What and why are we doing to our children

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I didn't know what subject I wanted to post this in Parent or life, I my ramble on and if am do am sorry am just fell great passion on this issue. I am a mother of 3 children 1 girl that will be 20 this Sunday and 2 boys and am guilty as the rest and I know we all have our excuses but what good is that doing them, we are not all as guilty as others but still it is the children that pay not us and did we have to go through this as children am sure some did but not like now..... Ok you ask what am talking about well its that we all have children with people and then can't stand that person anymore its crazy crazy crazy,,,, I divorced my daughter father because he was getting into drugs and partying to much so I left and than compicated her life even more by giving her 2 brothers from a man I barley new and would never dream of marrying him, yes I could set here and attempt to justify it but really I did this to them, If I could do anything to the generation that we are messing up so bad it would be please learn from us... When my daughter was growing up I always told her father it is not about the money it is about you being a father to our daughter and be there for her, well he took me serious but that is ok he and I never went to court not one time even for are divorce he didn't contest it and I never took him to increase child support nor fight about anything and were seperated when she was 5 and we shared numerous christmas together with my husband and whom ever he was with, you see we always made it about her.... I have tried to do the same with my boys father, know the mother of my husband children is a different story she lives to take him back and forth to court she doesn't believe he should have any life,,,, getting on with my thoughts I have been working on this all day on and off I only hope and pray that the next generation really learns and stop hurting the children, when I was little I would go to sleep and guess what when I woke up my father and mother was there yes sometimes they would fight but it was not life ending, and if you leave the person you have kids with stay alone until they are grown you can date but don't get them involved, yes I did and got remarried and he is a good man I think out of all the kids involved mine are the luckiest because they have me their father and a stepdad but if we knew then what we know now we would have never got married nor serious with one another,,, I hope my opion doesn't offend anyone but I have been through this and I know what it is doing to the kids. Please put them first always .