Stop interfering - for goodness sakes!

Sounds to me like the women knew each other. If the mother proceeded to follow her around the store? If thats the case they may be inlaws or just friends. I personally would have removed little miss from the store spanked her bottom and took her home. Then she would have gone to bed and I would have a sitter so I could return to the store. However if she did not know the lady then there would have been another scene in the store me taking the lady out!! Strangers should never interfere.

I think the woman who stuck her nose in is probably a control freak, the mom should have stood up to her an just as the control freak went to reach for the child the mom should have put a stop to it right then and there. Controlling people need someone to put them in their place.

Is she not a close friend? Unbelievable! I mean if she is totally s stranger, I don't think so it's proper to do it. I would agree with the moter's strategy, She knows best her child SO I am pretty sure it was the best method to stopher, If I was the mother, I will start insulting those people by minding their own business and own life! Just very unpleasant!@

I agree with you 100 percent. People should not interfer unless the child is in danger of hurting herself or others. The mother was doing just fine and the child was trying to manipulate the situation.

I've been a mom for almost 5 years now. And with my son, I've seen all the tantrums. Now, whenever I see a child having a fit especially in a public place, I completely understand how the mother feels. But I will not intervene like that. For one thing, it's a total disrespect for the mom. And it will only confuse the child. Mom's always the one who disciplines her and all of a sudden, a stranger pops out from nowhere and whisks her away like that! I approved of what the Mom had done. To just let her child slowly calm down on her own, as long as her child can still see her. To assure the child that Mom is just there. It's just a little uncomfortable for tantrums to happen in a public place. Especially when there are those who thinks that the parent "lets" the child misbehave. They don't understand the real situation and they assume that they know better. It will always be a different tactic of pacifying a child for every parent. Because I've experienced that for my nephew, trying to pacify him during his tantrum makes it worse. His mom explained to me that in a few minutes, he will calm down and eventually stop crying and screaming. I would have intervened in some way if I've witnessed that the child is being physically inappropriately hurt by the mom that made her cry like that. But if it was a tantrum and it's plain to see that the child is not harmed in any way, I might have said something to the mom to at least help her feel a little better.

Excuse the terminology, but what a f*cking b*tch! Even if she was a relative or friend, she is not the child's mother and has no right to interfere with or undermine the mother's parenting, and if she was a stranger, then even worse! It's great that the mother could use this tactic and that it was working effectively. It seems uncommon these days that parents will discipline their children or give boundaries, and instead will do whatever the child wants to keep them quiet and agreeable - breeding a spoilt generation for the most part. Good on her for letting her child have her tantrum and not give in - I also hate the noise of a crying child, but a lot less than I hate the sound of a spoilt narcissistic adult - I'd rather it be weaned out early. =P I know my mum did this to my sister and I when we would have tantrums, on the occasions that we then refused to move, she would just walk to the end of the aisle and wait until we got over it. =P People should keep their unwanted advice and actions to themselves as far as I am concerned. I would understand if the mother was doing something wrong or was visibly distressed and actually needed help, but you don't just do as you please with another person and their child. =)

I would not have interefered at all, I would have felt bad for the mom, but I would have told others to just leave the area because I know exactly HOw that mom would feel, you always let the kid cry it out PERIOD. depending on the age, I know that some people when their kids have a fit will tell them they are going to leave....I have a friend who had done that, and the first time her son had a fit, she took his hand and left. He never had a fit again in any store. Also a text book case in handling behavior.

First of all I would of told her to get her hands off my child, too many people want to stick their nose in where it is not wanted. I learned that a long time ago when while out with some friends I saw a man beating the h*ll out of a little woman in the place, no one was doing anything just watching, I mean he was hurting her, so I got up to help the woman, didn't seem to me anyone called the cops and instead of being great full, she turned around and slugged me. So much for helping! I f I have a child that is throwing a fit in the store, I usually left the store and handled it outside so that the rest of the people shopping didn't have to listen to it. The woman had no business putting her hands on the child, and she sure didn't have any business pushing the cart off, we probably would of had a brawl right there in the store, how would I know where she was going with my child. You have to let them scream it out now a days god for bid you put your hands on one of them to correct them, you would be arrested in a minute.

If some stranger did that to me, I'd be all over her. I'm a pretty passive person but if stranger ever ever put my child in a cart and walked off...Oh....yup..you got my blood boiling. those sort of things happen all the time with little kids. I just ignore it and let the mom deal with it. I would not do anything at that point to add to the mom's stres level.

actually if the mother could have done it the verybest thing to do when a two or three yr old throws a tantrum is to pick up the baby and wrap your arms tightly' around her and sit down somewhere .then talk calmly and softly 'to the child. The child will soon cease the tantrum as she is on sense overload and is actuallyacting up because' she is overtired and does not know how to handle it. Then usually the worn out baby will fall asleep. the other method works but its annoying in apublic place and actually takes a little longer to calm down.But the other woman had no business interfering unless 'she was someone the mother knew.

