my experience so far

They say that during the first 7 years of marriage is what they call the "itching period"..It's because these are the years that a couple is just starting to know each other better..How one is different from the other. The discovery that the attitudes and character traits that you showed when you were still unmarried are hardly what you see now...try to talk to your mate and ask him what he really wants and tell him yours..keep an open line of communication..

well.im not that sure how to save your worried MARRAIGE life...but there's only one thing that will SURELY help your worries to at least lessen down..is to PRAY and take all worries to our "DEAR GOD" for with him..you'll find comfort and you know when GOD works it will work out for GOOD to you and you whole family....^_^ *CHILL OUT to our dear GOD* #jam# ~live life~ keep it simple***

The reason why my marriage to my husband works so well is because we are EQUAL, and no one is solely to blame when things go wrong. We have had our problems, but people always hav problems. We have been able to work through them, and get things done equally, with each taking equal responsibility when things go wrong, and equal credit when things go right.

Although I don't have a perfect marriage I have been happy with my husband for almost 20 years. I think communication as well as honesty play a big part in a good marriage. By the way I think getting along with your in-laws is important also. My mother in law is great. I talk to her every day and we go to town together atleast twice a week. I honestly love her and wouldn't know what to do if she weren't there.

I am no expert, but I do have a happy marriage (now, at least). It sounds to me as though your husband has not let go of his past life with his parents. Maybe he is feeling insecure by his new role as husband. He must have lived with his parents for a long time, and his support of them is evidence that he has not let go. Actually, I do not believe he should let go of his former life, but integrate his new life with you into it. Does he leave you out of his parents' problems? Maybe that is how manhood is seen in your country. The man takes care of the problems. Have you explained to him how you are feeling in detail? You should, if you haven't already. I do not work either so, to compensate, I try to do a lot of little things that my husband enjoys like letting him watch whatever he wants on TV while he's home or cooking his favorite meal when he least expects it. Sometimes, when I am walking by him, I'll take my hand and brush his hair or across his shoulders and keep going. That lets him know that I am thinking of him. It really works wonders with his attitude and our marriage.