Your thoughts on a great mystery of life that I do NOT understand

I know how you feel, I have dreams and right now I have something I want to reach. I know right now it may seem impossible, but with a little hard work and the drive and want to get it, it will happen. Don't give up on yourself that fast. Life is not as easy as it seems for some. I'm sure some people can find easy ways to get what they want. I think the best way is to fight for it, and work at it. Just because the dream is not handed to you on a silver platter with all the trimmings, does not mean it won't happen. Keep that dream. You WILL reach yours and I know I WILL reach mine. Keep your chin up and be happy for the moment. Life is not as bad as it seems.

Yes some people are handed things on a silver platter. But there are many of us that have to work for what we get and make our dreams come true. Life throwing us curveballs all the time is just something that is going to get us to grow and fight even harder to get what we want and what we want out of life. Don't give up just adjust yourself to the situation that is being thrown at you. But also remember that there are others out there that have no luck and nothing on their side is going right. Some are worse off than what we are. Someone will always have something harder than what you do.

I feel this way too, especially since I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis nearly 10 years ago. I want to work hard and make my dreams come true, but I get tired or distracted because of the disease more than ever! My original dream? I wanted to take photographs cross country, even ride a donkey down the Grand Canyon and shoot. Unfortunately, I'd have to be tied to the saddle, since my body has a hard time counter-balancing (I over compensate sometimes and fall down)--NOT the place you want to fall in! My second dream? To have a beautiful wedding. Instead, I got married in someone's living room to an a$$, finally got divorced, met the man of MY dreams only to be told after 4 1/2 years we're "far apart" on living together. So I guess I'm back to square one.... I always wanted my own home...found one but it needed a LOT of work (before I was diagnosed). Discovered quickly my then-husband lied when he said he knew how to work on houses. Now 12 1/2 years later, I'm in foreclosure. I'm so depressed about what's happened to my life. I feel pathetic--like I can't do anything right (the only thing my daughter wants from me is to use my computer and internet, or to watch my satellite TV). No one wants to love me for ME. It is extremely hard to make it day-to-day anymore, but I'm too much of a coward to kill myself.

Things are not always as they seem. You see life through your eyes and think that the grass is greener in someone elses garden. And it might be. A key is not to compare yourself with someone else, perhaps you can model yourself after a person you admire but thinking someone else's life is better than yours won't help you. You have choices in every minute of your life to take a step to the left or the right. Challenges are those things to be overcome. Instead of feeling defeated, feel challenged instead and find a way to become bigger. Even though you may feel held back by circumstances, you are at the end of the day your own authority. It takes will and courage to get what you want and not be overwhelmed by a life you may think is too much to handle, unfair and a burden. A person who overcomes many challenges can look back over his or her life and take some relief in doing the best they could. A person who is handed everything and does not make the most of his circumstances will look back and wonder what they did with their life. Wisdom and a sense of peace comes from overcoming and experiencing many things in life. You can become awesome in the pursuit of overcoming adversity. Take care.

I think that people should never assume anything about other people. Yeah, it may seem that others are living their dreams and are perfectly happy, but that may not even be the case. Sure, it is sometimes the case, but everybody has their problems. First of all, your attitude seems pretty negative. I don't know your situation at all and I can't really discern much from your discussion, but having a positive attitude can do wonders for your life. Sometimes I think you just have to rearrange how you are going to go through life and yeah, goals change. If you can't do what you want, you have to get over it and try something else. I know I sound like I'm being a jerk about this, I don't mean it in a bad way, I am just trying to motivate you in some way to try to change your outlook... Like someone else said, some people are handed things on a silver platter. I personally would not want to change lives with that kind of person for anything...

Life is a challenge and we don't have any control over some of the things that happen to us. It does not pay us according to what we do and we can't explain why. When you are in the most cruel situate, at that moment in time, you want to transform it instantly but you have to do the best you can and hope for the best. At the end of the day it all boils dowm to the person we are, because I believe that we have to persevere with all he have, and this is achieved by intrinsic motivation and having faith that there will be light at end of the tunnel.

Hi Goldeneagle ! there is only one answer to the question , thats simple the way it is ! its not very comforting because i totally relate to being frustrated by life being one tough son of a ...... you see the thing is because you've struggled ,fought to get what you want I think it makes you richer in spirit , understanding and motivation over someone who gets it handed to them on a plate. the people who get the easy breaks don't actually learn anything and when they encounter a difficulty they usually crumble or disintergrate through the stress!! when things aren't going too well you've got to look at all you've achieved without a critical eye, hopefully you'll realize that without struggle there is no joy. :)

Hi goldeneagle, It is true some people seem to have everything handed to them with little effort on their part. The thing is many of these people are not as happy as we think, material things don't always bring happiness. Many people however, only achieve such a life through their own efforts. You may yet get the break that you are looking for, and be able to follow your dreams. None of us knows what tomorrow may bring. Take a positive attitude towards life and expect the best. Blessings.

