Between making up and divorce
By BYOLA2871
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
South Africa
May 12, 2008 7:32pm CST
Hi fellow mylotters,i know probably am not in the best position to start this kind of discussion because i have not experienced anything close to divorce either growing up or as an adult,but i always want to know why people get divorced rather than making up and moving on in marriage,i have been very privileged not to have had anyone divorce within my family before but i know that divorce is becoming a daily thing in many marriages today especially marriages less than 5 years,i know a couple will normally get marriage because thay believe they are meant for each other but suddenly along the line you hear am getting a divorce.I want to know waht is your opinion about divorce,do you think its better than ,making up?
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4 responses
@miller23231 (873)
• United States
13 May 08
Speaking as a divorced mom of 3, I have to say sometimes divorce is the better alternative. If there is a safety issue, for either you or the kids, it's best to get the heck out!
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
13 May 08
well,i really dont understand what you mean by safety issues,are you talking about when physical abuse has arisen?if that si what you rae talking about well,i really think you are right but i just dont like the idea of a divorce cos it usually affect the kids most,and either partners can never be same no matter what
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@miller23231 (873)
• United States
13 May 08
Yes, I'm talking about physical abuse. And emotional abuse. Sometimes it's just better to get out and be safe than to stay and take your chances. I don't mean to sound callous or abrupt, but I'm speaking from experience. While my kids may have been affected by the divorce, we are all alive to be affected by it and that's the important thing.
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@cmelton (160)
• United States
13 May 08
I have actually gotten divorced and looking back I wish now that I would have done more to make things right. We were young when we got divorced and I think that we used that as an easy way out. We had not been getting along for a long time and we just gave up. I think this happens a good bit. But after 7 years we are back together and putting 100% in it to make it work. I have a different perspective on it than I did 7 years ago. I think too many people give up on there marriages too easy now. Of course I think there are a few reasons people sould definately divorce someone, such as abuse, adultery, and things like that.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
13 May 08
yes am happy for you guys,its even good that you realise that making up is always a good way to do things and i also agree so much with you taht some instances you have no choice than to get out especially when it is a matter of safety,good luck in your new relationship,i hope you guys stick together for life.
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
13 May 08
This is a bad trend am afraid we are soon gonna have so many intolerant people and especially people will see this as a way out rather than try to make things work
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 May 08
It depends on the couple and why they want a
divorce. If the woman is being abused yes she
should get out of that situation as soon as
possible. If its just one of those picky little
irritations they should seek help; and work
it out as its worth it. p;eople can learn
to fight honestly and wo rk out their differences
themselves.too many divorce over petty stuff
that could have been worked out given some time.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
13 May 08
in the case of abuse it can be both ways if you ask me only that it is more pronounce for a woman to be abused and well its only fair to get out but when its just a means to get out then i have no support for that we must learn to work things out between us.
