Do you look through your spouses wallet or purse when they don't know it?

Mine does the same thing, he'll go all the way in the back room, bring it to me and have me dig through it.

lol, I think a lot of husband are afraid of our purses. It's nice to see people posting that have respect for thier better-halfs privacy.

True, if there is something there that shouldn't be it will come to light. I know it did with my first husband. I have a thing about privacy too since mine was invaded real bad when I was kid.

na that wouldnt be very nice of me to do.

The bottom line is you trust him lol

You wouldn't just go through it to snoop.

Nothing wrong with that, at least you had the guts to do it, you saw what I wrote, I suspected but wouldn't look cause I didn't want to have to deal with it.

I like that, there should be nothing there that the other couldn't see. Unless it was a receipt for something nice he was going to give you for your birthday or anniversary right?

I never really thought about that. I wouldn't go through other people's bags, I think I've gone into my mom's purse once in my life - to get her cell phone out of the side pocket - and other than that, I don't go into other people's wallets/purses. Just my husband's. We don't really see our wallets as private, I guess.

It's interesting to me that so many people are perfectly comfortable going into wallets and purses. I think it's a good thing. I just can't do it. If he tells me to get something out of it I will, but I won't dig any farther then I have to to find what is needed.

So your comfortable and have a lot of trust in your husband, your not afraid you might find something incriminating? If you found something questionable, would you confront him, or would you just forget about it and hope for the best?

I never thought of that, looking at caller ID, of course when I was married to my first we didn't use cell phones, I think the pagers were just getting big with the public. If I did think my husband now was cheating, which I have never felt any indication of it. I wouldn't know how to check his phone, all this stuff is so technical to me. I can operate my own cell, but that's it.

Until the response above this one, I never thought about the cell phone. I feel like you, for me it would be an invasion of his privacy, but I do think it's pretty cool for those that don't have a problem with it. I don't think my husband cares one way or the other. The only time he goes into my purse is to get the check book when he's ready to do the bills.

Bless your heart, you sound like me many years ago. I was married for 19 years and he was always up no good. The bad thing was I really believed him when he would tell me he would stop doing this or that. I married too young, and was slowly conditioned to believe I had no worth, that all that mattered was what he wanted. If he wanted me and all the other then that's the way it would have to be, I didn't matter. I think we lose ourselves somewhere. But when I finally came into my own, I realized my self worth and I will never allow myself to be treated that way again. If I have to live alone and in a cardboard box, I will never allow anyone to mistreat me again. I pray God blesses you mightly

As we both know it is wonderful. The only question i have is this, If not for the misery of our first marriage would we appreciate what we have now as much or just accept it and take it for granted?

Cathy, isn't it wonderful to finally have someone you can trust and have confidence in?

I take it then that you have faith in your husband. I never thought about tracking receipts. What do you do, compare them against your checking account or credit card statement?

You trust her more than yourself? Uh oh...hope you don't have anything incriminating in your wallet. Just for curiousity sake, why don't you just ask her if she needs any extra money? You have me intrigued now, you have never dug around just to see what might be there? This isn't right, I'm drilling you when I didn't the others. Thanks for responding.

Well, to be honest, I can't put my finger on why. Somewhere over the years I just changed. Now, I save all my pennies for her...that makes her very happy, and she always has a really big smile when I hand them over to her. She even buys pennies from the grandkids...for silver. Go figure.

Is that because you respect her privacy? Why wouldn't you do it now?

Man oh man, what would you do when you found proof of his unfaithfulness? Did you kick him to the curb or did you let him talk you into not leaving him? that he would stop, you know all that slop they feed us. I ate the most garbage my exhusband would spoon feed me. And I didn't even like the guy. Thank-goodness that is way in my past. Glad your with someone you can trust and believe in.