Have you ever went through your spouse/gf/bf cell phone? Why?What did you find?
By jessieBee
@jessieBee (1046)
Trinidad And Tobago
May 16, 2008 7:31am CST
Have you ever went through your bf/gf or husband/wife cell phone?(1) Have they ever saw you doing it?(2)Did they tell you anything about it weather positive or negative?(3) By the way why did you do it?(4) Did you find anything or read that you were not suppose too? (5) Did you do it out of mistrust in the person?(6)What were you really up to if anything?(7) They ever told you need to stop minding my business? (8) Did you ever find something disturbing And called that person number? Well i go through my bf cell all the time and he's cool about it. To be honest i don't believe he has anything to hide. He's never went through my phone,no.
But my friend she's 8 months pregnant & oo..ps, who told her pick up her mans cell. She saw text messages she wasn't to see. Some of the messages read: "hotel 9pm don't be late got lots of treats for you"! & "s*x was great last night you need to do that thing with your tongue again". Well you can guess what happened next.... She asked him and he lied about it! Can you believe that. Well as we speak she's at my house right now, the poor girls torn up about it. Let us know some of your experiences.
16 responses
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
16 May 08
Well I do look at my bf's cellphone for the fun of it. He knows and doesn't care much. His recent calls are all my number lol. On top of that we meet everyday and he is devoted to me :P
As for your friend, I am sorry to hear that her man is not taking responsability. The messages she read looks pretty much obvious. I think it is time for her to have a serious talk or think carefully on staying with that man. She must know him better than anybody else out here. So would you believe him that he would change? He didn't tell anything about his messages to his gf and he lied on top of that. But if he could change and become a better man who will take care of the mother of his child, it would be very good. But if he doesn't change, she should walk away and find someone else...or endure this if she decides to keep on.
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@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 May 08
Well she wants things to work out because she does not believe in single parenting. She never wanted to be a single parent. She believes strongly that he can change if he want too. She loves him and does not want to lose him. But i think she should take some time to clear her mind because right now she's full of emotions.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
16 May 08
There are couples who share cell phones and E-mail addresses. I often ask my husband to check something in my E-mail and I know the password to his.
As for the cell phones, we often use the others phone. Neither of us texts - well I text my mom pictures. I've looked through his phone list - I have my own phone numbers on his phone - we used to share his when I was waiting for a replacement for mine. I can't imagine him doing anything like that-I suppose who could...
Still he gets off of work at 11:30 and gets home from base soon after. Then he gets right on the computer - World of Warcraft. He's either at work or on the computer.
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@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 May 08
It sounds like you and your husband have a great relationship. Most couples only pray for so much.By the way how long have you been married if you don't mine me asking?
@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
19 May 08
My fiance and I are always arguing about this.
He used to go through my ohione all the time and question me about my messages and who had rang me and who I had called. I told him that I felt he didn't trust me and it bothered me so we agreed to not look in each other's phones. I admit I never look at his phone, but when he's around I"ll go to pick it up just out of curiosity because we have many of the same friends and I want to see what everyone's up to. Whenever I go to look at it he runs and grabs it off me and I get in trouble for going through it. I trust him but sometimes I wonder why he's so protective of his phone.
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@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
19 May 08
It's sounds like at times you two are insecure. But i believe with some more work you can move past the phone issue.
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
17 May 08
I've never ever gone through my wife's cellphone messages, or even her emails and letters she received, the latter unless she asked me to open them. Neither has she checked my cellphone, email and letters. We trust each other very much, and have absolutely no reason to doubt each other. Trust is a cornerstone and pillar of our strong relationship. It is something we uphold and preserve, and that goes a long way. Anyway, when we live our lives, and interact and observe each other everyday, we can know if we are really true to each other. I'd say none of us will want to betray that trust we have for each other, and jeopardize our relationship.
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@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
17 May 08
Yes when you break that trust the relationship can be jeopardized. Keep up the good work in your relationship, never give her a reason to not trust you.
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
17 May 08
Hi dear
sure i saw messages of my wife cell phone and respond her phone when she is not arround, but she know it and she read my messages
we dont have to hide anything as we trust each other and every relation is based on trust, i never sneak in her bag as its ladies thing, and other thing, she is house wife and stay home mon
really sorry to hear about ur friend , it may happened as she is 8 month preggy and he might not be able to control his drive. hope things will be fine between them
bye
@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
19 May 08
sorry i get a little emotional about these things at times. After all she's my friend and i didn't like what was done to her.
@snowy22315 (182365)
• United States
16 May 08
I loooked at my hubby's cell. I'm not worried about what I would find there. He's not exactly a prize catch if you know what I mean. If I did find something I'd say you can have him, and be sure to take his dirty underwear with you. I know i'm being mean,but that's the way I feel.
