Marrying outside of your religion or culture, family heritage - or station?
By Amy
@artemis432 (7474)
Abernathy, Texas
May 15, 2008 7:11pm CST
There are those who say true love transcends any earthly barriers. Others would argue that its important to have base commonalities. Arguing that if someone comes from a different belief system there may be problems down the line in decision making and child rearing and two people from different economic status points may not get along. Still others are afraid of their parents wrath.
According to Leekey (spelling) the paleontolgist, we originated in Olduvai Gorge in Africa - that's where the earliest remains of man have been found, not in Java as previously thought. So perhaps we all originate in the same place from the same source. Christians believe so in their foundation story of Adam and Eve.
Would you or have you married outside of your religion or culture?
As an American, no matter what our ethnicity, its a pretty common culture, the Western culture. And many of us are of so many different races. I am Russian, German, French and Romanian. I married a man who is Taiwanese or Chinese depending on your point of view, with som Italian as well. He grew up in Japan - on the island of Okinawa and later moved to Mississippi - which some would argue is a different culture in itself - he tells me his co-workers on base actually believe yoga to be part of Satan's work.
However, despite the fact that we have different family backgrounds, not only heritage but religion wise, we have many other things in common, including our stance on how to raise and educate our child and where we want to live.
What are your feelings on this? Would you marry outside of any of these things? Why or why not? What do or would your parents think?
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6 responses
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
16 May 08
I would not go outside of my religion. I wouldnt even get married to someone from certain denominations but others are ok.
Culture and the others yes. Those are easier for me to accept. I am mindful though that this person is really my soul mate so that we dont end up wasting years of each others lives and making ourselves quite miserable. (lol)
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 08
darn when I get to your profile its just a generic picture like the ones that we all start with here. Must be a mylot glitch.
@praveenjena (1304)
• India
16 May 08
hello artemis...
every one has the right to live in his or her way.... but i think that you are not just to yourself there are a lot of things in which other people has a lot of expectations....
at least you should to live to them .. at least a bit.
have a good day.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
18 May 08
Can you come back and explain this - I have no idea what you mean - or even what you're referring to....
@Aurone (4755)
• United States
16 May 08
What an interesting question and appropriate for me to answer. I would and have married outside my religious beliefs. I am Wiccan and my husband is Christian and we get along fine. We respect each other religions and let each other worship in their own way. If we should have children (we are not planning to) then I think we would expose our children to both religions and when they were old enough let them choose what path to take.
We are a bit different culturally as well as he grew up in California (the LA area) and I am from Arkansas. So its basically a liberal culture vs a conservative one, but we have managed to survive thus far. lol.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 08
I know of one couple who combine their christian and Wiccan beliefs.
I'm glad you've survived :) - perhaps you reach a happy medium!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
16 May 08
When I got married I married someone outside of my religion. He was catholic...I was lutheran....My parents were horrified. Back then...over 40 years ago that was taboo. You stuck with someone of your own religious beliefs. Well come to find out..it did matter. There were so many things in his religion I could not understand or beieve in. I think in the last couple of decades the gaps have narrowed. But back then it was a real deal breaker! And for my parents a heartbreaker. Once divorced I went back to my own church and I'll never change religions for anyone again.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 08
Its good to be sure of what you want and what you believe in.
I'm sorry you got divorced, but you found out some important things about yourself and your beliefs and I think that's a good thing. Know thyself.
@reene0225 (351)
• United States
16 May 08
I've always dated guys that are either have a cultural difference or religion. My current boyfriend is Catholic. I grew up Baptist. We have some differences but his mom is Southern Baptist and his dad is Catholic. My ex is Muslim and he's Albanian. There really wasn't that much cultural difference since he grew up in the US and he didn't really follow his religion. Another one of my ex's is Lutheran. I went to his church with him once and didn't have much difference. I think I've dated one guy that was brought up in the Baptist religion but I'm not sure. He didn't really believe in God though. We didn't have a problem with that either. One thing I have to say is how in the world is yoga satan's work. It just helps you relax and feel better. I used to do yoga and want to start again. My parents know that I like to date guys that are either from another country or just different beliefs all together. It really helps me learn about things.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 08
What a great way to see things. We shouldn't judge a man by the color of his skin but the color of his heart.
I love yoga. I did it through pregnancy and it made it alot easier - I didn't have the usual aches and pain - did get migraines though.
happy poosting.
@risseyprincess (73)
• Philippines
16 May 08
I have nothing against other religion but I think it is ideal to marry someone who have the same religion as me, I am a Christian by the way. My opinion is that you will understand each other really well if you have the same beliefs.
With regards to culture, I have no problem with that :) interracial marriages are very vast these days and if you'll notice, Asian married to other race produces the most good looking babies :)
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 08
That's true, although I have many of the same beliefs and ideals as a Christian, so had he been a Christian, we would have those in common.
I agree about Asian married to another race - my baby is adorable!!!