Hello bro, trust me, I KNOW how you feel. I've felt like this a lot of times before too and there are times in future that I know I'm going to feel this way. But you know what...? I just heck care already. I have taken the 'ignorance' approach to all of these and I have since stopped questioning myself the inevitable or rather, the unknown. You have given me an inspiration for my blog, because I love to blog about life. I think life is life in itself and there's nothing more greater than to analyze life. People may party, may enjoy life to the max, but they will have to come to terms that their life is not going straight for them at the moment or something. I tell myself that the grass will always look greener on the other side. And you know what that means, really? I see rich people with the powerful lives everyday but I do know that they have their 'baggages' with them too. No one is perfect. True that they have achieved their dreams or for some, on their way up there. But all of us are victims of our own actions, conscience and we are also ignorant fools. We just shrug off our problems and concerns and make do with whatever is on the surface. And you see children of broken families growing up and trying to take advantage of others, but there are also children of broken families that end up to be people of a high morale and also successful. It all boils down to stubbornness, independence and having a 'no-die' attitude. Don't give up, my friend. It is definitely easy to say than done, and I am learning too. In fact, every day, my life is a journey and I'm learning about people's behavior and why some people brought up in a certain way behaves a certain way. Which brings us to sociology. And sociology is definitely an interesting subject and it makes you more aware of life in general. Whenever your life feels down, don't give up and instead, be more focused and more stronger. Tell yourself that you don't need friends to tell you that you are good, and that you are good yourself. You don't need to join a popularity contest to be 'accepted' in society. You make society accept you. How? By doing your own thing. That's it. Don't care about what others think, say or do because that will only pull you down. Just be yourself, stay strongly independent and I know this is hard, but try to motivate yourself to stay focused in the strengths that you have as a person. These are my points of views and others might differ from it. To each his own, but I am sincerely wanting to give you encouragement, because I don't like to see someone out there suffering from life's tricks. Last but not least, you and me are not alone. That's why we see so many talk shows nowadays like Oprah, Tyra shows and all that, and believe me, once in a while when I'm having my off day, I do love to watch these shows. They are motivational and I love to surround myself with the topics there. Have a great day and don't be too upset yeah. There are friends here willing to help and motivate you with their words. If only words, they are strong words of advices. I need them too at times. Bye for now. ;)

Some people are just lucky, some are born rich, others work hard to achieve what they think are their dreams. I do understand how you feel. There are lots of things we would like to do but we have no money and so cannot. It depends on what your dreams are. I have found that many things we dream of are not what they seem once they are achieved. Reality and dreams do not always match. I have found that some things I used to dream of were not what I wanted when I actually tried them. My dreams were my imagination and the reality was disappointing. Dreaming of things that you cannot have is also disappointing. Now I make the most of what I do have and try not to think of all the things that bring disappointment.

I think it is all to do with the attitude of the person. If you have a huge desire to achieve your goals and keep concentrating on achieving them, you will see opportunities that may not be noticed by others. Try writing down what you want to achieve and why - that works really well for me. Also look back on what you have achieved and how you got there, reflect on how much better off you are than some other people and realise that you have achieved things and if you keep working at it, you will be able to achieve anything that you want to.

well first off i think alot of people are just handed things because they have wealthy parents or relatives and they just got lucky. secondly i think that there are also alot of people who will walk over anyone to get what they want and i for one would not want to be that kind of person. i struggle too with everyday life and nothing has ever come easy to me and it does indeed make life very hard. but i will not give up because i believe God helps those who help themselves. i try really hard everyday to the very best i can with what i have and i push myself to be as productive as i can be. don't know if i answered you question but i did give it some insight i think.

Myself I wouldn't want things handed to me on a silver platter, I am content with the fact that I may never have anymore than what I have today. I was blessed with a wonderful family good health and many friends. Do I have my ups and downs in life you but your butt I do, it all strengthens me to be a better person to remember that things could be worse. I consider myself a soldier in lifes journey, If it wasn't for the soldiers then the people that have no luck would have no hope. If I won the lottery would that make me a happier person? I do not think so, but on the other hand I honestly believe I would be one of those people that would take that money and help many others. Make your goal obtainable in small baby steps and then you will find self wothiness to take the next step before you know it all those small goals will be a huge goal. Good luck!