What would you do if???

Well...see one of the discussions I started today and you'll know where I stand on this dilema... I think the whole situation should be looked at very carefully. Some people do change over time. Some situations can be repaired. It all depends on the level of emotion a person feels for the current and the old flame and what the situation has been with the old flame...one coming back out of the blue or one that has always been there.

If I was happy with my new man I would go back but if I was unhappy I would for sure go back to my ex if I still had feelings for him.

it is sticky. but i think if i am with the current relationship and there is nothing very wrong, i will stick with the current one. the person as ex already lefy. now this current has done nothing wrong.

I sometimes think about this...ok, I have thought about it often! always wondering if my last ex would ask for me back. But, I know in my heart that I am staying with Steve. He's been too nice and I've broken it off with him before which was probably a mistake. Marsha

LOL. We are not buying stuff in supermarket. When a man gives you sweet, you accept him. When a man gives you bitter, you dump him. Wow, what-a-relationship. Let's say when current boyfriend hurts you, you went for your ex who comes back (gives you care/sweet). If your ex hurts you again, then you switch back to your boyfriend who cares and searches you again (gives you sweet). Now, try that in marriage life. ~~~ Forgiveness and Creating A Chance for your partner is the key for a success marriage. The more mistake he/she makes, the more open-hearted the apology you send, the better the relationship will become. What elements had gone in nowadays generations, but applied well in our parent's generation? Patience.

I can honestly say that this did happen to me when I first started dating my fiance and it did take me back a little, I had a lot of thinking to do,and I am glad I made the choice I did because we are still together and have a beautiful child. The problem when the old flame came back all I could do was think about the good ole times and thank goodness for my sister cause she opened my eyes to the bad times and that is what stuck with me! More than likely if it didn't work out the first time it probably won't this time either. Although some people can change, but the question is are they willing to?

I would have to stay with the guy I was with for most past relationship's were all bad ones and even if they came back and asked me for another chance my answer would have to be "no".I would explain that "I will always be friends with you that we have our differences and we're better off friends." If they can eccept that then cool if not then I don't know what to tell them they will just have to deal w/ my decision.