No Happy Mother's Day For Me.
@Remembering1996 (2219)
United States
May 11, 2008 8:47pm CST
I must say that today being mother's day and all you would expect your kids to give you cards, flowers, and or at least say happy mothers day right? well today I came home from work and a few people from work said happy mother's day to me befor I left work and I was touched for I always talk highly about my son to everyone there. I came home and I stayed up as long as I could waiting for my son who is 9 to call from his father's house for my son lives w/ him and say "Happy Mother's Day mom" but no I waited til 10am in the morning with no call from him and knew I had to get some sleep for I had to work tonight. I have caller I.D. and there number would of come up if they tried to call. When I got up tonight I checked the caller I.D. to see if his father let him try and call me and there number wasn't there. I was mad towards his father for not even remembering to have my son call me and his step mom I'm sure got all the praise for it when ok I'm fine w/ that but still I am his real mother don't you think I deserved to at least get a "Happy Mother's Day" as well? I wanted to call my son tonight but I decieded
not to for I didn't want my son getting all upset w/ his dad for not haveing him call me to say happy mother's day and his father come up w/ some excuse of "oh we were going to have him call you but we got caught up in other things and it got to be late" I always hear this
saying from his father and it just urke's me. I'm not the one to vent out like this but this of all holidays is the most special to me and to be shut out like I was it just hurts. Do you think I should have called or not? seeing where my son would have gotten mad at his dad or just have left it alone like I did? I have been thinking about this for some time now today/tonight and I still am wondering what I should have really done. What would you have done? I opologize for the venting to everyone in here it's not like me to do this kind of thing but needed to get it off my chest. I hope for the mom's out there that did get cards, flowers, and had their kids call them just to say "Happy Mother's Day" that it was a nice one. Thanks for listening.
3 responses
@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
12 May 08
I'm so sorry this happened to you, and I know how much it hurts.
Been there, done that. Over and over again.
My sons are now 26 and 23 and I don't hear from them at all. birthdays, Mother's Day, Christmas - nothing. It's been that way for years.
I tend to just treat it like any other day and try not to get caught up in the emotion of it all, but it's hard, as I'm sure you know.
Happy Mother's Day ...
@Remembering1996 (2219)
• United States
25 May 08
I was pretty hurt but a few days later when I called to talk to his father and say hi to my son he did end up saying "mom i'm sorry i didn't call you on mothers day and i say it now but it's late" I was so touched by this and started to choke up for I wasn't mad or anything at him I just thought it would have been nice. I told him it was ok and thankyou. He said he was going to make me a card and give it to me. You know how it feels for your kids never call you on the most important holidays and you accept it and don't get caught up in the emotions which I give you credit for. I hope your kids do one day to start remembering who cared about and for them the most which was you and that they can take that time to pick up a phone or send a card just to say hi and that they are thinking of you. I wish you luck on this. Thanks for the response and take care.
@marchgale (260)
• United States
12 May 08
I'm sorry to hear about your son not calling you.But I'm glad you realize that it's probably not his fault.I know other women in simular situations.Because the people involved in their childrens lives are very insensitive,and are not concerned with anyone but themselves.Don't you worry,what comes around goes around.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
12 May 08
i dont want to sound cold here... i really dont, so please take my comments here as just simly being someone that hasnt a clue about you, or yer life or any of this situation at all. im fully aware i am ignorant of the facts in any of this.
i dont bother to call my father on fathers day.. or xmas.. or any other day for that matter.. for one simple reason. hes a jerk. he treated me and my siblings like crap our entire childhood.. he shows to respect or consideration for my husband or children.. hes a rotten miserable person, and i have no use for him at all. ive known plenty of parents.. who complain or feel wounded because their children dont call or have much invlvement in their lives.. and with most of them (emphasis on MOST, not all) they really havent any right to feel slighted by the lack of affection their children give towards them. i spent alot of time taking care of.. being there for.. my step sisters kids all their lives.. it was to me they came to for the holidays, and the birthdays, and someone to lean on.. because their mother was too busy booting a needle into her arm or being in jail.. and then shed sit back and complain to others that i was "stealing" her children. if i hadntve been there.. theydve had NO ONE to make them a cake and light their candles on their birthdays.. and santa never wouldve come to their home. so i ask you..
you said yer son lives with his father and stepmother.. why?
your son isnt a toddler.. if they were celebrating mothers day with his stepmother.. he was aware of the day.. if hed asked for you.. would his father been so cruel as to not allow him to call you? if he didnt bother to seek out his own mother.. why?
again i state here i am thoroughly clueless as to the situation.. and im not trying to be cruel. but from experience.. not everyone that spawns an offspring are deserving the accolades or even recognition for doing so.
