And yet another abortion discussion more of a question for the pro - life

I reluctantly say that it depends. In cases of incest, rape, and mother's life endangered - yes. However, for the small children having children, there is adoption - plenty of people in America want to be parents and go to China to get their babies - because the red tape of the American system is out of control. Any fool can have a child, but when a married person like myself tries for 7 years now... and can't do it, guess who gets turned down because they got detained for small offenses as young adults, or don't make enough money, don't have a big enough house. Well, I hate to say that there is plenty of trailer trash and ghetto youth having children with no ramifications at all. They get extra money and all things handed to them. Well, why shouldn't the government do the same for people who actually WANT the child, SEEK the child, have their values set, etc - assuming it's a poor couple or whatever?? Poor people often have great family values, and what's so wrong with teaching that to a child, rather than letting him grow up without a father, or an uneducated mother, or in the inner city where gangs and violence are major problems? Why does it take years for people like me to get 'approved' to be parents, when each day a child doesn't have a loving mother and father, they are losing out. If I happened to get pregnant, I wouldn't need anyone's approval, so if there is an unwanted baby, why not let us take it and care for it? Sure, there are some bad people who adopt, but for the most part, those wishing to adopt are the ones who desperately want to raise a child to do good things, teach a child values and respect, love a child when they are crying, enjoy them when they are laughing, etc ..?? Instead, we go off running to foreign market babies, which is not helping the problem of 'unwanted' babies in America - though there is no such thing as an unwanted baby. Perhaps the egg donor doesn't want it, but somebody does. Believe me.

It always depends on the situation. I used to be pro-life but life experiance has taught me that what may seem like a black and white situation in reality has many shades of gray. Sometimes a 12 year old could be a better mother than a 40 year old sometimes not. It depends on the person. What I believe are good reasons for getting an abortion; Insability, mental illness, an abusive relationship, chronic unemployment, extreme poverty, rape, major birth defects, failed birth control and health of the mother.

I am pro life. I am emphatic with women who end up pregnant in difficult circumstances such as rape. I think that these women should receive psychological help and support. However I do think that the unborn child has equal rights and be given a chance to be born. If the mother is a victim of rape, the unborn child is a victim too. I do believe that despite its a trauma for the mother, the baby's rights should be safeguarded too. If after childbirth she does not want to keep the baby, adoption should be considered. I don't agree that abortion should be widely used as a from of birth control. Both men and women should be educated about natural and artificial methods of birth control. Abortion should not be used as such.

I'm just responding to get this discussion into my "Your Responded" box so that I can keep track of it. I'm pro-choice, any choice. If a woman, or a girl, wants to give birth then we should do everything we can to help them. If a person wants to adopt and is falling financially short of the line then they should be given the financial support to get the over the line, just as anyone giving birth gets help. If a woman wants to abort, we should not ask questions outside of "are you sure? You're not being coerced?" No woman should be forced to do something with her body against her will, that goes for giving birth or getting an abortion. Every child deserves a loving home, a personal home. But sometimes... it's just not that simple.

abortion is a something that is bad so is not good to abort

I believe in abortions when there is a good reason. I had one when I with my abusive ex. I could not imagine bringing another child into that situation. I had to do what was best for me and my son. Do I regret it? Yes, very much so. But at the time it was the only option for me. It's been 13 years and it still bothers me. If a 14 year old is sexually active and gets pregnant it should be aborted. Not unless her parents are willing to raise the baby. At 14 most are far to immature to deal with having a baby. They need to grow up before having children as well as being sexually active. Mind you, I know a girl who got pregnant at 12 and had the baby. With the help of her parents they did a great job raising the child. But all situations are different. I can't imagine my son telling me he got his girlfriend pregnant, they are only 15.

I am like you, I could never have an abortion myself in any case. But I feel like I have no business telling the next person what to do with their body or baby. I agree that a 12-14 has no earthly business having a baby, but I can neither say that its right or wrong for them to have an abortion. Even if it were my own daughter saying she wanted an abortion, I would tell her that she could, but I wouldn't be the one to pay for it!