Should Mum's feel bad for wanting to stay at home

No, they should not feel bad, Instead they should be proud because they contribute a lot to the economy. Aside from the fact that the job of a mother is not something that everyone can do and is much harder than working in an office,it is now widely recognized that the work done by mothers at home which is unpaid and sometimes unappreciated, contributes a lot to the Gross Domestic product. Mothers, in addition to their many chores and responsibilities as wife and mother, are there to attend to their children's needs and see to it that their children and their husbands have a warm and comfortable home to return to , with clean clothes and cooked meals, but they also contribute indirectly to the economy because they take care of the home thus enabling their husbands to go to work and by working without a wage or eliminating the need for a paid household worker or maid, they help the family save funds. If the work done by mothers were to be compensated, just imagine how much they deserve to be paid.

No one should feel guilty about wanting to stay at home and raise their children - just as no one should feel guilty about working and sending their children to daycare. Women fought for years so that they would have the right to make up their own minds about what they would like to do. At this moment, I am home with my children - three under three, and don't forsee going out to work in the near future. This could change. After my daughter was 6 months old I took a part time job just to get out of the house.

I can understand how you feel. You need a break and need it fast. You need some pampering yourself coz apart from being a mother, you are a human being too. You have your own limitations, your weaknesses, your tiredness, your expectations. What you are doing is in order to become the ideal mom to your kids, you are neglecting the woman in you. We all mothers are guilty of this and then suddenly we wake up to the fact that we are not getting any younger, we are devoting all our time to our children and there is hardly any appreciation for that. Even I feel so frustrated, so tired at times that I just feel like going away somewhere…alone with no connection to the family whatsoever. Wishful thinking I know, but if possible, devote some time to yourself (very difficult I know). It may not be possible at home where everybody needs your attention all at the same time, so visit a parlour sometime, get some pampering, go for window shopping, talk to us at mylot on other issues apart from the home and kids and hopefully you will feel better. At least I do, whenever the family feels like it is strangling me, I come to mylot. With its varied discussions and people, it’s a great stress-buster for me. it makes me feel my worth as a human being to myself and also reminds me that there are things happening outside the ambit of my family, too.

My oldest kid is in school and my youngest is entering this year. I will be staying home. I think that there is still a need for a parent at home even with the kids at school. There are holidays and sick days, parent voulenteering time, and just the security of knowing that there will be someone home when they get there. I think it could make all the difference in the world to the kids. I will never go back to work out side the home. There is plenty that needs to be done.

No. I definitely believe there should be at least one parent staying at home with the young kids. She should feel bad if she stays at home and doesn't do any housework or neglects the children.

You should not feel bad at all. In fact, you should feel great about yourself! Too many people think that being a stay at home mother is not worthy of being called a "job". But that's what it is - and most stay at home mothers claim that it's the BEST job! I do not blame you for one minute. Many people cannot afford to stay home; so if you can, more power to you. Children benefit from parents staying home; they have routine, they learn how to live life, they are taught how to behave, etc.. It's not too far beyond the realm to say that most babysitters will plop the child down in front of the television or that daycares are too costly. I think the best thing you can do is to quietly know that you are making more of a difference at home than you would at any other "job". Keep it up! The world needs more of you!

That is the thing we shouldent be made to feel bad about doing what we feel is best for our kids. I have been a full time stay home for over 5yrs now and I dont regret anything. I have found it to be easier on me to keep my house orderly when the kids are in school so that when they get home we can actually have family time and not have to worry about anything. I am starting to get my kids involved in helping with some of the chores now and so far they are loving it. I see being a stay home mom as a guilty pleasure that I enjoy to the fullest.

I am a stat at home mother of 3 so I know how hard you must work with 4 kids.You should not feel bad about staying at home.I feel the same way.I worked while my sons were babies and it hurt so bad when they would prefer the babysitter to me.It wasnt their fault its just they were more comfortable with the babysitter because she was always there with them.I promised myself if I had another child this would not be the case,I would take care of that child myself and so far I have.My daughter is now 10 months and I have spent every day with her since birth,she will not get use to anyone else raising her.I like staying at home and being there for my kids.It feels good,doesnt it?Dont let anyone make you feel that you are doing the wrong thing by staying at home.You will only get one opportunity to raise your kids,enjoy it.

I am a working mother, but I was lucky enough to have my family around to help out with babysitting duties whilst I went to work, and now my daughter starts schoolin September. I have to admit, that I have friends who stay at home with their children, and I've always said that staying at home is a lot harder "work" than actually going out to work all day. It just never stops when you're looking after children, and I take my hat off and show respect to you especially having 4 children and looking after them yourself. For me, I wanted to go to work to set an example, and even if I cant afford the best for my children, at least I know I'm doing all I can.