what would you do?

United States
May 15, 2008 10:18am CST
A friend of mine let her two girls stay over last night ... i have tried 3 times today to take them home but no answer at all. it is not like there mom not to answer.....what would you do if u were in my sitation?
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@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
15 May 08
Wow, that's one irresponsible mother. What were the arrangements? What was the return agreement? Did you just try and call or actually go over to try and drop them off? If you only tried her cell it might be turned off. Just a thought. Go/drive over there. Knock on the door, see if the car is there, peer through the windows. See, if the neighbors know where she is. If you know another family members phone number, try that number, and/or a friend, maybe they know more. Yes, police should only be the last resort. The kids will eventually be traumatized enough. On the other hand, what if something happened to her? Try the hospitals first, before you take that step, but if all else fails, you will have to call the police. What if she dropped off the kids for good? You just never know. Ultimately, if she is this irresponsible with her kids not to make return arrangements or not to be there, when they are supposed to be return, and doesn't leave numbers where she could be reached and such, I'm sorry, but I think she might be lacking in more than one area as a mother.... I would sit at home and eagerly await my kids' return, but that's just me,lol.
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
15 May 08
If this is unusual for her,then I would call the police and see if they can help. I don't know that I would go into the house but I would try to get the police too. You never know what may have happened and since she is usually there to get them, it is a good sign that something could be wrong.
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
15 May 08
hi jiffy! hmmm...i don't want to be judgmental, but doesn't the mom just want her kids to be freeloaders? imagine having freed herself for several meals already? she got free from preparing, and they get free food too. i dunno, because my parents would not do that to me. so it is kind of uncomfortable situation.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 May 08
If your friend had neighbors who were friends or parents living in the same time I would call them and seeif they tell you where your friend was, explaining why you want to find her. You could go to her house and knock but if she didnt answer 'the door you still have problems. I would ask a neighbor if she might have a key to the lady's house and explain you are concerned about your friend as she did not answer you.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
15 May 08
Knock a couple more times. Still no answer.. call the police...
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
15 May 08
Is there anyone else who knows her that you can contact? Maybe something happened to her or a relative? I agree that you should try to get inside of the house to make sure everything is okay and then start calling everyone you can think of.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
15 May 08
Well, if she doens't hav a cell phone then I would call the police if she is still not answering. I mean she should always give you the numbers where she can be contacted at all times and if she leaves those contacted numbers she should call beforehand and let you know and give you a new number so she can be reached. What if something happened to one of her girls how could she be reached? I am hoping she has been in contact at this time but if not call the police. All you can do it will piss her off probably but hey she needs to be alot more responsible especially since she has kids..
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• United States
15 May 08
Updat she had a friend come get them at noon they were all still sleeping the first couple times i went over but yet they heard me knock and never answered the door i always take the girls home between 10 and 11
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
15 May 08
Well,that is good, but she still should have hollered out atleast come back later or called to say for them to come home later. Maybe they were matress dancing and just couldn't answer at that time.. Well glad all is okay.
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
15 May 08
Mattress dancing, that's a new expression for me, lol. I'm glad it all worked out alright although I don't like it that she didn't even react the first times around although she might not have known it's you. Funny, I'm always on edge if my kids spent the time elsewhere. I would be alarmed by a knock on the door. Maybe I'm one of those overbaring moms,lol.
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• United States
15 May 08
Maybe she has used the time without the girls to go run some errands and didn't realize the time. Was she expecting them to return at a certain time? If not, she is probably just using her free time to get some things done. I'm assuming all is well she's just out taking advantage of some free time. I would just wait a couple more hours, don't upset the girls worrying and try again, if no answer than I would start calling relatives, then the police.