You Know! / myLot

United States

May 15, 2008 12:33am CST

For everyone that has been in a bad relationship, I have come to the conclusion that as human beings we know when we are walking into a bad situation. BUT, the majority of us ignore the blessing called INTUITION, and enter into bad marriages or relationships nevertheless. WHY? Who do you have to blame but yourself if the man, for example, has a bad temper and likes to smack you around? Ten times out of ten, YOU knew that the man had anger problems and he was smacking you around BEFORE you said I DO. Granted, spousal abuse is WRONG, but you did know how he was before you agreed to marry him. My first marriage was terrible, but guess what? I had a FEELING that something wasn't right with him before we were married. He was a liar, plus my family didn't like him. I eventually separated myself from him 11 months into the marriage and then divorced him. YAY!! Some people aren't so blessed to get out of a bad situation. Let me hear your thoughts as to why many people get themselves into these situations while having the prior insight about that individual. Insight and our feelings are blessings from God, which we must not ignore. If we do, we are bound for hardships in the end.

1 response

madlees

@madlees (1377)

• India

15 May 08

Hi, That's why we call it "Love is Blind". You seem to ignore what your inner mind tell you, not only your inner mind even your parents and other well wishers. They will know and can understand better than you. Those who love you and care for you, give you good advice. They only think about what is good for you. But Love is very strong, you tend to think of the person as above all these normal deficiencies. Even when others tell us we will not believe. Another point is even when our own inner conscience tells us that we are wrong or there is something wrong altogether, we think everything will be all right after marriage and that we'll be able to take care of it. But it is wrong we can never do that. It actually gets worse after marriage because we tend to get taken for granted and then a door mat. That is the time we start thinking about divorce and it gets very late by then . We would have suffered a lot in their hands by that time. So always pay attention to what your inner mind and the people close to you tell you. You'll be saved from a lot of heart trouble later. Don't you think so?

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@razzberryswirl (14)

• United States

15 May 08

Yep, good points. Some women think they can change a man. Well, I know for a fact you can't change an old dog. LOL. I actually learned from my first marriage what types of things to look out for when dealing with men. I learned so much from my past, that I could spot a conartist a mile away. Thank you for your reply!!

madlees

@madlees (1377)

• India

15 May 08

No one can ever change anyone. That is their way of handling things. There are some who think they can change but that is actually impossible. We'll just get ended up in a rut without knowing what to do. I have seen this happening around me, cannot correct them either. Love is blind... very very blind... later they come withtheir complaints, but we cannot tell them "I told you so " either....