@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
17 May 08
It sounds like you guys are having some relationship problems, i hope you work it out. Just a guess judging from you comment.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
18 May 08
I try not to check my spouse's cellphone because I really dont want to have mind boggling imaginations of who rang her and whose missed call hit her or who she called or who sent her an sms! This will ruin your day-let sleeping dogs lie!
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
16 May 08
oh my God!! she saw that message??? the girl wants to break them up... guys will not admit they cheat..those who admit are like stupid or just wanted to have the relationship they have with you ended.
anyway... regarding your question, i open his cell before, my ex bf and that is with his consent, i know email passwords too...
i think if you know there is nothing they hide. which makes it cool right... of course, you never know if they have other accounts. hehe
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@souless_tragedy (259)
• Canada
16 May 08
I'm happy to say that i've never succumbed to the temptation to go through a friend/bf/lovers cell phone. I really think trust is important in a relationship and if you don't trust the person - you shouldn't be with them. It's just asking for trouble to go through someones cell phone.
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@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 May 08
I agree trust is important. Without it nothing can last for long.
@NICKY_FERDIE (147)
• Philippines
16 May 08
It's become my habit to check my fiance's phone all the time. There was this one time when I read some message that I didn't like from some girl that he became close to before. She assumed my fiance intended on courting her even after almost a year of not seeing each other. BTW, they met way before I met my fiance. Anyway, to make it short I hated her coz she was trying to get my fiance back. What I did? Well, I confronted my fiance since the girl was in some other part of the country (thank god!) and told him all I knew about them. I am a very possessive person, I protect what's mine and my fiance got that clearly into his head. But he explained to me that he never courted her and doesn't have any feelings for her now. I even talked to the girl on the phone and told her I'm the wife of the man she's trying to get back and that placed her where she should be and shut her up!
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@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 May 08
Good for you girl, it's always best you let him know how you feel. And I think you took the best decision in letting that bit*h know he's your property.
@cautionhot01 (418)
• Philippines
16 May 08
I went through all of that when I was still with my ex bf. I saw a text message from his best friend that was a girl saying that they'll meet up in a mall. I did not tell him I saw the text message and I did not bother to question him. However, months after he dumped me for his so called "best friend". It's been 8 months since and I have a new boyfriend but I can still remember the pain and I'm still kind of bitter to him
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@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 May 08
ouch! That bits, I have a concept that men an women can't be that good of friends, especially when that person has someone else. I don't like my bf being to close to a girl, i automatically start hating/disliking her. I hope in the feature you are be more vigilant to those things.
@mamuzo (225)
• South Africa
16 May 08
Well, it never crosses my mind to go through my man's phone for any reason. He has not given me any reason to mistrust him or doubt him.
I know most of the time women or men tend to go through the other persons clothes, cell phone or even diary because they think they can find some answers to why he/she is acting the way they are at that specific time.
I once deleted his ex's number from his phone as he was the one that told me it was over between them, I just wanted to make sure that the slate was really clean somehow.
@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 May 08
well it's good to know you have that level of trust. And deleting that number was the best thing to do.
@anners_18 (10)
• Philippines
17 May 08
Well for me getting through my BF celphone is not a big deal. If he let me do it it will be fine but if not its ok also. Anyway celphone is a private property of an individual. and we should give everyone respect and ask permissin on using he celphone of one another.
In my case my BF always tell me the important message that he had received. And I do have trust in him so why should I have to get through with his CP secretly.
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@Barkhagirl (1)
•
11 Sep 08
There is never a good reason to go through your partner's phone. Even if you find something, and tell them about it, their greviance trumps yours anyplace, because now, you've taken that secure feeling they had in you and totally destroyed it. IF they were cheating, then it was on its way out anyhow, but if they weren't, and all you found were messages to their bff nagging on you? They will NEVER trust you again. And now, they may start thinking of something to warrant your baseless mistrust... You open Pandora's box, you deal.
@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
26 Sep 08
Thank you for your comment, all that you have stated is quit true. but i do believe in life people do things for different reasons. no matter what the out come choices are ment to be made.
@maquisa (316)
• Philippines
18 May 08
that really s*cks..i never used to do it with my X bf coz i really trust him very much and i think its really awkward to do it because it his personal use...but then i still believe in girl instinct, when his sleeping i get his cp and read every message that he recieve and sents and bingo instinct really is true his cheating on me a girl whose so much b*tch an encoder hahaha...i feel sad 5 yrs in a relationship full of trust hahahha...
@v1ctr0 (82)
• Belgium
16 May 08
Lol i never did something like that before. But what i have heard before was that someone bought another person's phone with the card still in it and the buyer received messages from the seller's girlfriend concerning their "adventures" and making the two-backed-beast again. 0.0