If this is my child, I would want no one to touch them at all, unless I said so. Now if this person was with me, and I gave them permission to pick up my child, then yes... I refuse to have some stranger come up and just pick my child up. I did not tell them to do this! You know as long as you are in this world, you will have to deal with people whom don't know how to stay out of things. It is crazy how they got themselves involved, but they feel the need to be. It was not this woman's place to pick up her child like this. The mother was already doing her job as to letting her child feud on her own. This was all that was needed! That woman had no right! I would not appreciate this either!

This is just my own personal opinion, but I think the little girl has mom wrapped around her little finger. The correct thing in this situation for the mom to do would have been what the stranger ended up doing. Put the child in the cart and go about the shopping. Showing the child you will not tolerate their tantrum will teach them that it's pointless to throw one. But of course, the child's tantrum is not the topic of discussion. As the mother of that child, I would be outraged if someone else butted into my parenting style without me asking. The fact that this woman allowed it shows me that she is a push over, which also leads me to the conclusion that the child has learned this as well, hence the tantrums. As an onlooker, I would have been outraged at the stranger for butting in, and may have said something to her, but at the same time I would have agreed with what she was telling the mother. There are times I am in a store and see a child throwing a fit and the parent saying "If you don't stop I'll put the toy back" but in the end the child still gets the toy regardless of their behavior. This infuriates me, and of course I want to say something, but rarely do people listen to an outsider's opinion, so I keep going and complain to myself. Let me also point out here, I have 5 children. The oldest 3 have never in their lives thrown a temper tantrum. The youngest is only 3 months, so doesn't count. My 2 year old does throw tantrums, and I know why. I spoil him rotten, and give in to his every whim, which I never did with my other children. He was my baby (I assumed the last) until recently, so I did things differently. I am correcting my mistakes now.

that woman had no business even putting her hands on that child. i am surprised the mother did not say something. i know i would have. and yes, she was doing the right thing by letting the child alone and getting past the tantrum because when you give in to them when they act like that they think that is how to get their way. it would have made me mad too to watch this going on.

Hello jewelenterprises, I must say that the woman that put her hands on the child is a no no. No one other than that parent that is with you should be able to put their hands on the child. I would have took a stand and got my baby back from the woman and called or had the store to call the police. There are too many bad things happening to children these days for me to let a stranger take hold of my baby. With my baby crying making all kinds of noise and now some woman i don't know comes and take control of my situation. Now that would have taken me over the top. Now that i got that out of the way. I got to say you have to teach a child as they progress. Meaning you have to teach them and when you teach them it won't be so hard on you. I know every child is different and so are mothers. I was the kind of mother to teach my 1yr.old how to pick her toys up and put them back in the toy box. I potty-trained her when she was 11-months old. She started pulling up on the tables trying to stand not yet walking and i knew then that it wouldn't be long before i would potty-train her. It wasn't long before she started walking. I found out when you teach your child anything when they are babies they think that they are doing something and they repeat what you teach them with a smile. So i taught her at an early stage. She acted out on me for the first time in a Big department store and she never did it again. I didn't let her take control I Did. I knew then if i let her throw a tantrum on me i would regret it for all the days to come. She never threw one at home or anywhere else after that day. I nipped it in the bud. I had to for her benefit. Life is not going to let you have your way because you have a fit. Life will use that against you chew you up and spit you out. I wanted her to be the kind of person to grow up knowing that if you want something you have to work for it and work hard to get it and to get it for yourself. Not to depend on someone else to get it for you. That's why i felt so strongly about teaching her as she progressed, and it worked. By the time she was 1 1/2yrs.old she knew how to conduct herself anywhere. We went everywhere together, she didn't touch anything if she wanted something she would ask for it not go get it and then ask me. It really worked. So I don't blame the baby for any of her outburst. And maybe the mom just didn't know how to deal with her child. I hope she finds a way, because one day that same child will be a teen and by then well i hope the best for them.

Well said although I think that we need to look at both sides affected by the tantrum. The otheer people in the shop may feel that they are entitled to shop in peace and therefore it has become their business also. Maybe mum could have taken the child out of the shop to another area until it settled down. After all the child was getting the reaction it wanted by embarrasing mum and getting attention. By removing the child it would realise that the attention it craved was not there any more. However, as far as the handling of the situation goes people should butt out and let mum deal with it in her own way. Wouldn't consideration on both sides in life be a wonderful thing?

This thing is just a very common thing in our life.In our life there are always some people interferce in things that are absolutely none of their business. I hate these people too. Sometimes,our strategy would be effectively wrecked by their interference.