this is about a threesome

Ok...not something i admit usually...A lifetime ago, prior to kids, when i was in college(art school, if that helps to paint the picture better) a friend of mine asked me to join her and her boyfriend. Not my proudest moment, but i was completely unattached at the time...and well...maybe a little sexually frustrated...So i said "what the hell... i'll try anything once" Well, i remained friends with both her and the boyfriend afterward... but i always felt ackward around him since. To add to the weirdness factor, my mate (who was good friends with us all in college) is well aware of the incident. Actually he has maintained friendships with all of us as well. Everyonce in a while though... the boyfriend brings it up still...and that goes over about as well as a lead balloon! So yes, it can be done and relationships can stay in tact, however don't be fooled into thinking it can ever be undone, or there won't be moments of ackwardness. i'm purposely leaving out the juicy parts...is this a PG enough post?

I personally don't think it should ever be done if your married. Your defeating the purpose of marriage if your going to be like that.

I've never done it before. Would I ever consider this? Possibly if my girlfriend was up for it and we'd have to talk about it. The idea is interesting but I'm not sure if it would be good or not. I guess it depends on how things go and will there be regrets. I don't know but it is interesting to explore the idea nevertheless.

I will say that my hubby and I did try this quite a long time ago. It was with a friend who we both trusted. I will also say that you should not do this if you are not already extrememly comfortable with your marraige and your trust issues. This can cause severe jealous reactions even if you don't think it will ahead of time. You have to all be very comfortable with each other and decide up front that this is a one time thing. I suggest a lot of discussion ahead of time and if there are ANY doubts on anyone's part, DON'T do it. For us it was a positive experience because we trusted each other and the friend remained just that, a friend, afterwards. We didn't discuss it outside of that time nor did anyone make a big deal of it or make it something it wasn't. However I have had friends who have tried this and ended up divorced or the friend was no longer a friend because of bad feelings. Tred lightly here and make sure that NOBODY has the least bit of doubt or confusion.

It has crossed my mind before and my fiance and I have kinda joked about it before, but I'm fairly certain it will never happen. I'm a very self-conscious person, first off. If we were to have a threesome with another girl, I'd be unable to enjoy myself because I'd be wondering if my fiance thinks her body is better than mine. And secondly, my fiance and I are both jealous people. I can't say he wouldn't mind watching me with another girl, but if there was another man brought into the mix, it would be a totally different story. If I ever was going to have a threesome, it would've been back before my fiance and I were seriously involved. But hey, that's just me!