What did your mother tell you that you still remember?

@coffeebreak (17798)
United States
May 10, 2008 9:48pm CST
With Mother's Day tomorrow - what one thing do you remember your mother saying/telling you that later in life, you still remember or finally understand? Mine would be when she taught me how to do addition of 9's. I had a heck of a atime figuring that out and she told me to take 1 away from the other number, add it to the 9 to make 10 and then you just add what's left of that other number to 10 - how easy. Like 9 + 6 ...take 1 away from the 6 and add that to the 9 to make 10 and you are left with the 5 - so 10 + 5 = 15. Never had trouble adding 9's again! Another thing she said to me as we were moving from Ohio to CA just after I graduated from high school and all my friends etc...and I was mad about having to leave the boy I (thought)loved and she told me "you can't life on love!" But of course I had to actually learn that on my own and boy was she right!
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• United States
11 May 08
I remember when i was 15 and I wanted to date this 17 year old boy and my mom threw a fit. She told me that was too much of an age difference, and i came back with the fact that my mom is 14 years older than my dad. She sat me down and we had a talk about dating and boys and all. The one line i remember most is when she said, "Go for a younger man, they never mature anyways." Now, I know what she's talking about. Granted im not that much older, but I understand what she meant.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
12 May 08
I am going to say "to funny" as I AM much older and I most CERTAILY know what she is talking about! I married one 10 years older - didn't matter back when I was in my 20's and 30's. Thought they were all nuts. But once in my 40's - that put him in his 50's and boy oh boy did the age difference make a huge difference! Only his was in reverse - now he was to old to do anything including work! Listen to your mother, staceylee!!!!
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
11 May 08
my mother told me, "don't listen to what people say, look at what they do." she was so right about that. people can you look you in the eye and tell you anything they want you to hear and then just do the exact opposite. so when someone would make all these promises to me i would wait and actually watch what they would do before i learned whether i could trust them or not. it has helped me greatly throughout my life.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
12 May 08
Oh boy, at least you learned that early on. Took me about 50 years to learn that! GOod thing you listened to your Mother!
@itsmepinky (1300)
• India
11 May 08
My mother used to always tell me whenever i got less marks that its not the end of the world. The world is full of new opportunities. Move on. This has helped me a lot in dealing with failures. ~Pinks~
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
11 May 08
Mom always told my sister and I that there is no stupid question, just the one's you don't ask. She always said 'follow the trail of the money' oh how true in so many things.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
11 May 08
My mom just didn't know things like that. And I was never encoureaged in school or to go to college (although my brothers were) and was told to find a husband and have kids and be a wife/mother. I did just that. PRoblem is...like you said...follow the trail of the money. WIthout an education you won't be able to find that trail and since I didn't have one, when I needed to find that trail it started at miinumum wage to support 2 kids. I preached that to my kids and it has helped them alot. THey are also seeing that things I told them, at the time they thought it was stupid, but now, they are saying "oh, mom told me about that. She was right. SHould have listened!" at times. Love those kids!
@vaishalik (237)
• India
11 May 08
My mother always says that try to be very good to everyone even who have treated badly with you, cause you are not bad. Also says your hand & head must be be always busy upto your end, laziness is your biggest enimy who is living in youself only. Also Health is wealth & you can't do anything in your life without health. & much more. & now I am transfering all these thoughts to kids.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
11 May 08
ALot of it is what is in your mind as to how you feel about yourself. Just basic general theories. But they work! Happy Mother's Day!
• India
11 May 08
hello today is the mother day so happy mother's day and my mother told me that in future u never hurt anybody and become a good human being in life. You must be helpful for everybody in life.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
11 May 08
DId your mother know my mother? Mine did/said that same thing!
