How would you deal with a child who talk back?

Well it depends on the age of the child, my daughter answers back she is 4 and having to learn that it is rude and she must not do it id be pretty annoyed if someone thought I was a bad parent because they heard her just once answer me back you know it happens some days and thats life I dont actually care much what other parents do or dont do with their children, I prefer to put my efforts into my own children. If you are talking about teenagers obviously they should know better but again it happens and what their parents do about it is their choice

hello bebs08, your discussion brings back memories of mine growing up. i always talk back to my mom coz i want her to understand my views as her daughter it is not really talking back but the fact that i am explaining my vies different than hers makes her feel i am talking back and that i am disrespecting her as my mom which is NOT true coz i am just wanting her to hear me out and let her understand my views as a different person and as her daughter as well. i dont know what the reasons or how the kid talk back to the parents so i cannot say that the kid is just being disrespectful or just being "like me" who is just trying to express myself and having a hard time so it sound like frustrated and angry to others who happen who happen to hear me out having such discussion to my mom. im 27 now but i still dont understand why a kid is not allowed to express themselves to their parents and talk with their own views and not feel guilty and feel bad that they are harassing/disrespecting/rude their parents. i dont have my kid yet but if my kid answer me back i will watch the tone and be sensitive with what they are saying and what they are trying to convey. i want them to be free voicing their opinion and views regarding some matter. i feel that age gap will make a difference coz often times the parents to see the generation NOW and holding their kids back using their PAST generation which i feel is not fair. BTW, if my kid is just being plain rude and brat then they will surely pay for that in so many ways that my husband and i will decide base on the actions our kids did, which hopefully make them realize what they did is wrong and not acceptable in our family. i have heard kids who is just plain brats and those are driving me crazy as well and makes me question how on earth the parents are letting them to treat them that way (my cousins kids are like that and it irritates me so much that i dont want to spend time with them anymore) oh well, i believe in hearing out the voice and my husband and i believe that they have the same right like everybody else does and we feel it will just make them more mature and responsible in life over time. takecare!

My children are old enough to back talk (11 and 8 years old)but so far they haven't. I am doing my best to raise them to respect others and treat others as they would want to be treated. My mother would have back handed us if we had ever back talked her. I could never do that to my child but I couldn't ignore them either. If the time comes I'm sure I will find a punishment that doesn't harm them but teaches them not to ever do it again. I'm a big fan of time out and groundings. I take away privileges and add extra chores. It works wonders!

I am a mom of 4 and I do not allow them to talk back to me. When they try to I make it a point to stop them and correct them. I do not tollerate it at all. That is disrespect in my book and it is not allowed. Depending on what they are regueing about with me depends on what I do to correct them. If it is something really trivial and silly I will just tell to knock it off or they are on time out. If it is something major then I need to consider grounding for the day or taking something away. Again it all depends on the situation. Either way they will not get away with it.

My son is 3 and is just now starting to try back talking us. He thought if he treated us like that he would get his way. A friend of mine is like how you said, she just lets her kids talk to her however they want to and usually lets them have their way. My son has watched that so now he thinks that that is the right way to talk to me and my husband. Depending on how bad he talked to us is the way we react. Sometimes we just look at him and tell him that that was not the appropriate way to talk to anyone and that he will not get anything by talking to ppl that way. At other times, when it is really bad he does sometimes get his mouth popped. I will not allow my kids to talk to me like that. That is just so disrespectful.

