What do you do when.......
By Magikrose
@magikrose (5429)
United States
May 10, 2008 9:15pm CST
a friendship goes sour over a misunderstanding and one appologizes for her misunderstandings yet the other wont even acknowledge that she has made mistakes too.
See I had this friend who I helped move into a bigger appartment because her other appartment was too small for her and her kids right next door to me. I put my neck on the line with my landlord for her. Because of me she gets re-united with an old high school boyfriend. I was always there for her when she needed a shoulder to cry on. She is on depression meds and on many occasions didnt feel stable so I would always help her out, next thing I know I am getting ignored because I made a judgement call and feared she snapped and was going to hurt one of her children because of something he did, so I called the police. Now granted I understand I should have stayed out of it but again I feared she snapped due to many other things going on at the time I feared that IF I didnt do anything at all and something happined to that child that I would regret it later. She is not totally mad at me and refuses to even say as much as "hi" in passing and is totally rude to my husband and allows her children to ridecule us for no reason.
Do any onf you think there is a way for me to make the peace enough so that we can live in this complex without any problems?
1 response
@motherof35108 (192)
• United States
12 May 08
what you need to is leave me and my family alone.what you put in here about me was uncalled for. i have been tempted to go to the cops for what you have written but i'm not you know why? two wrongs do not make a right.as for you calling the cops on me was very wrong. if you were any kind of friend you dang well that i would not have put my children in harms way. i am a single mom of three and have been doing everything on my own. i am the one teaching my kids right from wrong. you have you , your husband, and your roommate to help raise your children and ur mom is raiseing your son. so until you are walking in my shoes i would not talk. what my son did was wrong and he got punished for it. it was no thanks to your son. so like i said leave me and my children alone and as for my children disrespecting your husband is a lie. my son asked ur husband to not put his hands on our dog. you know he is outside and everytime he is outside your husband has to walk on my side and push my dog. you have a front door and a back door there is no need for you or your husband to walk on my side.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
12 May 08
It is not just the issue with your dog. It is also many times 1 of your boys and I wont name names who will walk right in front of the car when we are leaving or coming home and then yell at us to stop when he could clearly wait a few seconds for us to move but NO he has to get right in the way when he sees us moving. Just the other day my husband got yelled at by 1 of your boys because they accused my husband for moving there bikes and scooters and they got dented when my husband didnt touch them at all. It is not our fault your boys leave there stuff all over the yard and in the driveway to get run over.
The main purpose for this discussion was to try to find a way to make it so that we ALL can live in this small space together peacefully, WITHOUT any one getting picked on. 2 of your 3 children are civil and polite to everyone but 1 is constantly being rude to me, my husband and my roommate almost on a daily basis and it is not necessary because we are not doing anything to him. I dont care if your kids play with mine because for the most part they get along. I would appreciate if your 1 son would stop the petty unnecessary name calling of the adults in my home.
You know all too well that Ihave left you alone and have not said anything to you in months. All Iam asking for is for a little humanity and common neighborhood respect among neighbors. I am the one trying to rectify a wrong that was made but obivously again I am the bigger person who can admit my faults. I am the one appoligizing. It really is obivious who the bigger person is.
As far as walking your shoes. Well I have BEFORE I got married. I lived the life of a single mother for quite a few years so I know exactily how hard it is. I know what it is like to have to work and have children to take care of. the diffrence is I also had to pay daycare on top of my other bills where you dont because you have a child old enough to be there for your younger ones for a short amount of time.
Dont sit there and give me that your life is harder than mine just because Ihave a husband and you dont. Everyones situation is completely diffrent and it dosnt mean that one is worse than the other.
