all that, how could I think of a 'mother' anything else than a personification of 'love' and 'care'. I can never return her what she did for me and gave me even if I offer her my life. She is worth much, much more than my life and anything that I have. I often pray that she outlives me as I pray for my father, my siblings, my wife, my son and few of my friends. It would be a sad world if I lose her. I wish for every child that they have such a wonderful mother that I am blessed to have.

I learned from my MOTHER that education starts from someone who cares. Not necessarily needs money to enroll in an expensive schools. That needs patience in order to learn and be obedient. She taught us the values of being humble, be patient, to care, to give more understanding and the unconditional love. For me my dearest mom is not perfect but the values i learned from her that i passed to my children is so much so that i can say she's so wonderful and she's the only one we've got that no one can ever take her place. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

well friend....i was very much attached to my mother but there was one point on which i used to feel bugged up and that was that she was short tempered and i dont blame her for that because she had gone through hell.She had seven operations done on her and you can understand that how a person might be surviving.Infact as far as i can remember she had been living on medicines and there was not a single day that she did not have medicines.She had been suffering from blood pressure and that stayed on till the end of her life.In a fit of anger she would throw anything which was near her.Infact one day she was having hot boiling coffee and there started an argument between my mom and me and she without seeing that she was holding a hot cofffee threw it at me and i got blisters in my hands and chest.Now that she is no more and i have no complaints against my mom.I want that my mothers sould should be rest in peace.She had otherwise done a lot for our family and we all cannot forget that.