referral etiquette and myLot

As you can guess I read all your discussions here and most of the responses and I think I know what sparked this off. I thought at the time 'Oh, I hope he adds her name after Googling it but on the other hand who knows what username she has there'. It's easier, as you suggest, when you're referring an older use because they know the ropes (and after the help they've been given, they 'reward' you by using your link). feel it's the newer users who are just inot earning sites that don't realise the benefits for the person referring them. I have got round this by putting links to my blogs in my profile or by adding a user as a friend and using private messages to provide them with my link. If a discussion is started asking for advice about the best sites then I usually pu the direct link to my blogs in the reply as it would seem pertient to the discussion. Some users recently seem to think that many of us in this section are only here to reap referrals though and don't notice that many of us actually help new future online earners. When I read that quite honestly it hurts as I know there were and still are many on here who have been and are a great help to me. Who knows anyway whether a person will or will not be active after joining under your link - that's a gamble anyway. It's a case of pot-luck. Gosh I wrote a lot so to sum it up - links to your blogs in your profile and just hope the users will have the decency to use them

I normally give the site and just a small plug that I can give them a link if they'd like to ask.

Since it is against mylot TOS to post links in discussions, I usually give the site name and offer people the option to go there directly to sign up, or give them the option of going to my profile page where they can sign up under me there. That way people have the option of whether or not to sign up under me and I'm not just trolling for referrals.

It is so disrespectful when they join the program that you have told them about but do not join under you. If I read about a site, I try to join under the first one that told me about it. After all, we all need to be trying to help one another.

I havent signed up. Partly because I'm not sure I will have the time for one, and two its hard to learn something new. Does that make sense? I have several referalls to one of my sites but I dont think they keep up with it or just join and not do anything. It is frustrating but you cant make them do it unfortantly. Hugs.

If you don't correspond with them in some manner as to where you can give them a link, but simply give them a name instead, I don't think you should expect them to do anything different than what they did. Put the links on your profile or make another blog or simple web page with the links there, and put a link to that on your profile. Check out my discussions here and see how I direct people to mine. Or at the very least, when you respond to something that you can give a link for, don't give them the name, rather ask them to contact you for more information and you can give them the link then.