When children talk back, age is a big difference. If their 4,5,6,7, IT'S NORMAL! Unless they were trying to get out of a huge problem(e.g skipping school), I would just let them enjoy life. Once their older, however, I recommend to to ground them, then if that doesn't work....hit them. I mean, it's the only way that they can actually remember to not talk back anymore! Well, I'm certainly against hitting, so use it as a last resort

Whenever my kids have sassed me/talked back to me I usually say "EXCUSE ME?!" In a loud firm voice and if they sass me again I slap them in the mouth and remind them that I dont even let grown men talk to me that way so be damned if my kids are gonna! Its VERY rare though cause they know better and dont like when mum is angry

I would prefer the good ole spanking (and readers please dont confuse this with beating your child...a spanking and a beating are two different things..i dont believe in child abuse) The tough part with what i would do to stop their back talk is there are so many ridiculous laws that prohibit parents from spanking their own child. (which IMO is BS) its not really a matter of stopping it..its now a matter of preventing them from back talking in the first place. Parents are so quick to give into their children...even after they back talk them..that is a big no no...you dont reward bad behavior. best answer i could give to this other than spankings..is a reward and punishment system.

I guess it depends on how old they are. None of my siblings ever talked back to my mom (I have no kids, so I'll use this as an example) when they were younger. But once my sister got old enough to go out without having to ask for permission, she could just tell them she was leaving. She started to talk back big time. I've always been mouthy. I don't do it on purpose but my mom and I don't get along too much now that I'm older. But she would never do anything to "make me me remember that it's wrong" 'cause that would most likely involve hitting me. And I know she would never do that. So she argues back. We don't yell and scream but we argue with eachother till we both get our points across.

For smaller children, a time-out, such as the "naughty-chair" that Supernanny uses. For older children, removing privileges, such as TV, video games, etc.

My eldest son learned how to talk back and mind you with actions..He used to be so sweet and naive and now he's doing that..He got it or copied it from the hired helper..First I talked to the helper and told her that my son is copying her and that she should stop it right away..She doesn't talk back to me but she talks back to my 5 year old son..So, the kid must have thought that it's okay to do that..Next, I had a heart to heart talk with my son and explained to him that what he's doing is really wrong and he shouldn't do it again..Explained to him about respect and all..Now that he's turning 9, sometimes he forgets and talks back, but just one look at him and he's tongue tied..When evrything's cooled down, i talk to him again and ask what is the matter and why he did it again...After much explaining and whining, all is understood..until the next time he does it again..

I don't have kids but i have nieces and nephews and i teach in a private school. When ever a child is very rude i correct them by either form of punishment or i spank them according to what the level of rudeness is. But talking to the child at first is always my first reaction. I've seen parents slap down there children in public for that kind of thing. In my country you can't get arrested for beating a child, it's not against the law. But I've heard in some countries neighbors report parents for that kind of thing. In Trinidad once it's not child abuse nothings wrong with using the rode of correction.

hi bebs nice topic to discuss well i used to be what you described above even now i don't listen to parents but my parents were very much patient to me. Cause of the only reason that i only try to do what is right and then talk back you know in some situation it is necessary that we cover up than doing right i have know this fact very lately but every thing went fine even for then i have also encountered a child whose is more like talk back at the moment he always used to do mischief and when asked about it he used to talk back that he was right well for children who don't listen what i did was i talked back to him in such a pitch that he was completely afraid of me even to give a reply then i slowly took him to out of the place where he was very furious and then talked to him in very calm and pleasing manner to my surprise he surrendered himself to me and he tried to listen to me so i then told him that its right of children to do mischief but it should only done to a limit that of his enjoyment and not more than that else it would be like an unbearable rod in head and also to my surprise he was very much calm till i was there and then when i left the place he again got to his pitch well what i understood was parents cannot talk to child like because of their love towards them but they should always mind that "spare the rod spoil the child"

well will have to take the child to a councellor that too after trying level best to make him understand wat is right and what is wrong

It really depends a whole lot on how old a child is. little ones really do not need harsh punishments at all,just tell them that that is not the way to do.But for older kids this is a bit different. still I think you can be civilized about it. Make it plain that you consider your pre teen or teen rude and if they want to hold a conversatin with you you will not tolerate any back sass. You dont have to beat it into them words used rightlywill work. You do not ignore them you tell them no back talk. when you can be civil then we can talk.

Children talking back to their parents is not good. However I do find that as my boys get older they do test the waters a bit more often. They have never been allowed to talk back to us, which is different from voicing their opinions.