• United States
12 May 08
Wow. I can't follow the adding of 9's.I just memorized 9 plus 1-9.I remember some of her favorite sayings. One is " There is more room out than in". She was talking about gas but I think it fits when talking to my gay friends that are still in the closet. She was for gay rights and I think she will like my new version.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
13 May 08
I know that this sounds odd, but the one thing my mom told me that I still remember and that it has been quite useful for me to remember was that " Life is not fair." . I know, I know, I could remember the millions of nice things my mom told me, and I do, but none has proved as useful as this one. Oh wait.. maybe the " when you marry him you'll be marrying his family too" that one kind of proved to be true as well LOL
@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
11 May 08
Before my mama would punish me she would say "This is going to hurt me worse than it is going to hurt you." Well, now how in the world was that true. She was the one dishing out the punishment not on the receiving end. How could this hurt her and if it was going to hurt her worse than it hurt me why in the world would she do such a thing. Just didn't make sense. Well..........................along came my three kids. Yep, Mama was exactly right. "This is going to hurt me more than it is going to hurt you" Yep, I said it. I meant it too. It hurt me so bad to have to punish my kids. I knew I had to for their benefit to learn how to act but almost every time I went to punish them I would hear my mama telling me "This is going to hurt me more than it is going to hurt you." Then I'd proceed to tell my kids the same thing. Then.................. along came the grandchildren. Wow! It hurts more to punish them. I guess it is the aging process. The older we get the mellower we get. LOL My precious mama and daddy have passed away, but you know my mama and daddy became the smartest people that I knew. Isn't that strange how they are so dumb when we are young and the older we get wow the become the wisest?
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
11 May 08
isn't that the truth - they got wiser the older we got! And yes, it does hurt! Happy Mother's Day!
@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
12 May 08
My Mother told me plenty growing up and even now since I live with her. A lot of them I remember, some I forget. but they make a lot of sense. So here goes. The world is a cruel world and don't forget it. Never left your right hand know what your left hand is doing. I am sorry I told my ex that cause he used it against me so I know that advice is sound and real. whenever you get paid, put some away for later because you don't know when it will rain. Also put some to your bills and don't pay it all at once. Whenever you have something you want to do ask yourself these three questions. Will My Parents approve? Will God approve? Will I approve?
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
11 May 08
I remember her insisting that when I was grown up I would be married to the yellow-haired boy who lived next door. He was an OK playmate in grade school, but trust me on this, not marriagable material. And not to put on "airs" or rise above my "station" and to eat all the food on my plate because elsewhere in the world there were starving children. She told me it was ok to have holes in your clothes if they were neatly patched, but never to go out in dirty underwear because you never knew when you might end up in the hospital. I remember that she never said the 3-letter word that starts with S aloud and even whispered when she spelled it. Even if there was nobody else around for 1/2 mile. Oh, and she was always yelling "Stop using those big words!" Which, of course, was the motivation for me literally reading the dictionary in order to learn to use even bigger ones just to annoy her. She was always saying "Sticks and stones will break your bones but words will never hurt you" but whenever somebody, especially my Dad used a word she didn't like, she would go OFF and usually hit them.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
11 May 08
I always believed the sticks and stones thing, but in the past years, have totally learned, yes, words do hurt! Sounds like your mom raised a wonderful kid! Happy Mother's Day!
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
11 May 08
I remember although my mother probably hated my father, she never spoke badly of him, although he always spoke badly of her... She was the better parent for that and many other reasons. I will always remember that. My father had a new family and acted as though his "old" family meant little to him... Long story.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
11 May 08
Yes, a good mom for sure. My dad did the same thing after a divorce (39 years of marriage) , not that mom spoke bad of him, but she would say minor things about what he did or acted like from time to time. I always thought she just needed to vent to someone as she didn't have any friends. But he never said anything to any one. Then she got a boyfriend and he started talking!
• Philippines
11 May 08
Hi Im a newbie here. Well, for me, one thing that my mother use to tell us that I will never forget is that she is about to pass away. I was just 7 yrs when she started telling it to me and my sibling, thinking why does she have to always make us cry. Later on I realize that what she just wanted to do is to prepare us so that when that time comes well be able to stand strong and so I did. My mom passed away when I was just 14 and until now my friends keep on telling me how amazed they are of me because I was able to handle things easily at a very young age. Thanks to my mom I grew up strong and in control of my life. Add me up..
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
11 May 08
Good for you! Good for your mom too! "back then" it just doesn't seem like any of it makes sense, but as the years go by, we are wealthy in the sense!