Did you 'know?'

Well, to be honest... the second time i say my husband... he was walking along the corridor of our universitiy and there was a particular moment when i said to myself that "This is the man that i am going to marry"... true enough... we got married 10 years later... But right now... i don't know if that is a good or bad thing... since we are have marrige troubles right now... and are on the verge of separating... no divorce in my country...

I knew the first time I met my husband that he was attractive to me and that I wanted to get to know him better! Then he waltzed with me and was a fantastic dancer! I think I fell in love then--but didn't know for a while whether I wanted to get married again. (I had just been through a nasty divorce.)

Well, I guess I knew. I had a big crush on my husband when I was twelve years old he was 24 He never even noticed me at the time he worked at the store we went to. He started noticing me when I was 16, we started to date and then a year later we married. So the question is do woman know more often then men and are they more accurate then men are with it? Do men's choices of "the one" last longer then womans and end less in divorce? Sorry for the questions.

Hi Spookybutt, I'm not married either, and know that I never will be. Like Captain James T. Kirk, I've always known that I would die alone (a long long time ago, in a galaxy far far away). BUT you do raise an interesting thread here. It goes toward recognizing that we do have the faculty for seeing through not just space but time as well. The higher the emotional import of the question, the farther we can see (apparently). So when they "know", they do know - really. Because they're expressing their awareness of what's a foregone conclusion which is visible through the mists of time somewhere down the track. Not as a "prediction", but a future reality. As I like to say, the world is not what it seems to be. Even in a galaxy far far away.

I didn't "know" when I met my husband. And I am sure my husband didn't either. We were both dating other people at the time. But I knew before he did. Apparently so did his older sister. Anyway, we kind of 'grew' into feelings and the rest is history.

I think that I did know it when we met, but he was just 15 so I wasn't at all sure that he would make good marrying material.. I have been with him for 43 years, 40 married and 3 dating, and some days I am still not sure.. Of the 3 years that we dated, we broke up quite a few times but always got back together again.. I think that we may stay married forever, but you never know.. Some days I get mad enough at him to kill him, but that way is cheaper than a divorce, lol, just kidding, maybe..

No, it took us a bit longer to figure that out.. he liked me a lot, but how future oriented he was, I'm not sure... it took me longer than it did him.. but now we've been together 34 years.. and we haven't even killed each other yet (er, that was a joke too!)

It was like that for us. We just knew the first day we met in person. and then after that we had 4 years to build up our friendship and feelings for each other. So yeah...we did know.

With hubby #1, I was very attracted at first sight, problem was, he was going with the girl who brought him to visit our church. She basically had to throw him away before he even knew I was more than a pretty friend. With hubby #2, not so much attraction, older, wiser, more cautious, although after our first conversation he was willing to drive six hours to meet me the next time he got two days off in a row. With both, though, we made strong commitments really early in our relationships. I was not sorry for the first one, I feel like God brought us together young because he was going to die young. Second hubby had all the right experiences to be that perfect fit as well.

Hello ambiepam, I have a different story to say. Me and my bf were working in the same organisation for a year and we hardly talked. None of us thought we would end up being each others life partner's but i guess this was the way it was suppossed to be. ~Pinks~

When I first met my husband, I didn't like him at all. I thought he was not marriage material and too out of control. As I got to know him, I realized he was hiding his true self. We became very good friends, and ended up falling in love with each other. We're still best friends after 30 years of marriage.

Well, the first time I met the guy that is now my husband I had a boyfriend, so there weren't any sparks on my end. He said he fell for me though the first time he saw me. Once we started dating though, it didn't take long for me to realize I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life...and I was 13! We're still together after almost 11 years and comig up on our 5 year wedding anniversary. I'm not a big believer in love at first sight. I mean, I guess it can happen with some people, but I'm more of a person that believes in getting to know a person first. People are not always what they seem and you have to be careful with that.

My partner and I actually knew each other for about a year before we got together. I was with someone else at the time, but that didn't last (thank goodness!). During the last few weeks of my relationship, my current partner and I really got to know each other and became firm friends, though nothing more. My relationship ended, and it was still several months before I decided to give my current partner a go. Because we had been getting to know each other for a while, I was pretty sure that we could work. We wanted the same things, had similar ideals and could read each other's minds. 7+ years on, and we are still like we were at the start of our relationship. I think we both knew that we were meant for each other right from the start and have never questioned it. Obviously, somethings have changed, like us having our own family to raise, but we still talk just as much as we did when we were just a couple. Our relationship, while having ups and downs, is very strong. There is nothing we can't sort out, even if it takes a while, and we have never listened to other people when they have said we are making a mistake. There is a 20+ year age gap between us, but the only time I notice it is when other people point it out. Mentally, we are at the same place, which means I'm mentally very mature for my age. Love knows no age, and I reckon we are in this for the long haul.

the moment I met my husband to be and heard him talk and argued like crazy with him over how to make a surgical bed, we both worked in a hospital, the sparks flew and I knew he was the one for me. He said a few days later you know we should get married and that was hismarriage proposal.Six weeks later we were married and our marriage lasted thirty four years.happy years.

I had no idea I would end up with him. We had some of the same friends, and the first time I met him was at our friend's house, and all he did was talk about my car. I had a 68 Mustang, and he had a 67 Barracuda, and he would brag about how his car could beat mine. I couldn't care less, and I only liked my car better because it looked cool and had a good stereo. Later my friends told me that they thought he liked me. His birthday was in a couple of weeks, and the next time I saw him, he invited me to his birthday party. After that, we just sort of hung out together all the time.

When I reconnected with my ex husband I knew he was the one....on our wedding day.....well it was raining and freezing on the roads and I didn't want to go but I did. I think things changed as the relationship developed. I don't for one minute wish I hadn't married him because I have my kids.....but it sure would have saved alot of grief if I hadn't went that day! LOL

i have met the one who i thought i would married ,but the one didn't think it like me .i'm still looking for the one adn i believe that he will come to me one day.maybe it is called yijianzhongqing in chinese ,it means you meet the one that you love he/she at the first sight.i don't believe that.i think we should know each other better and it doesn't last long when you love someone at the first sight.

I met my husband when I was fifteen and we both knew right at the beginning that we would be together all our lives, that was 45 years ago now and we have been married for 42 of them, yes we have had our differences but we have never really argued in all that time