i know i am a working wife, and why it seems that i always have "vacancy"?
By plumwish07
@plumwish07 (4057)
Indonesia
May 11, 2008 10:05pm CST
its quit disturbing me at this moment. me and my husband have work outside so in daily working day, both of us not available in home. and when weekend come both of us tend to spend time together either going outside or just stay at home.
most of my neighbor is a house wife and they seem jealousy with us and always thinking that we always have much money per month (cause both of us working)
when i met them when i walking, they often asking me to give them job or if not looking for job for them.
i just don't understand why there is steorotip that i am able to give them job or help them finding job? i am just general employee and can't do anything to put someone working in my office without any procedures
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i always telling them about my position and it seems they still asking again and again about job for them. gee, i just don't know how to do then.
if you are in my position, what you gonna tell to them? since if there is any vacancy in my office, they are not qualify enough in their graduation and age
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i always telling them about my position and it seems they still asking again and again about job for them. gee, i just don't know how to do then.
if you are in my position, what you gonna tell to them? since if there is any vacancy in my office, they are not qualify enough in their graduation and age2 people like this
12 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 May 08
It seems that wherever we all are there is always jealousy if some people seem to have more than others. I do not know why that should be especially if the people go out and work for the money and the things that they have.
It is not your responsibility to get them jobs, I would just say to them that if there is any vacancies where you work then they have to apply for them like everyone else because you are not in a position to have any influence over who gets a job. If they do not have enough qualifications to get that job then they will have to go and earn them!!
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
12 May 08
this kind condition can't be avoided by me also dear friend. the sad thing in this condition, when i told them that unfortunatelly there is no vacant available in my office, they seem don't believe me and start thinking that i don't want them to be part in my working field.
oohhhhh, geee...what a fatigue situation!
@subha12 (18441)
• India
12 May 08
i think not only you. very often when you are into a good job, other people who are not working think that you can also provide jobs to others. it happened to me also. i work in a MNC. now the neighbours have asked my mom to look for a job for their sons or daughters.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
12 May 08
well, so i believe you understand how irritating to receive those kind request, right? i just wonder why they don't start to find any vacancy from newspaper perhaps? i know its difficult to find job nowadays but its not impossible to be real if we are sure about our quality and never give up in searching in.
what do you think?
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
13 May 08
Well, I would just tell them that they would have to go there and apply but that I didn't have any part of hte hiring decisions. That is the best way and easiest way to solve this problem.
I work for a company that does a lot of hiring and I get the same responses from people when they have family members that need jobs. It is annoying but it is just the way that life is these days. It always helps to have an inside contact in a company.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
13 May 08
When people ask me that, I just tell them to go in and fill out an application. If I know them and think they will be good workers, I will be glad to give them a reference. I don't do the hiring or firing. You should just be straight with them....it is not up to you...they have to inquire just like everybody else.
@bonansa2008 (219)
• Indonesia
12 May 08
I do understand your concern, fren. I dont think they are serious about their wishes to get the job They just play the game to make you uneasy, so I think you have not to pay attention on this matter. Anyhow, you should be nice to them, take care of their concern, and please try to understand their position. In some extent, you are -- as a career woman -- usually smarter than them. I am sure you have smarter point of view, smarter understanding about daily-life, while they -- as common entities -- are living lives on daily-basis, without planning, without target. Sometimes you will need to have the same thought as theirs, so the gap of thought could be bridged smoothly.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
12 May 08
being nice is the thing that i should do with them, no matter how cause they are my neighbor. and you just right that there is kind of different point of view and thought between me and them cause their daily activities and my daily activities.
and you know my dear friend, its little bit hard to think as like them and have same perception as like them alsosince they seem don't understand at all about my way of thinking and my point of view
since they seem don't understand at all about my way of thinking and my point of view
@ultralase77 (77)
• United States
12 May 08
just tell them that you will keep them in mind and if they ask you again tell them that somebody else fill the opening for a friend they had and you didnt know anything
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 May 08
I can relate to you, people feel jealous to see a working couple or a woman. Those who are house-wives feel that these working women are enjoying their life like anything and they have plenty of money. If there is no vacancy in your office, you can tell them clearly. Tell them if any suitable vacancy arises you would inform them. No need to elaborate much.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 May 08
I understand your situation plumwish, If I were you, I will tell them the criteria that your company is seeking like a college grad or what and tell them to try to submit their application but make it clear to them that you can't assure if they will be hired since you have a boss and the decision will not come from you! I know they are just jealous in your situation and I wish also that they will use their brain and evaluate their qualifications since you have mentioned that they are not qualify as far as educational level and age is concern!
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
12 May 08
I cannot help much here because where I live it is not allowed to refuse to hire someone because of their age.
However, I would just carry a few business cards from the Human Resources office of the company I worked for and hand them to the inquirer, saying that all job applicants are required to process their questions through the correct office. I would say that I am not allowed to interfere, but that I certainly wish them well.
I can see where you would be frustrated, but really your neighbor's jealousy is a bit flattering as it does seem these people look up to you somewhat if they think you are able to help them. If they do not have the qualifications, perhaps there is a business school you could recommend to them.
@ellie333 (21016)
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12 May 08
I would just smile sweetly and say if anything comes up I will let you know. You know it won't so you don't have to have the conversation again or if they ask if anything has come up just say I told you I would let you know. People always get jealous of others lives which is a bad thing, people should me accepting of others in all areas really eh! If they wanted to work that much they would have found their own kob by now anyway. Ellie :D
@s2a2n2 (1732)
• India
12 May 08
Once or twice try to say them that you will be looking for any opportunity and let them know once any openings in the office. If still they keep on asking, just let them know what the exact requirement(s) will open up in the office. they may never ask again. cheers
