I'm having my first baby

Firstly congratulations! When our first child was born I remember my partner telling me it was a girl because I wanted him to be the one to tell me, what he said was "oh my god she is beautiful" after that it was a bit crazy and sad because she was really ill and rushed to NICU where she spent a few days before going home, my man was so supportive and he hardly slept but he was just there for me completly! Our second child I remember him saying "that was so quick" and then he gave me a big kiss and a cuddle cos again our second wasnt breathing, he really was amazing what ever you do when your child is born will be right as long as your there thats the important thing but when she is in labour ASK before rubbing her back cos I know im not alone in this lol the rubbing so did not help infact it made me want to hit him (yes I said sorry after) yet with our second it really helped!

I can't give you any advice since I don't have a baby yet but I want to congratulate you on your first baby!!! I hope that the baby will be healthy and your wife will be fine after she deliver the baby!

Oh you sound so excited!!..and so you should be!!its an amazing time for you both.I remember when i gave birth very well...hubby was peeking down at the bottom end!!he was beside himself with excitement,and then when baby appeared he was just overcome with emotion...but a truly lovly time

My hubby cryed and watched over the baby like a halk when they wher cleaning him i have 2 a boy and a girl dont think about it too much what ever happens happens u cant plan things like that just be ready to hear your wife scream and cry while giving birth and get all the sleep u can now trust me babys wake up every 2 to 4 hours so good luck and congrats

congratulations on your first baby, by the way, do you already have a name for her/him?

i didnt have any idea what comes in to my mind to see your post again and saw negative comments from others. see, some people are so mean and say negative words to hurt others, they are loosers and they are not happy and contented what they have in life. the most important is you are happy togethet with your wife and child and just think that you are not in heaven yet to meet many nice people lol, let them talk,type hurting words coz i we know that inside of them are full of shiiitz and hatred while typing infront of their computer. Life is good, Cheers and celebrate....again Congrats!

Congratulations on your new baby. It will be very exciting I suspect. I've never had a kid yet so I'm not sure what it's like. It must be interesting. Have a wonderful day. Pablo

First of all, congratulations! Secondly, I've never been on that side of the hospital bed lol but I don't think those first moments are anything you can plan out ahead of time. I think the mother should have the honor of holding the baby first if she feels up to it but if not then I think it would be good for you to. As for what you say and how you feel, it will all happen when the moment comes. Just the fact that you will be there next to her will most likely mean a lot to her. Look where she wants you to look. Most likely the doctor will have things under control "down there" but I'm sure you may be able to take a peak or two. What will be most important, in my opinion, is that you are "up there" with your wife helping her. Just having your hand to hold can give her an incredible amount of support...and pushing does require a lot of physical support as well.

My son seems to think that you are a bit nervous?? My advice is not to worry about it. You will know what to do when the time comes. He also said to tell you to try not to lose your stomach and try to be calm, but just do what you think will be the right thing and you will do fine. You will figure it all out when the time is right.........and if you don't, your wife will tell you!

My husband was at the birth of all our kids and even at the last one he said there was still nothing like it! He thought it was amazing seening them born. He even cut the cord on two of them... When its all happening you will do what feels right without thinking about it. (He doesnt like telling anyone, but he cried at each of them). Congratulations!!! :-)

I would have to ask my husband how this would feel. He has been in the birthing room when I had all three of my kids... Congratulations on the arrival of your new child! Be blessed!

well..congrats..i think you are exited for the baby...i wish you and your family all the best...

wow congrats to both of you, i just could not remember what happen first since when i woke up my mom's carry my child and doesnt want to give to anybody and not even to a midwife hahaha and very excited to hug her very first grandchild, congrats again and whatever name you give to the child defenitely his/shes a precious jewel.

My husband was there for the second and not the first. He swore he would not be in the room, but when it came down to it, he has. He is the tough boy type, doesn't let his gaurd down and he said it was the most amazing thing he's ever seen. He was there holding my hand, running his fingers through my hair, wispering reassurance all 23 hours I was in labor. I would suggest letting the mother hold the baby first, thats important for that initial bond. Def tell her you are proud of her, trust me it will mean the world to her and she will never forget it. Congrads and good luck. Hope life with your new baby is as amazing as I find life with my 2 girls.

Wow! That is really good news. The birth of a child is always a special and blessed event. I can remember when my little kid was born. But, just barely. I had a high risk delivery and we both had fevers due to induction. They had me knocked out for most of it. That's the only way I could deal with the pain. My spouse was there for all of it. There were times when they were doing all kinds of stuff to me, during induction that I did not want him to see my pain. All women are different. Your wife may want you there holding her hand through the whole thing. But, the thing that works great for most women, is the loving smile and the "You're doing great, honey" and "you're almost there." And, also, "You've made me so happy!" Don't forget to kiss her and say, "I love you so much." Trust me! She'll remember everything you say to her. As far as actually looking at the baby coming out. You might want to ask your wife how she feels about that. Lots of women are secretly uncomfortable with a guy seeing that event. And, some guys say after the fact that they wish they had not seen the actual birthing. But, it would be understood if you held her hand and stood close by her head coaching her along. Of course, she may insist otherwise. I hope that I don't sound like I'm meddling. I'm just saying, it's an amazing event and every woman has her own preference. Do what feels right for the both of you. Then you won't go wrong. Best of luck. And, blessings upon you, your wife and your baby for a healthy and safe delivery. Be well!

Yes,My husband changed our baby daughters first diaper.He was very proud and he held her a lot also.

there was something kinda.. odd.. that my husbands father told him he should do when our daughter (his first child) was born. and that was to just simply touch her. before they cut the cord, before they cleaned her up.. while she was fresh and completely new. touch her. be the first skin to skin contact that child ever experiences. my husband listened to his father, and was the first one to lay his hands onto her without sterile gloves covering their skin. it somehow made a very profound difference in him.. my best wishes and congratulations.. youre soon to experience something wonderful. cherish it.

i am so happy for you and your wife i love kids i am a mother to i was sared at frist to hold my son but i got use to holding him i was a single mother have a good night

I don`t have the similar experience because i am still in the college.However,I can feel that you are very excited . Best congrantulations to you and your future babay.Also your wife.

Any plan you devise will be just shattered when he/she comes out. That moment all you'll see is that you'll not understand how much, deep and inconditional you can love someone you've just met. That's the first thing you'll do: fall in love for the rest of your life. Congratulations!!!! It's the best life-changing event!!